It's been 7 weeks since mc but still not af...when to ring the GP?

[GI_Jane]

How much longer have you got left at work mackjess? Will you take a whole year off?

You will have to get another pup Mlm to fill your big house while you wait for your bfp. I said to DH I would like a kitten...I think the fact it would have been my due date next month has something to do with it!

I can understand your concerns about not wanting to travel Mlm but if you did I'm sure it would be fine...it would be a fairly short flight though? I'm off to Dubai soon and if I get my bfp this cycle that could be an interesting holiday.

How are you doing bobster- did you check in with the midwife? Can only be 4 weeks until your 12 week appointment? The weeks feel like they are flying by (for me).

 

[mackjess]

oh my, I wish I could take a year off! But, I make as much as DH and if I get the promotion I'm applying for later this month I'll make more so we can't afford that! His dream is for me to keep on making more and be a stay at home dad. Apparently he believes it entails a lot of golfing.

I hope to work pretty close to the due date. Luckily I can work from home, and they may let me go part time and work from home the month or so before, and I'll be on 12 weeks of leave after. I kind of stumbled upon an at home daycare lady. She worked in daycare facility for 10+ years and worked up to administrative level, but decided to stay home since her older kids were in soccer and band, etc and she just had another little one. She is wanting to watch one more baby for a little extra income. They go to the church I used to go to before we moved, and just the way she talked she seems exactly the way I would be if I had one at home and wanted to watch one more baby. So hopefully that works out. They even have irish names and the kids have irish names!! Just like us.

Mlm - How exciting. I'm sure you will be filling that house up soon. Every time you and Jane talk it seems like your bodies are more on track and I believe with all my heart you are so close to your BFPs.

We need to move to a bigger house. But I went to school later in life so we are waiting til we get some of that paid off. I told DH we had til this one was walking. The house market isn't great for selling anyway, but is getting a little better so waiting a year may not be a bad thing to put ours up for sale.


Jane, I'd love to go to Dubai. Flights are just so long and so expensive though!! I don't think I'll ever make it there. It looks so amazing though. Have a blast. And I love pets so a kitten seems like a lovely idea. They have such different personalities and are so funny! Luckily I am not allergic to dogs, but I am to cats.

 

[mlm115]

Mack, your post about your DH made me laugh. My hubby always says I'm a promotion or two away from him quitting and working on joining the PGA. Ha, like that would ever happen. What is it with men and golf? That is awesome about your day care lady. Sounds perfect.

Jane, I like your idea of another puppy! I wonder if DH will go for that, hmmm. You should totally get a kitten.

I think we will try this month. Prob not smep, but something similar. What the hell, if I'm sick from pregnancy while on vacation I would be thrilled at this point.

 

[mackjess]

I like golf too, I just think it's hilarious he believes being a stay at home parent is such a breeze. Dork. We used to work at the same telecommunications comp, and I made more than him just because I'd been there a few years longer. He always called me his sugar momma, and said he was gonna stay home to take care of the dogs. LOL. I actually took a huge paycut to get a federal job about 5 years ago since it was more secure. We seriously had letters about layoffs at least once a year, sometimes 3 times a year, at the t-comm company. It's been a struggle for us so it will be nice to get back to where we were before we got hitched.

 

[mlm115]

I would like to see him try to golf while taking care of a screaming baby, ha. I like working, but wouldn't mind trying the stay at home mom thing. That won't happen though unless money really does start growing on trees. Or we win the lottery. So it's pretty likely : )

 

[bobster]

Hi ladies. How are you all doing?

Not much news here. Made my booking in appointment today so thats next wednesday. Counting down until 12 weeks now. 4 weeks to go..

The weathers been mad in York today, sunshine, rain, hailstones. I want summer now please! Hope you are all ok anyway

 

[mlm115]

Wow Bobster, can believe you're over 8 weeks! Woo hoo!

Right now I'm feeling much less intense about getting a bfp this cycle. We're definitely going with a ntnp approach and focusing more on bringing the fun back into our sex life instead of focusing on making a baby. I'm sure I will try to dtd when I get ewcm, but that's all the extra effort I plan on making. If it happens great, if not, we will try again after our vacation.

 

[bobster]

Good way of doing it mlm. If its meant to be it will be. And im sure enjoying sex and being more relaxed helps.

 

[mackjess]

Mlm, that sounds nice. And surely a nice relaxed approach to your soon to be BFP!

I wish I enjoyed sex again. Hopefully I will soon. I think I'm just too tired, and I feel sooooo unattractive now that the bump showed up. I don't want to mess up the intimate part of our relationship though.

 

[GI_Jane]

Hey ladies,

Great to hear you are progressing well bobster, so exciting

Sex is really feeling like a chore at the moment. We've only done it twice while I've had the Ewcm recently and I'm not sure it's enough. To have a shorter cycle this time will still make me happy even if I don't get a bfp.

Good going Mlm, I need to take a leaf out of your book and NTNP.

Fingers crossed for us both and mrs phez too.

