January JellyBean mummies

[jms895]

My hubby has to go to work tonight forthe first time since kieran arrived. I'm scared to do this alone.

Am sure you are doing a fab job on your own, but I can remember the first time I had Caine alone, I really panicked lol

Hey ladies. here is the link to my facebook pics of my little boy Quinn

https://www.facebook.com/album.php?ai...9&l=d09ae9f92e

Hope it works

i couldnt open the link but i think my computer is playing up

Joe woke up at 3am only last night, and just now for a feed WTG Joe

Yay! I was up every 2 hours last night knackered. Its hit and miss with sleep here at the minute.

Morning all, Jacob is doing well weight loss has tapered off but if we haven't started gaining by sunday we'll have to go on a more regimented feeding plan. He feeds really well I just think he's like his brother and is a small baby and slow gainer.

Had to buy early baby clothes this week as all the newborn stuff was falling off him.

Awww but think of it this way, he will be a baby for longer and I think they are tiny for not very long at all

They scan for residual leftovers Sar. I bled on and off for about 5 weeks last time watch out for any clots bigger than a 50p piece is the advice I got.

Joe must be growing well I dont envisage getting into 0-3 for at least a couple of months. Ive only bought minimal in petite baby and newborn so the washer is going to be going on lots.

Aww bless him xx

 

[lovealittle1]

Jade - are you feeling better today?

Well our first night alone went as good as possible. DH was only gone about 7 hours though. Tonight he will probably be gone at least 12. It is really the bf that I struggle with. We have only been using the football/rugby hold as that is the advice I got to stick to that until my nipples heal buthe problem is I cannot see his bottom latch and if he gets frustrated he starts waving his arms everywhere and hits my boobs which is so painful. DH usually hold his arms down until he is latched. I feel so defeated BFing lately. At 2 weeks surely I should be able to do it on my own

 

[Disneydancr]

Alright, I'm going to whinge a little bit here. Sorry to do this. I don't know if it's baby blues or what, but all of the sudden last night I got totally overwhelmed. I fed Madison, started pumping, and she got fussy, so I finished pumping and then went to change her. She just wouldn't stop fussing. OH was already asleep, but woke up long enough to send suggestions... did you feed her? Did you burp her? is she wet? does she maybe have colic? All those things I already did. I couldn't stand it. I started crying. I felt like if he can sit there and just tell me suggestions, he can get off his ass and do something about it, considering I take care of her all day and night so that he can work and get some sleep. It felt like all he does is get home from work, shower, eat, play with her a bit, and feed her once or twice. I think he's maybe changed 5 of her diapers since she's been born! It's not like I really get a break when he does that, either, because during that time that he's "taking care of her" I'm tending to other household needs like dishes, cooking, and pumping. He gets mad if I go on the computer while he's tending to her- as though I'm inconveniencing him just so I can mess around on facebook or this forum which "now I've had the baby I don't need anymore." I am made to almost feel guilty because I want just a bit of time to myself. Right now, my "me" time is when I get to take a shower. Other than that, I have to be on constant alert for any of their needs. He was "nice" enough to take care of her after I started to cry, but at the same time, he blamed me for overexerting myself and not keeping her up during the day and for not sleeping every time she sleeps. He made himself the martyr for staying up with her, as he's "risking his life up on scaffolding this week, but oh, well... I need my rest, so he can't think about his personal safety because my rest is obviously a bigger deal." I just don't think it's fair! I've been doing so well and feeling so good about myself lately, and the one moment when my mind/ body isn't able to perform to the same standard, it's immediately a big deal. What do you ladies think? Am I over-reacting? Is this just a moment of temporary insanity brought on by baby blues? Am I overexerting myself? Or am I justified feeling this way?

 

[Disneydancr]

Jade - are you feeling better today?

Well our first night alone went as good as possible. DH was only gone about 7 hours though. Tonight he will probably be gone at least 12. It is really the bf that I struggle with. We have only been using the football/rugby hold as that is the advice I got to stick to that until my nipples heal buthe problem is I cannot see his bottom latch and if he gets frustrated he starts waving his arms everywhere and hits my boobs which is so painful. DH usually hold his arms down until he is latched. I feel so defeated BFing lately. At 2 weeks surely I should be able to do it on my own

have you tried swaddling while you feed?

