~ * ~ July Beach Bumps ~ * ~

[MrsPOP]

Thanks for all your replies girls. Ive still been a bit upset about it today.

I just feel so bad for her because even though I only went 3 months TTCing, the first 2 cycles I was scarily upset and angry when I got my BFNs and AF. Then some people were getting their BFPs after 1 month and I was so shocked at how jealous I was! However, I kept it to myself as I realised it was my problem not theirs and its not like they were pregnant to just piss me off, lol.

I get why she's upset and hurting and I just wish there was something I could do to help her. I dont want to start giving her advice as to how I got my BFP, because she's that type of person she'll just get annoyed and think Im patronising her.

There's a lot of issues in her life though that Im sure have a factor to play in why she's so upset with me so Im just going to let her get on with it and be supportive of her as best I can.

Although, she apologised to our mutual friend for what she described as her 'flippant' comment but I got naff all, just a request for some advice about her mum's medical issues!!!

*shrugs* Oh well, I am starting to get over the shock of my bfp. I was telling DH about what was happing to our little bearcub at the moment and it will hopefully be having a heartbeat in the next week or two and we both got really giddy and excited!

I might go bra shopping this weekend, my boobs are taking over my body!

No nausea as such, just when Im hungry which is more often now.

The tiredness is a bit of a bitch though!!!!!

Im very excited about my Doctors appt on friday, even though all she'll do is confirm and sort out MW stuff...its like its all really happening if that makes sense?

I did another Digi last night and got my '2-3'. Im going to use my last FRER and my last Digi this weekend to get my 3+ and then wont POAS ever again!!! Yay!!!!

 

[Sofiekirsten]

I agree with DragonMummy as well MrsPop, there have been loads of people round me at work getting knocked up in the 2 years we have been TTC (one of which annouced hers the same day as me so i had a perminant reminder of where i should have been if my pregnacy had progressed) Everytime i have been fine to there face and yes i had to have a little cry in the toilets sometimes but i would never have said anything like that to them. hug hun that she was such a bitch and a bad friend xxx

AFM - Ringing the EPU over lunch as i have a very sharp pain on my side, doesnt feel related to the baby but better to be on the safe side as its getting worse as the day goes on. Also gets worse as i need the loo and i have the runs a bit (oh the sharing i love it TMI and all!!) so i am guessing its linked. Will update after i have chatted to them.

Hey Hun,

Really hope everything is ok....Thats the sort of thing I had the other day when I went to A&E hopefully it will just be streching pains like mine was.

So does anyone mind if I have a little rant about the SIL?

Well yesterday me and DH went to the MIL's and SIL was there with our 10 week old nephew and FIL so I explained what happened to them so they we all still in the loop....

Then I mentioned we might be able to have a scan picture if the scan is clear well SIL really didn't like that as she couldn't have one at 9 weeks....My theory on that is that she only had to wait 3 more weeks for her 12 week scan which so much more clearer.

And then she said you won't even hear a heart beat it doesn't start until around 9 weeks! I said sorry where the fu*k do you get your information from? It can start at 5 weeks sometime you can see it on an early scan and sometimes people see it on a 6 weeks which is what I will be when I go for my scan on Tuesday.

Now DH says he thinks that she is jelous because she wants another baby I said ok I understand that but her son is only 10 weeks old at the moment and she can't have another for a while yet as she had to have an emergancy c-section and she can't have a VBAC for a future pregnancy.

Also when we decided it would be a good idea to go to A&E my grandma asked where we were going at 12pm so I said we need to go to A&E because I have a pain down my right side. Her response was Oh its probably going to be an eptopic pregnancy, Don't worry you can always try for another!!!!



My grandma is abit pissed off about this pregnancy because it means that I have to cancel the holiday in July to Tunisia which will have been me DH and her and now she would like to bring the holiday forward to may! I will be 7 months pregnanct! I am not going on holiday at 7 months pregnant! plus I read about the woman who went into labour in spain to twins and she can't fly home yet!

God people really get on my bloody nerves!

 

[Razcox]

Rang the EPU and no answer, pain seems to have settled down to a need to pee all the time so i think it may be a UTI comming on. Will get some cranberry juice later to try and stop it in its tracks.

 

[MrsPOP]

Oh Raz I hope you are ok!!!!

 

[DragonMummy]

yeah cranberry juice sorts me right out within an hour - brilliant stuff!

 

[foxforce]

Hey Raz hope your ok, keep trying the epu if you can ....but good idea to get some cranberry juice and just try drink plenty!
I should use my own advice as I'm prob not drinking enough tbh

Sofie take no notice the SIL is probably jealous as you will be taking the attention of her 10 weeks old and she obviously loves the attention. I wouldn't be going abroad at 7 months either I think at that stage will be pretty shattered especially with the warm months starting! One of my best mates had her baby last Aug and she struggled with the warm/hot weather especially with cankles! Something for us to look forward to

 

[DragonMummy]

god I agree! I had Harry in the hottest September on record after a blazing hot July (yes, cynics, in England!) and it was MISERY! At least this one will be out mid to late June (I have to have a caesarian - no vbac for me....) so I won't have to suffer the hotness. I went abroad at 20 weeks which was perfect as I was feeling fantastic but first or trird tri? No thanks....

 

[samzi]

no more bleeding for me so it must have been the loo incident this morning. PHEW!!