 

[MrsPhez]

Hey ladies,

Great to hear you are progressing well bobster, so exciting

Sex is really feeling like a chore at the moment. We've only done it twice while I've had the Ewcm recently and I'm not sure it's enough. To have a shorter cycle this time will still make me happy even if I don't get a bfp.

Good going Mlm, I need to take a leaf out of your book and NTNP.

Fingers crossed for us both and mrs phez too.

Hello! Just saw my name so thoguth I'd quick post. Not really been thinking about TTC and feel good, even though I had a 10 day LP last month. You can see from my chart I havnt been temping and I'm tempted not to this month and just go by CM and OPKs to minimise stress. Been healthy eating and walking a lot. Still waiting on gyn letter re mahoosive cyst.
Sex, so overrated isnt it?! Gimme a bar of chocolate any day!

 

[bobster]

Lol!

 

[GI_Jane]

Hey ladies,

Great to hear you are progressing well bobster, so exciting

Sex is really feeling like a chore at the moment. We've only done it twice while I've had the Ewcm recently and I'm not sure it's enough. To have a shorter cycle this time will still make me happy even if I don't get a bfp.

Good going Mlm, I need to take a leaf out of your book and NTNP.

Fingers crossed for us both and mrs phez too.

Hello! Just saw my name so thoguth I'd quick post. Not really been thinking about TTC and feel good, even though I had a 10 day LP last month. You can see from my chart I havnt been temping and I'm tempted not to this month and just go by CM and OPKs to minimise stress. Been healthy eating and walking a lot. Still waiting on gyn letter re mahoosive cyst.
Sex, so overrated isnt it?! Gimme a bar of chocolate any day!

Lol mrs phez... Pleased you are doing well.

Looks like my TTC will be on hold for a couple of months as DH will be away on business from end of march....oh well, maybe the distance will make our sex drives a bit stronger for when he does get back.

Have you told your parents bobster? Will oh go with you on Wednesday?

 

[bobster]

Hi Jane sorry to hear that. Will you still get the clomid though ready to start when he gets back? I think you're right, distance can certainly make you take each other less for granted. Me and my other half lived away from each other for a year (me in Essex and him in York) and we had such fun when got together again. Sex was exciting as we made more of an effort. I'm sure it will be the same for you even though its only a few months.

Yes told my parents a couple of days ago. I was worried it was too early but its done now and I would tell them anyway if beans not ok. telling his parents on sunday. He can't make it on wednesday so will be going alone but I don't mind that.

 

[GI_Jane]

Thanks bobster.

I just got my appointment through in the post this morning- 24th April. Dh won't be here but I will still go and get the clomid (if they agree with the GP and think I need it). The only thing is if this cycle is much shorter- which I think it may be they prob won't give it to me. Anyway, I will still go and see what they think. Think I'm in the 2ww, got gentle af like cramps so think I'm out.

I would tell my parents early on also, we are close and I would want their support should the worst happen. I wouldn't tell my in-laws as early as we did last time (they were not very helpful when we had the mc before- I got a speech about how she 'could' of lost one but that is a world away from actually having a loss in my book) but then it's not fair if my folks know and they don't. Anyway, not something I need to worry about.

Hope all goes well for Wednesday

 

[bobster]

Oh it does sound like you're in the 2ww! I hope you are. I had gentle mild af type cramps srounf ovulation and afterwards and still have them to this day. I hope this is a good sign for you! Did you bd around your ewcm much?

If you're in the 2ww you may not be due af by the 24th so you could just not mention the ewcm you had as you don't know for definite do you. Do you know when af is due roughly?

Yes I know what you mean. I feel we have to tell them as its not fair now we've told my side. But then i'm sure another few weeks wouldn't hurt. Your mother-in-law sounds a delight! I am sure she didn't mean to upset you but I would have felt offended too if she started rattling on about her own 'near loss'.

I'm not too worried about wednesday- it will be the scan that worries me. All ready have that churning anxiety in my stomach thinking about the scan.

Anyway keep us updated about your 2ww

 

[mlm115]

Happy St Patricks Day! I got my smiley face opk today. DH and I very much enjoyed dtd this weekend and probably will the next day or two again. I'm Irish, so hoping that I got lucky today and this is our month!

 

[bobster]

Yay! Sounds like your timing is perfect! I hope its your turn this month. By the law of averages it should be coming up very soon

Did you celebrate paddys day with some Guinness? My OH loves the stuff, its his new drink of choice. Not so keen myself. Are your parents both Irish? How comes your family moved all the way to America?

 

[mlm115]

I'm Irish from many generations ago - Not technically "real" Irish haha. I'm not a fan of Guiness myself, much too heavy.

Thanks Bobster, I'm thinking if its not me this time it will be Phez or Jane. Speaking of, how are you ladies doing?

How are you feeling Bobster? Do you have the bloated feeling? Morning sickness? We're OHs parents excited about your news?

 

[bobster]

Yes how's the 2ww Jane, where abouts are u in it? And have u had follow up for your cyst yet phez? I'm ok a bit bloated and nauseous but nothing too bad. So exciting I just have a feeling a bfp is coming up soon!