January Jellybeans 2013!...

[brieri1]

If we do it one night a week, it feels like an accomplishment to me, lol. Its crazy because back when we were trying to conceive her and before, we had sex everyday, if not a couple times a day. My husband keeps saying how hard the 4 to 6 weeks after she's born is going to be with us not supposed to be doing anything, but I feel like it'll actually be better because instead of having uncomfortable sex once a week, we wait a month and then we can have awesome sex again.

 

[Lilahbear]

Hi everyone, been trying to catch up on everyones posts.

I also feel ready to not be pregnant anymore, but also feel completely unready for it all to happen. I have been really emotional and cry at the drop of the hat. I also have strong nesting feelings, but no energy to carry them out which is so frustrating. I have some energy in the morning, but it is gone by lunchtime and as I am still working the only time I have to do stuff is at the weekends and they just aren't long enough. There is still so much cleaning to do, but we have visitors every weekend until Xmas and although we are keeping on top of the basic cleanliness I feel there are so many other things that need to be done before the baby comes and they just aren't going to get done which is so frustrating.

I think I'm also getting a bit nervous about the baby coming now too. Not so much the labour, but all the stuff afterwards (ie. discomfort, bleeding etc) and how much our lives are going to change. On the other hand I can't wait to meet our baby and am so excited for Friday when we have our 36 weeks scan to see if my low lying placenta has moved and we get to see baby again!

 

[La Mere]

I don't know how I manage it either. (sorry if tmi) spooning and doggy style are the easiest for uz righg now.. I just get too worn out trying to do most other ways. As for after baby is born.. It was less than 3 weeks be for we gave it a go again.. I stopped bleeding about a week, maybe week and half after birth and my midwife said as long as it wasn't painful it was okay and just to take it slow at first. .. It was quite wonderful. Isn't it great how we can talk about anything?

 

[AJThomas]

Mine has rusted over

 

[BlossomJ]

I don't know how I manage it either. (sorry if tmi) spooning and doggy style are the easiest for uz righg now.. I just get too worn out trying to do most other ways. As for after baby is born.. It was less than 3 weeks be for we gave it a go again.. I stopped bleeding about a week, maybe week and half after birth and my midwife said as long as it wasn't painful it was okay and just to take it slow at first. .. It was quite wonderful. Isn't it great how we can talk about anything?

I agree La Mere, it's great being able to be so open with each other.

I'm really hoping for no major tearing this time & then we can get back to it a bit sooner

 

[Kaiecee]

I'm still doing it 2/3 times a day if not dh get too cranky but we find was for it to b comfortable so it's not that bad and most of the time he lets me take a nap cuz he know it takes a lot out of me

For my bday dh is taking me to a chineese buffet I told him we need to stay there for 2 hours cuz if I eat too fast I get too full and I want to enjoy our night out

 

[brieri1]

I'm still doing it 2/3 times a day if not dh get too cranky but we find was for it to b comfortable so it's not that bad and most of the time he lets me take a nap cuz he know it takes a lot out of me

For my bday dh is taking me to a chineese buffet I told him we need to stay there for 2 hours cuz if I eat too fast I get too full and I want to enjoy our night out

You are amazing. I could do it 2/3 times a day way back then, but thinking of doing it that many times now... Wow. I'd be so exhausted and sore. You have one lucky man.

 

[Kaiecee]

Also when baby come he will still get something but it won't be sex and I told him already it's gonna go down to 1/2 times a day till we get a good schedual going cuz in the end he seems more realxed and less cranky when he does get it plus were togeather 24/7 and does a lot for me so I figure ill do that for him

 

[Soniamillie01]

Kaicee, you're amazing! My DH is lucky to get a look in between sleeping, working, eating, nesting etc and I'm sure that wont change when little man arrives. I know he doesn't expect it but I'm sure he'd like it a little more often.

 

[DittyByrd]

I've been on pelvic rest since week 23! I've helped DH out a few times but don't imagine we'd be doing it much with the way I'm feeling these days! However, we do plan on dtd after 37 weeks if for no other reason than to ripen the cervix!

 

[BabyHopeful2]

I've been on pelvic rest since week 23! I've helped DH out a few times but don't imagine we'd be doing it much with the way I'm feeling these days! However, we do plan on dtd after 37 weeks if for no other reason than to ripen the cervix!

