I've got my anti-witch spray!

[LittleSpy]

I'm insane. Really crappy timing, but I found a job posting for a job I'm VERY qualified for in the exact town I want to live in (3 hours from here)! I applied for it. I'm getting ahead of myself but I'll be surprised if I don't get an interview. Not sure how to handle the pregnancy thing.

I had an interview when I was 15 weeks pregnant with dd. I ended up having a 2nd interview and being told I was one of the top 2 candidates. I chose not to disclose I was pregnant that time. I ended up not getting the job and I'm really glad I didn't say anything about being pregnant because I would have thought that's the reason I didn't get the job, even though it obviously wasn't the reason.

I remember feeling very stuck trying to make that decision. On one hand, I want to be completely honest. On the other hand, I don't want to think that's the reason I didn't get a job. Then I decided I was going to disclose it as soon as I had a written job offer but that would have been so awkward. I guess I need to wait to see if I even get an interview before I spend much more time agonizing over this.

 

[wishnhoping]

Julie!!!! You ARE crazy! Didnt you JUST get this job? And your supervisor went through all kinds of crap to get if for you! LOL stop looking ofr jobs you nut!

 

[wishnhoping]

u/s tomorrow- kinda of nervous kind of excited....

 

[LittleSpy]

Yes, I just started this job in May. And my supervisor got me the maximum salary the State would let her pay me. And she's promising me a promotion. I'm not sure I even want it anymore.

She's being a real b**** to me (and everyone else in this department) and I'm getting really irritated with her. She's so worried about her reputation. I'm really starting not to like her at all. And I know myself and once this starts to happen, it doesn't usually get better. I'll just get more and more annoyed until I'm miserable.

The only reason I even looked at jobs is because I want to move. I hate this city. I don't want Maisie or Deuce growing up in our current neighborhood.

 

[wishnhoping]

Deuce

Yea I know you have been talking about moving for years.....and your neighbors really sound charming lol

I know you will always do whats best for you and your family

 

[LittleSpy]

Oh yes, very charming.

There are so many burglaries and home invasions and gang bs going on all around us all the time. And the whole city is like that; even the really nice million dollar home neighborhoods because they're right next to crackhouses. The culture here makes me so angry. Everyone thinks they're entitled to everything. No one wants to help each other. Stealing and trashing everything to get whatever they want. I guess that's the case for most larger cities in the Southeast.

 

[linz143]

Yikes lilspy, that sounds awful! Definitely go for the job and don't mention the pregnancy either. In fact I'd wait til you are either showing or a month after being hired to tell them just so you can settle in.

Afm - have been super uncomfortable this whole week sitting down. Can only find comfort in standing or laying down. Last night I rolled my exercise ball out of the closet and sat on it only to find that it's the most comfortable thing ever! So today I asked m y boss if I could bring one in to replace my office chair and he was all for it! Can't wait til lunch time so I can go pick one up and be comfortable again!

 

[wishnhoping]

Linz- glad you found something that makes you more comfortable.

I have been super uncomfortable this entire pregnancy, no doubt because of my weight. Sleeping is already hard, and so is walking long distances. Im so mad at my self for not losing weight prior.



On other news...kind of wanted to take a poll. So my Doctor (fertility specialist) has told me to stop taking my progesterone at 8 weeks (which was Monday). I continued to take it because the prescription hasnt run out yet but tomorrow is my last dosage. Do you think I should trust the Doctor and go ahead and stop as they have advised...or ask for a refill and continue taking until 12 weeks? What would you do?

 

[linz143]

I would listen to your doctor and trust what they said. In fact, I don't think you needed the progesterone at all to begin with. Your number was the same as mine at the same dpo and I never took progesterone and well, here I am 1 week away from 3rd tri. I would go ahead and stop it tomorrow and then just be very cautious. If you start spotting, call your doctor right away and let them know. But I think you will be fine without it. I was a little confused that they put you on it to begin with anyway.

 

[LittleSpy]

I agree with Linz. And I'd like to think that your fs knows what's best. Can you ask them if there's any harm in taking it longer?

Welp, my other friend, who has a baby 4 days older than Maisie just got her dating scan and edd today. The were NTNP so she didn't have a clue when she ovulated. She's due 2 days after me on April 13! Makes me feel a little less crazy to have 2 people with babies the same age as Maisie be due within a few days of me. Whenever people find out I'm pregnant they just kind of get this shocked look on their face and then manage some bs response like "Errrmmmm... well, it's good to have them close together..."

