January JellyBean mummies

[hodbert]

Hi everyon!

God its hard with 2 babies

I not dressed in 2 days MIL in hospital, OHs mate and his misses split up its been all go here!

I have totaly lost track of days!

Flippin heck, not just 2 babies but a lot going on too, no wonder you havent got dressed!!! I have worn the same pair of pants for several days now but its the only pair that sits over my incision! Am also in hubbys boxers, which were mega comfy at first but now I cant wait to put my own underwear on again!!!!

I think Joe is trying to smile He is sort of smiling through his eyes itms and is making funny mouth shapes bless him, I dont know if he will reach his milestones later cos he was early or whether I need to count him as a 5 week old or a 3day old???

That is so amazing! I can't wait til Holly starts getting to these milestones!

thankyou ! i will certainly keep an eye out,i ended up taking some ibprofen and feel better ,teaches me for forgetting to take it this morning.maybe TMI but its a bit uncomfortable when i urinate so if its not better by end of week i will for sure be heading to drs,hope you feel 100% asap! x

HTH hun, do keep an eye on it, let us know how you go

Well I keep having MAJOR breakdowns, my poor hubby!!!! I keep verging on the edge of thinking it may be PND, but then I feel ok so not sure. Had major crying fit yday aft as I worry I've not bonded with Holly like I should have. I just don't feel the urge to be with her/holding her 24/7 or want to do every feed or nappy change and I feel like a terrile mum

Then last night she did her usual of not sleeping from 9pm feed until 2am and was then up again at 4am for a feed. I got to 1am and called in the calvary (ie hubby!) as I was breaking down and couldnt handle her crying anymore, so then sat up for an hour again upset feeling like a bad mum. John seems to settle her so much easier than me and I just don't get it, makes me so upset.

I feel a lot better this morning, I think last night at least was down to sleep deprivation. PND is my biggest fear though so I hope so much it isnt that.

 

[Mom 2B]

If you are still thinking it could or might be depression maybe you should mention it to your dr. It could be a very mild case of it where you feel fine one day and not so good the next. Best to get checked out.....maybe even talking to dr might just help. have you mentioned this all to OH? Is he supportive about it? I sure hope you feel better soon. Hugs

 

[jms895]

Sar, is he cooing too? I love the cooing and smiling stage so cute!

My birth story https://www.babyandbump.com/birth-s...xander-james-born-31-12-10-a.html#post8481835

Lisa, dont blame you with the boxers

 

[sar35]

Jade he sort of opens his mouth like there should be some noise coming out but not cooing yet.
Lisa sorry you are having a crap time, it will get better and its good that you are honest and opening up, you must see someone as they can help you whether its PND or not..its good to talk.

Well looks like im jinxed again, and having my first bad night with Joe. He wont settle AT all. im on the sofa.....gonna be a long night

 

[jms895]

 

[hodbert]

OH is fab about everything and hes really the only person I talk to about it as family are so far away I wouldnt want to worry and upset them when theres nothing they can do and they cant even come see me. He's amazing though and keeps telling me I'm putting too much on myself. I've had depression before so know the signs and still think its mainly baby blues, but am going to keep an eye on things. I just dont want to end up on anti depressants yet again!!! *hmpf*

Hope u got some sleep Sarah, Holly seems to be having her awkward crying phase a bit earlier tonight, so who knows, maybe she'll sleep later?! Here's hoping!

 

[Jolene]

Lisa, I hope you feel better soon You must also remember that baby can sense when you're feeling anxious so it's not necessarily that hubby is better with her than you are. He doesn't have all those crazy hormones rushing around his body and can control his emotions when she needs to be settled.

I really overdid things yesterday and am feeling it today It's 9:35 and I'm in bed with the laptop with no desire to even brush my teeth!!!