 

[foxforce]

Relief Samzi
I did have some bleeding just before my af was due and day after I had spotting - prob IB
Try not stress

 

[DragonMummy]

I had spotting last sunday, the day before AF was due. WAs only a little bit of brown spotting but it scared the crap out of me! Glad it's disapeared again x

 

[Genie Doo]

I had pretty heavy spotting back with my daughter. But as she is already 6 and pretty healthy I don't think spotting means anything bad.

So Samzi, don't panick I think it is OK. I hope everything is fine with Raz, too.

(I just heard of a faint positive buddy so I guess we will have new and new and new members!

My daughter was born in June which was great as we "got used to " each other summertime - meaning you don't have to bother too much with closing the little baby. Summer babies are the best!

DragonMummy - I guess it was a nice crack!

 

[dan-o]

Mrs pop & sophie, I'm sorry you have come into contact with such insensitive people.. ugh!!!

Big

Razcox, I hope all is well hun, has the cranberrey sorted it? xx

 

[sparklexox]

I'm really REALLY upset this evening. A good friend of mine has been TTCing for a similar time to me (3 months). I told her i was pregnant the day I found out as I was in shock. She said to me "I'm happy for you but I'm kicking off it's not me, I just wish it was me not you". Then today, we were talking on msn and she got a bfn and I was trying to console her and I said how awful TTCing is and she just turned to me and went really nastily "so says the pregnant woman". I couldn't believe it. A mutual friend of ours was shocked too. I didn't say anything as I was soooo upset.

It's not that I don't get where she is coming from. We all know how horrendous it is and how horrible it is to get bfns all the time. But I know for a fact if I hadn't gotten my bfp and she had I would be estatic for her like I have been for my ttc buddies on here when they got their bfps. I'm not upset that she's jealous and hurting, I'm just upset in the way she said it and how the majority of it is 'why isn't it me'? Instead of 'congrats you lucky moo lol'.

Am I overreacting? It's hard, I'm feeling very vulnerable since getting my bfp and this hasn't helped.

it def sounds like shes hurting.. but thats no need to be mean to you.. i mean wishing it was rather than you is a mean thing to say tbh...

i mean we all understand how it hurts to see other ppl get bfp's before you etc.. but your still happy for them and esp since shes meant to be a friend of yours.. try not to stress over it hun because you've got a precious bean to keep safe hopefully she will get over it and say sorry and realise how mean she was.. id say just give her some space maybe

We were trying for 5years!!!!! after ivf/icis at long last am finally preggers!!!!!! still in utter shock but its starting to sink in!!

I have seen a lot of family friends all get there lovely bundle of joys

I would never speak to a friend like that I was over the moon for them of course I thought whens it our turn but never would I be so nasty!

You deserve a big sorry!!

 

[sparklexox]

Got my 3+ today!!! Go HCG!!! Yippeee!!!!!!

https://i89.photobucket.com/albums/k240/DANIELLA77/IMG00360-20101103-848.jpg

CONGRATULATIONS

XXX

 

[MrsPOP]

Thanks dan-o and sparklexox

Genie, I agree summer babies are the best! I was born at the end of June and my little bearcub is due 10 days after my 28th birthday!

 

[sparklexox]

Hey ladies! I think I'll be joining you. Got my bfp last week. I think I'm due July 8th but it's hard to say because of my highly irregular periods--especially since my miscarriage in the spring.

I have a scan next week so that will confirm where I belong. My LMP says I actually belong in May but hpts are generally accurate so I'm thinking I truly belong here.[/QUO
SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR LOSS!

CONGRATULATIONS


SAME DATE AS ME?!?!?

 

[Razcox]

hey guys thanks for the concern but it was clearly nothing as its gone now! Just got the normal odd dull cramp and lots of CM, the mini pie must just have been getting comfy in there. Will still have a glass of cranberry juice when i get home though.

Starry will be happy to add you when you know the due date and congrates on the

 

[MrsPOP]

Aw glad you're ok Razcox

 

[Doodlepants]

@MrsPop - I am a LTTTC'er and I have put up withabout 20 women at work getting pregnant before me - one was pregnant when i started ttc and is now third tri with her second. Our close friends got pregnant by accident when they didn't want another one. But I have been gracious and happy for them despite the jealousy eating me up inside. There have been times when I have had to go off to the loos at work and cry because there is yet ANOTHER announcement in the room but I would never want to be treated differently because I was struggling to conceive.

Your friend has only been trying for 3 months which is feck all in the scheme of things. She would have known there was a 50% chance that you would get knocked up before her and quite frankly I think she's a shit friend if that's what she thinks. She should be HAPPY for you. There's women on here that have been TTC for 10 years and been through so much and they still carry on with dignity. She should be bloody ashamed of herself.


Rant over.

Ha- you beat me to it! I completely agree- with friends like that who needs enemies?

 

[Doodlepants]

Congrats on the 3+ Dan-O! Its such a relief isn't it?!
Glad Raz is feeling better!
Mrs Pop- everyone's right- many on here have been TTC for a really long time but have done so with dignity and would never be mean to someone just because of their succes. Just give her a wide berth and enjoy the fact that you are pregnant Also- what a Birthday present having little one so close to your birthday!
DragonMummy- After getting a 3+ so early I'd put money on you having twins at least! When will you find out?
xxx