Mummummum - oh man, yeah I'd be so mad if I'd arrange a party and only invited family and they all cancelled!!! How awful!! Yes, better to not plan for them to show next time and invite some little friends for your dd instead!
After hearing your guys' stories, maybe its not as big a deal that I don't have family here! Although would be nice to have them around if they came. My mom moved away recently... yet came for dd's bday... and LIVED 5 min away last year and went out of town the wknd of her 1 yr party! So yeah apparently proximity doesn't mean much to people!
Kelly - I'll be 32 weeks when we celebrate our anniversary and still not wanting to be far away from home... but it really depends on the person. I'd check with your dr! For me, sitting down for travel would be no fun... and also not really much I want to do.. walking would tire me too much, sightseeing sounds like too much work... etc. So depends on you. Course, my thinking also involved not really wanting to spend money right now... yet I would have been up to travel before dd because no kids yet.
Sweetpea - oh dear, you have your hands full even NOT prego! Sounds like you are great at handling lots of kids though! Good idea on finding help for a month.... hope you do that!!!!