I've created a monster

[Courtcourt]

Would he sleep if you swaddled him tightly? Or- odd question- does he like lights and warmth? Cadence is fascinated by lights, anytime I need her to put a cork in it, I can take her to the bathroom or kitchen and she loves it (lights are brightest)

Instead of letting him cry, would it work for you to hold him and soothe him ,then put him down for 1-2 minutes and start stretching that out? Maybe you could shower by next week!! (it worked for us, she is in it now and I am baby free!) Cadence isn't always good baby. She has her moments like your son where she is glued to me at moments where I need a break! On these days I can usually at least put her down for 5 minutes at a time in her rocker. (By the way, look up "rock n play sleeper", they are AWESOME!! Very small, mobile contraption thats a rocker/ cradle combo. It moves/rolls around easily and is small enough to take in any room)

 

[maddog37]

It's ok to cry. Keep taking your prenatal vitamins if you still have some left. It'll help. The blood loss isn't helping you any and if you are having low iron and some vitamins, it'll make things worse.

2 more weeks and you should start to feel a bit better. But if you need to, please call your doctor for support if you're worried about ppd. You're past the so-called "baby blues" period so if things seem unmanageable, it might be that. Either way, it's okay if it is or not.

And it's ok to let your baby cry for 5 minutes. I know it seems like an eternity but if your child is fed, burped, changed, warm and safe, you can let him cry for a few minutes if it means you step back and sort your head out so you can think clearer as to what to do next with your baby.

 

[Aberrance]

Hes still young hun... He'l soon grow out of wanting to be held all the time.
Your wee boys only known you for the last 9 months... Everything else is bewildering.
Like d previous poster i also only showered, cooked when hubby got bak from work.
x x

Problem is DH works easily 14-16 hours a day, and I am having a period that is like the eruption of mount vesuvius. I NEED to wash. And I can't. I am going to go insane like this. I get that he needs me and i have made a choice, and all that but today in particular, i am regretting my choice to carry him all the time. I am desperate to wash the blood off my legs with more than a washcloth or baby wipe.

Maybe this thread is just me bitching, but I am losing it here today. Baby slept all of 12 minutes last night. he is restless today and kicking me constantly, but won't let me do anything but hold him so he can kick me. I am bleeding like a stuck pig and can't give myself a decent cleaning because one arm is constantly having to pat him on the back.

I need a break before i start bawling.

Oh man, have I been there! So horrible... I got a Bumbo and sat my LO in the bathroom with me so I could bathe. She bitched a bit, but it was to the point that I felt like my patience wasnt what it should be to be a good, loving mommy.. So I had to take care of myself so that I could take care of my LO. God, do I feel for you.

I also have a bouncer that lights up and plays music, and a mobile. As long as I know she's strapped in and safe (or in her crib with blankets rolled up and wedged on either side of her, so she cant roll over when I'm not watching), I just have to let her cry, just so I can go pee! I do encourage her independence, but at 4 months... I cant expect it.

 

[dreamwarrior]

lots of toys. and baby einstein dvd's. from 6 mo on our LO was playing by herself. ...at least for 15-30 mins. and the einstein dvd's last 20+ mins each. i was worried they would do damage as she was watching for 1-2 hours a day but now she's 9mo's and so bored of them she only occasionally glances at the screen and instead likes to listen to the music while she plays with toys. your baby needs time for himself. otherwise he'll end up like my neice who's 16 months and cries when her mom is more than 1ft away from her. if you can, give him to your husband or parents to wear as much as possible.

 

[aliss]

lots of toys. and baby einstein dvd's. from 6 mo on our LO was playing by herself. ...at least for 15-30 mins. and the einstein dvd's last 20+ mins each. i was worried they would do damage as she was watching for 1-2 hours a day but now she's 9mo's and so bored of them she only occasionally glances at the screen and instead likes to listen to the music while she plays with toys. your baby needs time for himself. otherwise he'll end up like my neice who's 16 months and cries when her mom is more than 1ft away from her. if you can, give him to your husband or parents to wear as much as possible.

Hmm... that is completely normal behaviour at 16 months though? A 9 month old will sit and play with a toy but don't be surprised when she's 16 months and acts the same as your niece! And her baby is far too young to be occupied by toys or TV's.

 

[Aunty E]

lots of toys. and baby einstein dvd's. from 6 mo on our LO was playing by herself. ...at least for 15-30 mins. and the einstein dvd's last 20+ mins each. i was worried they would do damage as she was watching for 1-2 hours a day but now she's 9mo's and so bored of them she only occasionally glances at the screen and instead likes to listen to the music while she plays with toys. your baby needs time for himself. otherwise he'll end up like my neice who's 16 months and cries when her mom is more than 1ft away from her. if you can, give him to your husband or parents to wear as much as possible.

