It's been 7 weeks since mc but still not af...when to ring the GP?

[GI_Jane]

Bobster - Try not to worry about the exact day. You don't know how long it took for the little guy to burrow in and start growing, so I don't think you can really get it down to the day. You saw a heartbeat, that is HUGE. I know what you mean about jinxing yourself though. I finally started to relax a bit more after 12 weeks and then into the 2nd tri, so hopefully you ease into this as well.

MLM, total crap about AF. Gripe away girl.

I'm having a crap day myself. I did join a July due date thread for ladies that were pregnant after a loss. There's a handful of us that were trucking along and doing good, but now one lady got her cervix checked at her 20 week scan, found out it was incompetent, she is too far dilated for a stitch and is on bedrest at the hospital just waiting to most likely lose her LO. So I'm mad today. It's not fair that some have to try so hard, then to have losses, finally get a pregnancy going her way, then go thru this again. We've been typing in the same group since November, so even tho we are only internet buddies it still feels like a friend. Mad mad mad today. This isn't her first loss in second trimester, so she is done trying after this.

That's my vent, didn't want to vent in my other thread since she has so much going on, but it's not fair and it sucks and I'm tired of this happening to women who'd be great moms.

That's terrible mackjess. There really is no fairness when it comes to TTC and pregnancy.

 

[bobster]

Oh god Mackjess thats awful. I hope to god the bed rest somehow manages to prevent another loss for her. I know how you feel about getting mad at the whole thing. It seems so unjust that some people have no issues and they are terrible parents and the ones who want it so much have so many problems.

Thanks Mackjess for your support it really does help. I'm trying not to worry about the date so much and concentrate on the fact he had a good heartbeat and is not significantly smaller than he should be. How is your LO doing? 10.5 inches long! Wow! Mines only 10mm lol!

 

[mackjess]

I know, my heart is just breaking for her. I'm hoping for good news for her as well. She got in the hospital before she had any cramping or anything. I know bedrest can work wonders, and doctors certainly don't get their prognosis right all the time!! I'm sure her little girl could hang in there and defy the odds, and it's pure hell she has to just lay there and wait and find out.

And you are exactly right about it being unjust. Not that I feel like I should determine who should and shouldn't have kids, but there are so many out there that have NO idea what a blessing they have and aren't very good parents. It's sooooo not fair. Sorry, getting angry again....

I think I might have been a few days under what i thought I'd be at my first measurement, but then at my next scan I was a few days ahead. I have another scan Thursday that I'm excited for. Nervous of course, but not as bad as I usually am. I've tested negative for downs and other chromosome disorders, and I just got the blood work back where they look for nuero stuff like spina bifida etc, and those were negatives. Those 2 tests were big hurdles for me, but of course they like to do the scans to visually verify the structure and organs all look good. I listen to his heartbeat almost every day just for a second (I fell the other day, totally fine didn't land anywhere close to my belly or side) and I can tell he's swimming around. I'm just more in love with him every day and can't wait to feel the warmth of his solid yet soft little body when he gets here. I know some ladies LOVE pregnancy, and I'm totally OK with it, but I'm more about getting to the end game. Maybe the previous loss has something to do with that.

Really sorry again about AF mlm. I agree with Jane that Phez is due for a BFP soon. There's not many ladies in this thread, so if ya'll get one BFP a cycle everybody would be preggers really soon!

 

[mackjess]

Sorry, hope I didn't scare anyone with my IC story. It only happens about 1 out of 100 pregnancies, and usually they can do a stitch which is very successful. I'm getting my cervix checked with my scan on Thursday, but I feel pretty comfortable that it will be OK since it's so rare. I don't tend to read about other things and think they will happen to me unless I've had some symptoms or it is something I am predispositioned for, so I hope I didn't cause any nerves!

 

[mlm115]

Oh that poor woman. That sucks.

I worry a little about that for myself- I had a leep done last year which removes a layer of your cervix. I guess when I do get pregnant they will check my cervix often starting at 16 weeks.

