Renaendel - agreed! We are in similar predicaments. I guess it is good with both realize our head and hearts aren't matching....but it is still hard to combine those when becoming a mother and having a baby are so instinctual for many women!
In general, I handle stress and life's curve balls pretty well, but infertility is another beast. I feel like the mother instinct is something beyond comprehension.....so even though I know I shouldn't be upset, I can't control my feeling of being upset. My brain keeps telling me to be rational, and positive, and we have good odds and we love our clinic.....but my heart just wants a baby and wants one now!
You are still on for September, right?
If this IUI fails, our estimated egg retrieval will be June 8....obviously that can change a lot! But we will see.
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Our REI hands out a folder with lots of articles/Q&A type of things.....and one sheet is the recommended number of embryos transferred.
It says:
Most Favorable prognosis: First cycle of IVF; Good quality embryos; excess of sufficient quality to cryoperserve; prior success with IVF
Under age 35; rec 2 embryos but for patients with the most favorable prognosis consideration should be given to only transferring 1 embryo
35-37 With a more favorable prognosis; no more than 2 embryos
All others; no more than 3 embryos
38-40 No more than 4 embryos. Patients with a more favorable prognosis should have only 3 transferred
Over the age 40 No more than 5 embryos should be transferred.
For patients with 2 or more previous failed cycles and those having the least favorable prognosis: additional embryos may be transferred with appropriate counseling
Donor egg cycles and the number of embryos transferred should be based on the age of the donor
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Obviously, these are just GUIDELINES and it all depends on your situation.
But for us, we are considered the "most favorable" since we are young and have no known issues......but my problem is, we are "most favorable"...but we clearly haven't gotten pregnant in 18 cycles! So I have a hard time wanting to put just one back.
I think it will be close to a game time decision, because the amount of eggs retrieved/fertilized will strongly influence that.
DH and I are not interested in doing multiple rounds of IVF, we are paying out of pocket and simply cannot drain our finances completely. We are in agreement that at least one fresh, and hope for enough eggs for one frozen.....maybe two if we are lucky to have that many eggs.
If both of those don't work, we may be able to do one more fresh down the road.....but that would really be pushing it. (again, that decision would be if we still don't know why the IVF isn't working and we think it will succeed).
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I forgot to ask about supplements yesterday ( but will tmw during IUI)......but I have been taking vit d, vit e, coq10, b complex, prenatal, baby asa, and fish oil.
I think I will continue to take them the next 6 weeks (surely it can't hurt anything) and then if they don't recommend them, just stop once I start all my IVF meds. But maybe it will help my egg quality over the next few weeks
I have been taking all of that for at least a month so far. Well prenatals over a year and a half haha.