I know DH is excited for us to get closer to the end so he can help the process along

 

[DeedeeBeester]

I've helped hubby. That's pretty much all I can say about my sex life LOL I doooo miss the old days though I guess it would be easier for me if I wasn't too attracted to that man hahahaha.

Side Note: I have a cousin I don't really like that much, she is a big time BSer, always pretending like she has more than she really does blah blah blah, well she is pregnant and wrote today: "24 weeks today! Entering my last trimester 3 more months and we'll have our precious baby doll with us can't wait" I had to write a little something hahahahahaha after my congrats of course! Haha, months don't have 28 days! LOL

 

[mellywelly]

Dh still hasn't had any since our bfp, well not with me anyway!

I'm feeling quite sad tonight. It was the last day today that I'd asked people to RSVP for ds birthday party. As he wanted soft play and bowling it was costing a fortune, so I had yo limit him to 11 people. Of those half haven't replied, and of the half that have, they said they can't come. He only has 3 kids coming so far, it that doesn't change with the non replies I'll have to cancel as the minimum no. Allowed is 6. It's his first party and I just feel so sorry for him, maybe its just too near xmas but it's not his fault when his birthday is sorry for long post

 

[Soniamillie01]

I hate that DH has just left for work, I got really upset as haven't really seen him since Monday. I saw him for about 40 mins today then he had to leave for work. It really upset me and I just cried and cried and cried.

They have mucked his hours up at work as they asked him to change shift as someone is on holiday so he said yes to help out. He hasn't done his normal hours since he's started with them. They told him last night that they need to get him back on his normal hours but it means to do that he has to work 11 nights straight with no day off, he's now worked Tuesday just gone through to tonight which was supposed to be his night off and then will continue tomorrow through till Friday. He is shattered bless him. I've told him to go and tell them that he needs to have a day or two off in between.

They've also told him he doesn't get paternity leave as hasn't been there long enough (26 wks) but can have unpaid leave or take it as holiday. He is happy to take it as holiday but they've now said no holiday before Xmas. He's going to have to be off one way or another, leave or unpaid, they seem so unorganised there, one says one thing and agrees it and someone else says something else!

Sorry for the long non-baby related rant x

 

[mellywelly]

Sonia thats cack! It's seems like your dh is doing all the giving and they are doing all the taking! If they are unwilling to be flexible about his leave then I wouldn't be bending over backwards for them! I'd be taking a day off! If they refuse to let him have leave can.he just sign on sick?

 

[Kaiecee]

Some if u have really hard working me that seem to be giving a lot and their company's taking I feel really bad I'm luck dh is with me all the time but I feel some company's can just be really unfair u shouldn't b allowed to work crazy hours like that u will burn out

 

[darkstar]

That's crap Sonia. Employers need to be more supportive of new dads.. I'm sure they wouldn't want him coming in sleep deprived those first couple of weeks anyway, that's not good for anyone. My OH gets one week paid and then he's taking a weeks annual leave.

 

[Soniamillie01]

Sonia thats cack! It's seems like your dh is doing all the giving and they are doing all the taking! If they are unwilling to be flexible about his leave then I wouldn't be bending over backwards for them! I'd be taking a day off! If they refuse to let him have leave can.he just sign on sick?

That's exactly what I've told him, just hope he listens. He can't keep doing it, yes he sleeps in the day but it's not the same and is constantly shattered. Hopefully he'll get it sorted tonight x

 

[mellywelly]

Sonia thats cack! It's seems like your dh is doing all the giving and they are doing all the taking! If they are unwilling to be flexible about his leave then I wouldn't be bending over backwards for them! I'd be taking a day off! If they refuse to let him have leave can.he just sign on sick?

That's exactly what I've told him, just hope he listens. He can't keep doing it, yes he sleeps in the day but it's not the same and is constantly shattered. Hopefully he'll get it sorted tonight x

I suppose when you start a new job you feel like you have to do whatever they say.

 

[Soniamillie01]

I think he'd happily take it unpaid to be honest, but they just make me laugh as one minutes it's you must use your leave up before the year ends (end of jan), then it's no leave before christmas and then it's something else.

Idiots!

Totally right that companies need to be more supportive of new dads. Thanks for listening as always ladies.

Melly - sorry to hear that about your son's party, could you maybe have a quick ring a round to follow up those who haven't rsvp'd? X