 

[linz143]

First off, it's completely rude for other people to say anything about how close or far apart kids are. For instance, if they were 10 years apart but planned, saying something like, wow, was the second one an "oops!"? is ridiculous, too.

My brother and I are 1 yr 9 months apart which means I was conceived right around his 1st birthday. The only time I even think twice about how close kids are in age is when it is 1 year or less just because I personally won't want to be doing this again a couple months after I give birth (doesn't mean I judge the handful of friends I have that do have them less than a year apart though). It never ceases to amaze me the things that come out of people's mouths. Then again, if they can't hide their feelings/judgments/emotions, then you definitely want to keep them around, invite them over for a poker game, and then take them for all they're worth. Just my thoughts.

 

[linz143]

And WTF!! I am STILL an eggplant?!

This really sucks when it gets down to changing fruit only every 4-5 weeks!! Lazy ticker!

 

[LittleSpy]

You're a slightly bigger eggplant, I guess.

And yes, I learned during my first pregnancy that people just can't help themselves. I can't even count the number of times people have asked me if my pregnancy was planned or an oops. How does it even matter? Even if I did have an "oops" pregnancy, I'd be over the shock and thrilled about it by the time I was telling people anyway. It just blows my mind. Never in a million years would I think that was something appropriate to ask a coworker or acquaintance. Now, maybe I'd ask my best friend that but knowing her, she'd be telling me whether it was one way or another anyway. Even my own mother asked me if we were trying for this pregnancy. But she's a total b**** anyway so nothing she says surprises me anymore.

What gets me is that it's always women who have children asking the dumbest most invasive questions.

 

[wishnhoping]

Linz- I didnt even realize you have been an eggplant forever! When do you think it will change?!

Julie- I am totally guilty of rubbing pregnant women's bellies. Its always people I know (not strangers) and I ask first...but I know how many women hate that...lol I just cant help it!

AFM- Got my u/s today then I will be released to my regular Doctor who I have an appt with on Monday. Ive been having dreams of a girl so now Im even more convinced its a girl. Im scared shitless...haha omg what am I going to do with a girl? Shes gonna be a big tomboy.

 

[LittleSpy]

Cris -- I'm sure you remember how worried I was about having a girl! And now I want another! They're all the same, really. As of right now, Maisie's favorite toys seem to be her toy cars and her favorite color seems to be dark blue. It doesn't have to be all pink and princess crap. I'm so excited about your ultrasound!

My MS is so much worse this time around. Yuck! I can hardly stomach anything right now. Almost had to pull over on the interstate to puke this morning when I took a bite of turkey sausage. I don't think I'm going to be able to eat sausage again in the forseeable future. My husband is going to be so sad. And then I walked into work and was overwhelmed with the smell of coffee and I nearly threw up. Ugh. I love coffee! Well, I guess I used to love coffee.

 

[wishnhoping]

lol yes I def remember you being petrified of having a girl...we are so similar its funny!

Food smells are really getting me too...My dad came into the office and made a frozen dinner I just about hurled everywhere...he learned his lesson when I spent the rest of the afternoon with my shirt pulled up to my nose

 

[LittleSpy]

Hahaha, I've been assuming the shirt-over-nose posture quite a bit at my desk lately. I know my coworkers think I'm crazy (pretty sure they already did) -- I haven't bothered to tell most of them I'm pregnant.

But YAY!!!! My friend is pretty sure one of her employees is quitting (she over heard her talking to another person in our department). She's one of the 2 old b****es that talk crap about me a lot. The other one is planning to retire asap (in February), I think. After they're gone and replaced with good people, it's going to be SO much better here! Assuming I'm still here.

Haha, I have NEVER seen 2 people smiling so much about losing an employee as my friend and our HR Director were this morning. It's really sad, but also really funny.

 

[LittleSpy]

Nats -- I'm worried - where are you?

 

[wishnhoping]

I wrote to Nats on fb earlier this morning too....Im worried too

 

[wishnhoping]

My son is so awesome, hes moving to the next room at his daycare and before they move him they always spend the week before integrating him. So the 4's room teacher came up to me and totally went on and on about how smart and good he is. In the car ride home I said "Brayden your teacher told me you were being a great listener and that you are very smart. You know that makes mommy so proud when your teachers say that?" In his sweetest proudest voice he said "Thank you mommy"...just the way he said it melted my heart...LOVE HIM!!!