 

[ama]

i agree with Jolene completely,your not a bad mum,its a lot of changes going on for you at once and those hormones can really bite! i was the exact same with my first born,i cant even really remember the first 12 weeks sadly,i was so sleep deprived and felt a failure,looking back i know i just did my best and thats all you can do ,and one day it does come together and you feel more confident but do speak to your dr or someone close just so they can give you reassurance and check that your feeling okay within yourself should you need it

 

[ama]

oh i should add my family are also over seas (uk) so i cant just go to them when i need an extra hand or what not plus dont want them to worry when something does go wrong because not much they can do ..so i can relate to that

 

[sar35]

I also agree with jolene x
Last night wasnt too bad in the end he woke for a feed at 2am then 5am but didnt settle til about 11 - 11.30 ish, he is in his bouncing chair right now contemplating going to sleep but its possible he may cry! I dont want to get in the habit of picking him up all the time...
Hope you all had a good night sleep x

 

[sar35]

I think im getting my AF! Deep joy, bleeding not really stopped but its getting more period like and also tummy cramps! Urgh!!!
Has anyones appetite changed since giving birth, mine has gone right weird..I dont fancy cereal anymore whereas before I couldnt function/start the day without it, not hungy as much as I was. Fancy different foods that I would never of thought of before

 

[jms895]

I sledpt well and feel good this morning

Alexander is still waking every 3 hours in the night for a feed and I have to physically get up and shift about to get him in the rugby hold due to my nipple flatness

Caine out shopping with daddy so I have some peace this morning,

Think someone just had a nappy explosion

 

[jms895]

Oh no Sar, so soon!

I got my AF at 6 mon ths with Caine it was great!

 

[Jolene]

Every 3 hours is great Jade! Well done!

It was so hot here today, it's 36 deg celcius (about 98F). Mackenzie has just wanted to drink the whole day! It's 19:00 here and it's only starting to cool down now. Apparently tomorrow is going to be the same

Anyone know about nipple shields? I bought the Pigeon brand ones today and they worked really well. I was worried she wouldn't drink from them as she refuses a dummy but she was fine. The only thing was that she drank for so long (over an hour!!!! and then she was still thirsty). I don't know if it was the heat or that the milk came out slower. Anyone know?

 

[hodbert]

Hi girls, thanks for all your replies!

We had a great night last night, down at 11pm, feed at 2am & 6am and then awake at 10am! No doubt that means a bad one tonight though! My mum flies in this afternoon though, so yey!

We've hopefully started slowly weaning her off that bloody dummy too that causes so many problems! I know shes only young, but we've mostly stopped using it through the day now and just use it during her 'witching hours' when she refuses to settle in between feeds and screams.

I think im getting my AF! Deep joy, bleeding not really stopped but its getting more period like and also tummy cramps! Urgh!!!
Has anyones appetite changed since giving birth, mine has gone right weird..I dont fancy cereal anymore whereas before I couldnt function/start the day without it, not hungy as much as I was. Fancy different foods that I would never of thought of before

My appetite is non-existent now and its so weird as I had a massive appetite whilst pregnant! I spose its one way to lose the baby weight! Maybe not the healthiest though! I've also found my thirst levels have rapidly declined - I was drinking at least a pint of water a night and loads through the day, now I'm having a glass or two through the day and only drinking on a night when I take any tabs I need.

Sarah have added link to my siggy now, hope it works!

 

[sar35]

Hi Hodbert the link works yay... I couldnt do the text link thingy though was it easy?
Glad you had a good night, hopefully she is getting herself sorted out.

Jolene sorry i dont know about nipple shields

Joe has sicked up all the feeds without Gaviscon in them bless him... Im gonna get him weighed tomorrow then take him back to Drs. He has his snip for his tongue tie next Thursday so I want it sorted before then. Oh and i dont know if I am getting af as bleeding has stopped again but getting the af feeling in my stomach........who knows!

 

[millward329]

What's AF?

 

[sar35]

What's AF?

Aunt Flo............Period

 

[smiffy85]

Re-done my sig! Hope it works now xx

 

[sar35]

Re-done my sig! Hope it works now xx

yay thanks Smiffy, arent you in labour yet?