I've had enough... Can they just shut up and let me raise him?

[missjess]

I've really had enough of my in laws. They criticize EVERYTHING I do! My MIL lives 3000 miles away, yet she tries to tell me how I should raise Josh.

I'm not the type of person that let anyone tell me what to do, but I've had enough of her trying to tell me what I should do. I just feel like telling her to shut up once and for all and let me do what I feel is right for him.

She keeps saying he should eat everything, he should learn to finish his plate before dessert, he shouldn't have a dummy, he shouldn't have a lot of toys, he shouldn't get a lot of attention, he should get christened blah blah blah and I could go on all night.

How do you girls cope with people telling you what to do? How do you keep yourself from telling them to shut the f* up?




ps: sorry for the little rant.. lol I've just had enough!!!!!

 

[oOKayOo]

I dont tell them i just say ' mmmm' like they know im not impressed.
Sorry your having that from MIL expecailly that far away!!

 

[xCherylx]

I am lucky my in laws speak a different language so my OH deals with it all lol! Just smile and agree hun and do what the hell u like !

 

[nikky0907]

My moms the same. She also lives in another state but I have seen her the day after Christmas and all she did was b**** about how I raise Lola,she drove me half insane...
All she did was question why doesn't she go to sleep earlier,why don't I let her cry when she wakes up at night,blah,blah,blah,blah...


In the end I would just be saying 'Ummm,no.' to whatever she advised or completely ignored. The best thing about it is at the end of the day I waved at her at the airport as she flew away to another state.

 

[glamgirl]

my in laws used to be like this. But im glad not anymore. Since ive moved i`m just minding my own business and living the way i want. i don`t call them anymore just sometime when OH speaks with his parents i say a quick hello.

I think you should try and say when they telling like for instance the dummy thing. Tell them josh likes it and i like to give it to him too. Like try to give your opinion too. Coz it was same with me i wouldnt be able to tell them off but i used to say things like i want to do it this way. etc

Hope all goes well for you soon x

 

[leeanne]

That would be frustrating!

I should be grateful then for my MIL and mom. I never got any criticism from either one.

 

[missjess]

That would be frustrating!

I should be grateful then for my MIL and mom. I never got any criticism from either one.

My mom gives me advices and her opinion, but she has a good way of telling/giving it. I think I also trust my mom a lot more as she is a children development specialist... My MIL though think she knows best and is so arrogant! grrr!

 

[Tilly]

If I get this from my boyfriends mum (his dad stays quite quiet) then I just say, "mm :/" as someone else suggested to say. Or I say, "I don't agree.." and leave it at that.

I don't explain myself to anyone unless I feel they are genuinely trying to help.

 

[luckyme225]

When someone tells me how to do something I always say "well actually " followed by the way I do things/ the way Connor likes. When I'm in a cranky mood I will follow it with I'M HIS MOTHER, I know what's best for him

Sorry your MIL is giving you grief

 

[Tilly]

You sound like me luckyme lol.

 

[luckyme225]

You sound like me luckyme lol.

great minds think alike

 

[mommyof3co]

Ugh I'm sorry, my MIL can be like that too. When she says anything I just say back to her "yeah well, the research is..." and prove she's wrong and she usually shuts it. I would probably email the woman the benefits of them having a paci (reduces sids), tending to them whenever they cry (they learn you will always be there, I'm really big on AP), making a child always finish their plate leads to overeating...just prove her wrong lol. I couldn't deal with it, I hope she gets better!

 

[Alexas Mommy]

I actually tell them that Alexa is my kid and as long as I'm not hurting her (which I would never do) then I can raise her the way I believe is right. I get really angry if someone tells me I am doing something wrong, or should be doing something, and it gets to the point where I am nomore Mrs nice lady lol

 

[1st_baby]

Arghh im telling you im in the same boat, for example since max got sick 6 days ago everyone in my family said its my fault he wasent dressed warm enough , I go out to much with him blha blah blah ..everything I do seems wrong to them ..

I actually told them all to F off and let me raise my son ..from that day one they dont even dare say a word about what im doing