I think when I'm pregnant I will be like you Mackjess- more excited about the end result.

I wish none of us had to worry about this stuff. It makes me mad that my mc took away a lot of the joy of pregnancy and replaced it with worry.

 

[bobster]

I ditto that mlm. I wish I could enjoy it.

I didn't have any nerves from reading you post Mack, just sadness for your friend.

 

[GI_Jane]

Hey ladies,

Just wondering if any of you have gone through a period of not feeling like dtd while TTC?

I don't know if it's because where my cycles are so long, I just feel like 'what's the point' if it is not near my estimated fertile time or if I don't have any signs of o.

Everything else in our relationship is fine and we're not anymore tired than usual.

Have any of you had periods like this?

No referral letter with an appointment yet but then I knew it would take a while.

Otherwise, nothing to report here.

 

[MrsPhez]

Hey ladies,

Just wondering if any of you have gone through a period of not feeling like dtd while TTC?

I don't know if it's because where my cycles are so long, I just feel like 'what's the point' if it is not near my estimated fertile time or if I don't have any signs of o.

Everything else in our relationship is fine and we're not anymore tired than usual.

Have any of you had periods like this?

No referral letter with an appointment yet but then I knew it would take a while.

Otherwise, nothing to report here.

Jane, yes I can definitely empathise with you. DH and I have been together 12 years and sex is not as frequent as in the old days! Luckily we both have lowish sex drives so it doesnt bother us but on the other hand it's more difficult to get it on at the right times as it's a bit obvious! Is your OH OK with laying off for a bit? Sex definitely falls into 2 categories, fun and/or TTC. If you're very lucky it wall fall into both!

 

[MrsPhez]

Sorry, hope I didn't scare anyone with my IC story. It only happens about 1 out of 100 pregnancies, and usually they can do a stitch which is very successful. I'm getting my cervix checked with my scan on Thursday, but I feel pretty comfortable that it will be OK since it's so rare. I don't tend to read about other things and think they will happen to me unless I've had some symptoms or it is something I am predispositioned for, so I hope I didn't cause any nerves!

Sorry to hear about your buddy Mackjess. Nature is cruel sometimes. I hope she comes through OK and the baby survives. Do keep us posted. Btw you haven't scared me in any way, like Bobster, I'm just very sorry for her and her family.

 

[MrsPhez]

Well hellllo AF- the witch showed up at promptly 14dpo as usual. I'm annoyed. I get obvious ewcm around the same time each cycle, positive opks, we dtd at the right time, I have a perfectly normal lp, and I am still not pregnant! What the hell?!?? Ok. Done ranting. Sorry.

Oh mlm, I'm sorry. I know how much you wanted it this month. How many months have you been trying now?

 

[MrsPhez]

Thanks guys. Relaxing a tiny bit although he measured baby at only 7+1 which means it must have been from dtd 4 days (not 3 as previously said) before. I'm just hoping OH has good sperm that hung around for a while and its not just growing too slowly. He said it can be out by a few days though.

MLM what a bitch that witch is. Are you doing the deed after you think you've ovulated too? Did you do smep? It is strange because your cycles are textbook perfect and you seem to be dtd plenty. Remember though you only get a 20% chance each cycle even if you do everything right so you should do it within 5 cycles. Its just trying to be patient isn't it which is hard. Maybe try a more relaxed approach with the bd'ing and just do it as much as possible but not to a specific plan instead? Do you get plenty of ewcm?

Jane yes will wait now for nhs scan. Need to still book in with mw but still feeling reluctant to do it as its still early days and don't wanna jinx it. When do you go to the clinic? Hope you cycle shortens a bit this month.

MrsPhez keep us posted on the testing. By the law of averages one of you should have a bfp coming up soon! Do you think you may have o'd from the other side to the cyst? What are they doing about your follow up? will they rescan you at some point?

Will add my dpo symptoms in next post..