 

[jms895]

Lovealittle one - honestly I cried up to about 5 weeks sometimes with Caine It does get easier honestly, but dont put yourslef under so much pressure hun, and you are doing a fantastic job xxx

I am feeling a lot better today thanks xx

 

[jms895]

Yes i agree, swaddle him xx

 

[jms895]

Regina - totally normal hun. same here xxxx

 

[Fraggles]

Lovealittle I dont like using the rugby hold I could never master it, agree on the swaddling though. Id say it takes until after the 1st growth spurt to feel like you are getting BF.

Disney totally normal, explain to OH you are working 24/7

Well im hurting at the moment I cleaned the pots and just cleaned the downstairs bathroom and thought i'd wet myself but no was a gush of blood. Maybe ive overdone things a bit this evening. Going for a shower and a relax see if the bleeding calms down.

 

[Disneydancr]

thanks fraggles. Don't fret about the blood. You'll probably have certain moments where there's a large clot coming out and when it finally does, all the blood stuck behind it will finally come rushing out. I know that happened to me last week where there was a clot the size of a plum that came out with a waterfall of blood afterward. Luckily I was sitting on the toilet. Bleeding has definitely calmed down though finally!

 

[sar35]

Regina, i know where you are coming from! every time J phoned me today Joe was crying he said 'god its a full time job isnt it' No shit sherlock, except with your job you get to leave it at the end of the day, I have to spell everything out to him.. he say wheres this, what about that, shall i do this, ffs you know all this why are you asking me, he has gone to bed again and left me down here to do the last feed before bed as he said he would get up in the night, yeah some chance!
I said i didnt feel well earlier then he cuts me dead and starts telling me how ill he felt, I think he is feeling a bit jealous and overwelmed by it all, I dont think he realised how time consuming it all is.
Fraggles hope your bleeding calms down, dont overdo it! You are still recovering xx

 

[Disneydancr]

glad to know I'm not the only one... from the sounds of it these last few days, many of you ladies were talking about all the help you were receiving- I felt like I was one of the only ones who felt they were doing it on their own.

To be fair, I know I'm not, but that's just how I felt last night.

 

[sar35]

we werent talking for ages and i spent a week on the sofa, i thought if youre not gonna help me i might aswell be on my own.... he's not that bad its just how i thought. Sleep deprivation is a nasty thing everyone needs to adjust dont they

 

[Disneydancr]

 

[jms895]

Lovealittle I dont like using the rugby hold I could never master it, agree on the swaddling though. Id say it takes until after the 1st growth spurt to feel like you are getting BF.

Disney totally normal, explain to OH you are working 24/7

Well im hurting at the moment I cleaned the pots and just cleaned the downstairs bathroom and thought i'd wet myself but no was a gush of blood. Maybe ive overdone things a bit this evening. Going for a shower and a relax see if the bleeding calms down.

I was having gushes too, especially with the feeding. Touch wood no blood last few days tho just one tiny brown drop take it easy!

I have to do rugby hold on left boob due to flatter nipple its soooo annoying!

 

[jms895]

Sar

I agree I flipped yesterday...... OH didnt know what to do with me

 

[lovealittle1]

Thanks for advice ladies. Will try swaddling again. I am not great at I and as soon as he gets in a mood and his arms are flying everywhere it is near impossible.

Disney hope you feel better soon and you and DH work it out.

Jade - I also have flat nipples which make it extra difficult for BFing. I really thought BFing would be a natural thing. I am still shocked how hard it really is but I am commited

Lotsa to us all. Sounds like most of us are struggling with the sleep deprivation.

 

[blessed]

Ooops! I forgot this thread was started!

Hope all you mama's are doing well! I feel like I'm just now getting in the groove of things... a good feeling! I'm sure it will all change soon because thats what babies do.... lol Just when you think you got it down, they change it up on you!

 

[Mom 2B]

Just testing out my new signature ladies.

 

[Mom 2B]

I think Quinn has started cluster feeding. I wouldn't mind if it was earlier in the evening like when Tessa did it. But ive been feeding him on and off for the last 3.5 hours (10pm-130am) I am sooo tired and my tailbone is killing me from sitting on the couch in that position. I think i might have to get OH to bring the rocking chair downstairs. he wont be impressed with that as our livigroom seems crowded as it is with all the baby stuff. But i can't handle this back pain for much longer and i think a harder seat might help.

 

[Disneydancr]

have you tried a boppy? they seem to help me a lot!