Hmm... that is completely normal behaviour at 16 months though? A 9 month old will sit and play with a toy but don't be surprised when she's 16 months and acts the same as your niece! And her baby is far too young to be occupied by toys or TV's.

I'm not sure her baby needs time to itself, but certainly my 16 month old didn't cry if I was more than a foot away from her You'd be surprised how occupied he could be by a light show of some kind. Teddy would turn his head towards the tv long before he could focus on it, and when i had to shower I put him on the bathroom floor on a towel and pulled faces at him.

 

[georgebaby1]

my lo is the same he as started to have some independant time now but itsstill notr much normally will go about 10 mins, however what i do is put the bouncer in the cbathroom so lo can see me while i shower, he is fine with this as long as he can see me hes happy lol. idea??

 

[Breezy]

My dh was deployed for 6 months so I had no choice but to let him cry so I could shower or pee occasionally.

 

[Braven05]

Aww I bring Avery into the bathroom and put her in her bouncy seat next to the tub...she does cry some of the time...I talk to her and just deal with the crying so I can wash. I'm sure it'll pass!

 

[bellablue]

Can you take him in the shower with you? My LO was like this for a little while and the only way I could get a shower was if I took him in with me.

I know it's not ideal, but you will at least be able to get washed

at that age i did this also

 

[Brookey]

ok first off you are NOT alone! even though we have all never met each other you can guarantee that you can come on here for support at any time day or night and someone will be around to try and cheer you up, i know its not the same as having your family with you but you should never have to suffer in silence.

Hunny you are doing an amazing job and it shows how much of a brilliant mummy you are because your baby doesnt want to be away from you!

when Leo was about 2 weeks old, up until he was almost 5 weeks i cried every day. sometimes for no reason. everytime Leo cried, i cried. i felt like i was out of my depth and a rubbish mummy. i convinced myself i had depression and really was just having a shit time of it. then one day i just woke up and was a totally different person! i realised that it was just the baby blues, coupled with a few other personal issues.

anyway, im going off on a tangent, what im trying to say is please dont cry and feel sad. go look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are a brilliant mum and that you CAN do it! if you ever want a chat just PM me...i dont always talk this much, honest....x

 

[jessie_m]

I block off the AC vents and put Aubrey in her vibrating chair in the bathroom with me while I shower. If she fusses then I open the shower curtain and tell her 'Mommy's right here" and stuff like that. I just don't feel human unless I take a shower, so I it must be awful for you. Her vibrating chair and her swing have saved my ass so many times. I try to give her cuddles as much as I can, but when I have to take a quiz online for classes, or take a shower, etc. then it's really nice to have those things. Do you have any that you could try? Aubrey likes to be swaddled tight and put in her swing with the nature sounds.

 

[NewMummyx]

It gets better as they get older, I used to have to wait for OH to get in from work to eat/shower etc, now LO lies on the bathmat and watched me in the shower singing to him

 

[jogami]

He is still young, wear him as long as you can! I know it's hard but what I would do is put him in his bouncer or swing chair while I showered (with him able to look through the glass). If you express maybe put a bottle upheld by a towel so he can watch you then when you get out he'll be fine. I used to bath Luca before I showered and fed and rocked him to sleep so that I could catch a quick shower. Do what works for you! Don't worry about him being clingy, he is a newborn. Now my son is still clingy but he has his moments of scooting around, he is avidly crawling and almost walking (stands for a few seconds). I suppose I'm no big help but there are ways around it! If you have a monitor put it on while you shower so you can hear if he wakes up. Luca woke up MANY times and would scream his lungs off but don't fret, he and you will be fine!

Big xxx

 

[MizzDeeDee]

I only take showers when my husband is home to hold James or when he's asleep. And he's 2 months older! He does have some independednt time now, but it's unpredictable how long he'll be happy for and I don't want to risk him screaming.

I do the same.

 

[jogami]

Just read the other replies! I suffer from depression and I cried endlessly. I almost died from fretting of being a stupid human being and rubbish mother! Now I think I'm a natural. Not bragging but eventually your baby will GET you and you will GET him. Give it time.

Oh and I bled non-stop for 3 weeks, not nice but it will go back to normal and you will feel good again, and by that time your baby will start really smiling at you and loving you and nothing else will matter to him more and you'll feel like SUPERMOM! It all takes time, I didn't belive it but it does. One day at a time! PM if you need hun and stay strong, God only knows how many times I'd get frustrated and scream at him then cry cos I was sooo frustrated. Take it in your stride and try to relax - YOU'RE AWESOME AND NEED TO HEAR IT! You'll be a natural soon and nothing will soothe your baby like you do xxx