Of course I will def keep you posted! I don't know, all my signs point to ovulation including my higher than normal temps (finally in the 98s) they didn't see any follies at the scan but I didn't o till 5 days later in the end. Is that enough time to ripen a follicle, I don't know....
Waiting for gyn now, could be a month or so...

 

[MrsPhez]

Helloooo, back in the BnB room. 7 DPO, have had a sore throat sporadically and a bit of thrush (bleugh). Temps looking good, had a dip today but my sleep has been nothing short of erratic as our boy has just moved into his big bed and gt me up at 3and 5.40am one night. Got a bit of crampiung (?cyst). So when to test? I'm thinking Saturday (10dpo).
Had my day 21s done today, and it was 7 dpo so good timing. Get results Friday...

 

[bobster]

Oh yay! Lets hope they show very high progesterone to show you've ovulated. Perfect timing

I think 10dpo sounds like a good time to test. Cramping is a good sign too. Maybe even wait until 11dpo if you can. I know its hard but it will save disappointment (i'm feeling very hypocritical as i'm typing this! If only we could take our own advice hehe).

Any other symptoms?

 

[mackjess]

I had the thrush and sore throat too. FX for you!!

 

[bobster]

Hey ladies,

Just wondering if any of you have gone through a period of not feeling like dtd while TTC?

I don't know if it's because where my cycles are so long, I just feel like 'what's the point' if it is not near my estimated fertile time or if I don't have any signs of o.

Everything else in our relationship is fine and we're not anymore tired than usual.

Have any of you had periods like this?

No referral letter with an appointment yet but then I knew it would take a while.

Otherwise, nothing to report here.

Completely! I went through periods like that all the time. I even found that when I did feel like it and it happened to be around ovulation I wasn't enjoying it at all because I was thinking about things like how to keep the sperm in long enough or which position would be best for ttc. Completely ruins it to the point where you really can't be arsed to even do it anymore.

I always found that around my fertile time I had to force myself to pretend to be horny to get as much bd'ing in as possible.

You are not alone! Best thing to do I think is to try and keep things spiced up. I dressed up for OH last cycle in some lingerie. Things like that can keep it more alive but it is a chore at times

We're on a sex ban now until 12 weeks just in case. Its nice to have a rest although I want it more now the pressures off lol

 

[MrsPhez]

I had the thrush and sore throat too. FX for you!!

Well that's very exciting Mackjess! Feel like I'm coming down with a cold which I got with both other pregnancies before BFP. I'm getting silly here and talking myself into one! Setting myself up, rein me back in please! Thanks though, positive thinking much appreciated x

 

[mackjess]

I totally had a cold with my BFP, so it masked my other symptoms to the point I thought I was out. Maybe we'll hold on to our hats til you get your 21 day bloodwork back.

 

[GI_Jane]

Hey ladies, thanks for your comments re loss of libido. Made me feel much better and good to know I'm not on my own with this. Was starting to worry maybe me and DH weren't attracted to each other anymore. I think it's just a blip and we need to make more of an effort.

Mrs phez I'm hopeful for you. How's your cold feeling?

Bobster, have you got any morning sickness? Your feeling sign says sick...

 

[mackjess]

Jane I think it's def the stress of TTC. The first time I got prego we weren't really trying. I'd quit taking the pill, but it wasn't like I was tracking dates and trying so we were relaxed and it happened. After that it was really hard to have sex. Sometimes because TTC killed my mood, and sometimes the thought of actually getting prego again scared me cause I was so scared of another loss. Once I did get my BFP though, it was on. I attacked poor DH quite a bit, I guess cause all the stress was gone.

 

[MrsPhez]

Hey ladies, thanks for your comments re loss of libido. Made me feel much better and good to know I'm not on my own with this. Was starting to worry maybe me and DH weren't attracted to each other anymore. I think it's just a blip and we need to make more of an effort.

Mrs phez I'm hopeful for you. How's your cold feeling?

Bobster, have you got any morning sickness? Your feeling sign says sick...

Can't believe I'm saying this but unfortunately feel a lot better. Boooo! Will stick it out and see what happens. I managed to rein myself back in!