just need some supportive words

[lizardbreath]

Hi I don't post on this section much but I've been around since January. My ex informed me that he's going on a date this week and I'm so upset about it we were together 5 years and we only just broke up he cheated on me multiple times with multiple women he is treating me like Shit and I'm trying to be nice for my kids sake I'm just sick of being walked on I asked a guy friend on a date a few weeks ago and I was informed I have far too much baggage (meaning my kids) and I'm just sick of it he can walk around see then hardly ever see his kids as he's working two jobs right now drive a new car and have girl after girl in our house and not pay me anything to help me with the kids and somehow this is okay I'm sick of being upset I'm so depressed and it hurts so much I'm sorry for my rant I just really need support and I don't have many friends

 

[angelpkj]

its hard at times

doesnt seem fair
fob spends his money on nights out and laptops etc etc himself all the time,always going out with his mates or on holiday
doesnt buy LO a thing
he can get a girl and him having kids wont put them off

whoever we date has to accept our kids being around more its hard and feels unfair at times but its just how it is

gotta just try and accept it,at least you have LO x

 

[jemmie1994]

it is very unfair seems everything is geared against mums after a break up
but you have your gorgeous girls and wont ever have to regret not spending time with them like he will later in life

 

[tooyoung]

You hardly ever post here? How come, this is where all the excitement is! haha just kidding! I don't post all that much myself!

My words of support would be: Hang in there. It will get better. Especially if you just broke up, you need time to heal.

From reading your post I would say that if he's working 2 jobs he sounds like maybe he's a decent guy (not lazy). Driving a new car shouldn't really be an issue if he has 2 jobs and probably needs to drive to work.

Why the heck would he tell you that he's going on a date this week? Was he trying to hurt you or just thought you should know for some reason?

It sounds like if that guy you asked out was nicer and wanted to date, you probably wouldn't be quite so hurt by your ex moving on. It always sucks to feel like the one being left behind.

Sorry, wish I had more words of wisdom. It's hard to know what to say but we all want to support you!

 

[lizardbreath]

Thanks the new car thing bugs me because it was our new car its our house and I never put my name on any of it because he convinced me not to so "technically" I own nothing it hurts that I have nothing and he has everything he has made me basically homeless and all these women are falling all over him while I work then come home and have my kids even on his nights til 9 and I'm just sick of being walked on. Thank you for your kind words though its nice to know people care. I'm having such a hard time with this

 

[Roma3]

Hey lizard breath,

How are you feeling? Things still crappy? X

 

[lizardbreath]

Hey lizard breath,

How are you feeling? Things still crappy? X

Hey my names actually Stefani lol but lizardbreath works my dad calls me lizardbreath
Yeah I'm still really down i hate fob so much I feel stupid having ever cared for him

On a aide note congrats on the Lo, are you going to find out the sex of the baby ?

 

[Dezireey]

Dont lose hope, he wins if he also destroys your own personal worth and happiness. We just chose the wrong guys is all, happens to the best of us. He will continue to hurt others in his lifetime, of that you can be sure, so dont feel like these girls have the best of him, you should feel glad that he will be someone elses problem and you may not feel like it now but you will be glad that he cant hurt you further. Be strong, give yourself time and build up your self esteem again. A good man that is suited to you will find you one day but only if you let yourself heal and get better first and then you will see things in a better perspective i.e glass half full not empty. You may think you are alone but there are lots of ladies going through this and not just on this forum. Hugs xxx