BrandiCanucks
Mommy of 4, WTT
- Joined
- Aug 18, 2010
- Messages
- 9,522
- Reaction score
- 0
I understand it doesn't apply to everyone, and I was not saying people SHOULDN't make that decision at that point of their life, just said that it was my opinion, a recommendation. There are MANY women who regret the decision afterwards, and the stories of struggling to overcome the regret and the choice to undo it and then the struggle to get pregnant after is heartwrenching. A sterilization affects more than the ability to have children. It also physically affects your body. My hormones were out of whack afterwards, I developed hypothyrodism, and my cycles changed BIG time. All but the thyroid issue went back to normal after the reversal.
I'm sorry if my opinion came across as rude. It really wasn't intended to be. There are other forms of sterilization too that are not as taxing on a woman's body, and I usually try and share my story because a lot of women considering it like to hear it from that perspective, someone who has had it done.
It's MUCH easier on a man's body to be sterilized, if sterilization is the way you want to go. Faster recovery, procedure, none of the hormonal imbalances, etc, and it's less risky for a man to have it done than a woman.
I, too, have a disabled child. My oldest has microcephaly, epilepsy, peripheral hypotonia, immersion hypothermia anhidrosis, and an undiagnosed neurometabolic condition. While she's not confined to a wheelchair, her life isn't easy and I watch her struggle every day. Every fever could be her last. She requires hospitalization for every fever, or she WILL die. She's been given, at most, another 9 years here on earth with us and I savour every single moment with her, because I don't ever want her to feel like she means anything less to me. I want her to pass knowing she is LOVED.
If there is ANY inkling of doubt about a sterilization though, yes, I DO recommend saving that decision until ALL hormones have settled down, because what it does to your body is more than just prevent babies, it changes your body in more ways and then the struggle to recover from that isn't easy.
Trust me, I know what it's like to have a special needs child. You're doing a great job! If you ever want another special needs momma to chat with, feel free to PM me. 
I'm sorry if my opinion came across as rude. It really wasn't intended to be. There are other forms of sterilization too that are not as taxing on a woman's body, and I usually try and share my story because a lot of women considering it like to hear it from that perspective, someone who has had it done.
It's MUCH easier on a man's body to be sterilized, if sterilization is the way you want to go. Faster recovery, procedure, none of the hormonal imbalances, etc, and it's less risky for a man to have it done than a woman.
I, too, have a disabled child. My oldest has microcephaly, epilepsy, peripheral hypotonia, immersion hypothermia anhidrosis, and an undiagnosed neurometabolic condition. While she's not confined to a wheelchair, her life isn't easy and I watch her struggle every day. Every fever could be her last. She requires hospitalization for every fever, or she WILL die. She's been given, at most, another 9 years here on earth with us and I savour every single moment with her, because I don't ever want her to feel like she means anything less to me. I want her to pass knowing she is LOVED.
If there is ANY inkling of doubt about a sterilization though, yes, I DO recommend saving that decision until ALL hormones have settled down, because what it does to your body is more than just prevent babies, it changes your body in more ways and then the struggle to recover from that isn't easy.
Trust me, I know what it's like to have a special needs child. You're doing a great job! If you ever want another special needs momma to chat with, feel free to PM me. 
Freckle..
