Laura's Wedding Journal - 30th August 2014

[LittleLady04]

Ok, stress levels are seriously going up! I am trying to write our evening guest list and it's so difficult where to stop when it comes to distant family. Plus, I hardly know any of df's distant family so it's impossible to see how many I actually have invited till I find out more about his side of the family.

Ok, I am getting somewhere with the venue. My friend I mentioned earlier suggested a really nice parish hall that a lot of her friends have used for their wedding receptions. I have looked it up online and it's only £300 to hire the whole site for the day including all the facilities it has to offer. So now my Mum is trying to contact a local caterer to find out if she would be available on the day and to get some rough prices.

I have contacted a disco company for a price for a disco and a friend of my Dad's who is in a band to see what they would charge.

Things are starting to move on a bit ................ I hope!

The dress company can't find the pic of the dress I love so that's annoying me at the moment.

xxx

 

[Mummy May]

I found the list easy to keep not too high, just ask yourself 'who do we really want there' sod the people who are upset (someone will always be upset!) it's your day and your dont want every Tom dick and Harry there

Keep us updated on the venue, sounds fab! Xx

 

[LittleLady04]

Ahhh, me and df can't agree on our daytime guest list. He wants small and very immediate family only, I want to invite Aunties, Uncles and cousins too.
Can't really see how we could come to a compromise either, it's gotta be them all or not! Can't invite some without others

DJ got back to me, he charges £30 an hour which I think is really reasonable

 

[Mummy May]

Couldn't you have a small ceremony and then invite the extra people to come afterwards? Xx

 

[LittleLady04]

Yeah, that's what he wants to do. But don't you think it will look a bit pathetic having 23 people sitting in a church that could seat over 100! Plus, if we're going that small then I feel it's over the top having 5 bridesmaids. Grrrr, bloody men! I know it's his day too but the original number was only 51 which still isn't a lot.
Feeling like we might as well cancel the church, book the registry office and just have our parents, siblings and kids there. Forget having bridesmaids there's just no point

 

[Mummy May]

I don't think it would be pathetic I think it would be lovely. But if you really want those other people there you need to make sure he knows how important it is to you. I've got 50 people to invite for the day plus the children (5 of them) and I've only got 1 bridesmaid. But anyway, something's got to give. One of you will have to compromise one way or another xx

 

[LittleLady04]

Thanks hun, feeling a bit calmer now, I was really wound up about it when I got up this morning. Yeah, you're right, plus I've worked out if we get people to sit in 4's max then we'll fill at least 7 pews.
I have to have that many bridesmaids, I have 3 dd's and have chosen 2 of my cousins that are teens to be bridesmaids too to help keep my girls in check during the ceremony. And my little boy will be our page boy, he'll only be 17 months
I think 50 is a nice number to invite, in an ideal world that's how many I would invite too.
xxx

 

[Mummy May]

We're literally just having close family and friends, that's it! But then people like aunts uncles cousins etc are coming in the evening. But I do see why you would want them there. It's just talking calmly and not getting mad that's hard xx

 

[LittleLady04]

I'm not even mad, I understand where he's coming from. He's worried his nerves will get the better of him in front of too many people.

 

[Mummy May]

That's gonna happen to me! I know how he feels! I'm terrified! I've warned everyone I'm going to spend the day either laughing or crying. Xx

 

[LittleLady04]

We're still no further forward. I've took a week off from planning in the hope a solution would pop into my mind, it hasn't!
So we're still without a guest list. We nearly had a reception venue but now my Dad has said to try a local hotel too.
Will get my mind back on track next week

 

[xemmax]

Congratulations on booking the church, it's beautiful! We are getting married the weekend before you, Saturday 30th, and you seem quite on top of your plans already!

The guest list is so hard to write, we have ended up inviting most people to the ceremony and to the reception. Our problem was trying to please everyone else. I'm sure you and your OH will come to an agreement soon

 

[LittleLady04]

Hi, thank you we're beginning to get somewhere now.

I'm determined to have a finalised guest list by the end of the weekend.

I asked my cousins to be bridemaids last night, they are so excited! They've never been to a wedding before.

I have decided I'm not going to get my girls flowers to hold down the aisle, I'm gonna get them butterfly wands instead.

xxx

 

[Mummy May]

Much cheaper and cuter I think! I've got my little girl a small posy of foam flowers and they're really cute!! Xx

 

[LittleLady04]

Hooray! I think we've done it a daytime guest list of 43

 

[Mummy May]

Wooo! A good compromise I think xx

 

[LittleLady04]

It was, we cut out our cousins and were just gonna go to Aunties and Uncles but I have one cousin in particular that I want to invite so we may ask her to be bridesmaid.

However, we had another discussion this morning and we may now just invite everyone, lol. We're gonna look at it again tonight and see what difference it will make. SO it may be more like 70+ by tonight and it was df's idea

I love the wands, just got to decide which one to get. I hadn't thought of artificial flowers though, I may look into that too.

Ahhh, I felt so down hearted about it last week but now I'm so excited

 

[Mummy May]

Button wands are really cute too xx

 

[LittleLady04]

Still debating the guest list, it's either 43 or 65. We just can't decide, lol!

Gonna start making appointments tomorrow to look at venues.

Found some styles of dresses I like for my older BM's, will post pic's later when I'm on my laptop.

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Newly stalking
ahh guest lists are soooo difficult aren't they? hope you manage to sort it out! xx