Lesbian couples TTC

[laurac1988]

That's really helpful Leah - thank you

I heard it can be good for fertility too. So let's see!

 

[JandK]

I bought the sperm for this month and thought..."This TTC would be a lot less stressful if we werent paying $500 a month for sperm." That lead me to put an ad on craigslist. I got about 15 to 20 emails in less than an hour and a half. Then I got flagged and Craigslist deleted it. But I think I may have a possible donor. He is stopping by tonight so we can meet him. It is a scary adventure to ask for sperm donors on Craigslist cuz you just dont know what your gonna get. Here are some examples so you guys can have a laugh today:

"Are you sure it wouldnt work better if I just put the head in?"
"So do you want it in a cup or do you want to be breaded?
"I think this would work better with penetration. Dont worry I cum fast"

LMAO

 

[PhotoGirlKC]

I bought the sperm for this month and thought..."This TTC would be a lot less stressful if we werent paying $500 a month for sperm." That lead me to put an ad on craigslist. I got about 15 to 20 emails in less than an hour and a half. Then I got flagged and Craigslist deleted it. But I think I may have a possible donor. He is stopping by tonight so we can meet him. It is a scary adventure to ask for sperm donors on Craigslist cuz you just dont know what your gonna get. Here are some examples so you guys can have a laugh today:

"Are you sure it wouldnt work better if I just put the head in?"
"So do you want it in a cup or do you want to be breaded?
"I think this would work better with penetration. Dont worry I cum fast"

LMAO

GROSS!! can you believe the things that people are willing to ask?
We had looked into using the free donor registry at one point (my wife and I are both teachers, so needless to say not a lot of extra cash lying around each month for buying sperm). Every time I looked though, the people that popped up in our area totally creeped me out. There have to be some good people out there though that want to help someone out without going to a sperm bank. Good luck, I really hope it works out for you. Free is totally the way to go if you have the chance.

 

[MummyPony]

Ours was free, we were lucky to have someone recommended and although a bit weird/awkward he's been gret and totally respected our wish for no contact at all

 

[KelleyNJen]

I bought the sperm for this month and thought..."This TTC would be a lot less stressful if we werent paying $500 a month for sperm." That lead me to put an ad on craigslist. I got about 15 to 20 emails in less than an hour and a half. Then I got flagged and Craigslist deleted it. But I think I may have a possible donor. He is stopping by tonight so we can meet him. It is a scary adventure to ask for sperm donors on Craigslist cuz you just dont know what your gonna get. Here are some examples so you guys can have a laugh today:

"Are you sure it wouldnt work better if I just put the head in?"
"So do you want it in a cup or do you want to be breaded?
"I think this would work better with penetration. Dont worry I cum fast"

LMAO

That is hysterical!! I know it can feel like you are spending all of your $$ on swimmers. Ours was over $600 per vial and we used 2 vials a month when we were trying at home. We finally broke down and used a fertility specialist since it ended up costing about the same per month. I hope you get your BFP this month and dont have to worry about finding a new one.

 

[ebelle]

I would just like to share my experience in donor searching. My partner and I actually wrote a personal email appeal and sent it out to all our gay and lesbians friends in the community, asking them to forward our email to anyone they knew who might be interested. I've listed a copy of an email here just for reference:

************************************************
Hello friends,

For those of you who know myself and/or my partner, you will know that we are planning to have children in the near future.

The time has come when we are preparing to interview possible sperm donors. We are hoping that our friends can help us by referring any persons whom they know might be interested in being a sperm donor.

The basic requirements we have are as follows:

1) Gay male
2) Between the age of 25 to 45
3) No significant health problems
4) No immediate family history of diabetes, cancer or heart disease
5) Not seeking co-parenting rights
6) Open to the idea of having a fulfilling relationship as a "favourite uncle" with the child/children

If you are interested or have friends who may be interested in being a sperm donor to us, we would appreciate if you could forward this email to them or get them to email us at <[email protected]>

Your help in discreetly spreading the word is much appreciated.

*************************************

With this email, we got 3 genuinely interested potential donors and met each of them before narrowing down to the donor we eventually used. I'm not sure if anyone else would consider doing something like this? Our requirements were a bit more specific as my family has a history of cancer etc so we wanted to go with someone who didn't have that.

Oh and have to add that after the face to face meetings, we also requested our potential donors to do sperm analysis tests and undergo HIV testing.

Hope this helps any of you who may be looking for a donor and are trying to find a better way.

 

[ebelle]

Oh, I forgot to add that we ended up drafting a contract with our donor and paid him for his time (a token sum) for each donation he made. Our journey ended up taking us 16 months, with sometimes 3-4 donations each month, but we persevered and finally have a bump to show for it

 

[LeahMSta]

CD1 guys. I figured it was coming after the temp drop. I guess I will call and start scheduling appointments to get some more testing done. We are disappointed of course but we are also ready to trudge ahead and do whatever it takes. Hopefully we will get good news and all will be well. Meanwhile...we are going to continue with a later start smep-ish plan for this cycle and hope for the best.

 

[adroplet]

Oh, I forgot to add that we ended up drafting a contract with our donor and paid him for his time (a token sum) for each donation he made. Our journey ended up taking us 16 months, with sometimes 3-4 donations each month, but we persevered and finally have a bump to show for it

Great idea ebelle!
I too had a donor (friend) who was helping us out. We did have him fully tested at a fertility clinic but we didn't write up a contract since they are no good anyway, at least here in CA - biological dads have rights (asking for them or not) unless you go through the donor bank, have it tested, have it quarantined and have them sign release papers through the bank....BS, exactly! Or if after the baby is born he legally gives up ALL rights and that allows for second parent adoption. Soooo, after 3 months of using him and no bfp, we just decided to stick with the bank and avoid any potential mess in the future.

But definitely YES, please have them tested for HIV and complete semen analysis. The last thing you need is to contract any disease and pass it on to the baby. good luck JandK!

My mess, I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's yesterday... this further explains my infertility issues. I am to go in for further testing next week to determine the treatment plan. Hopefully this is the missing piece of my puzzle.

 

[adroplet]

I thought I would get an appt for endocrinology next week......it's now more like November.
I just hate the wait and don't want to waste more time.

How is everyone doing?

 

[laurac1988]

I'm getting donations next week...

Just started metformin though and i feel like HELL. Hoping it will only affect our chances in a positive way

 

[LeahMSta]

I am so sorry. I remember that first week feeling like I would never see the world outside my restroom. I promise it does get better. Think of it as a warm up exercise for the first tri.

 

[laurac1988]

Haha yeah. Doesn't help that I'm on nights...

 

[MummyPony]

Wowee we're 40% done according to my ticker! Time is going quickly! Can't wait to meet out wiggly one

Good luck to you ladies TTC this month über baby dust for you xxx

 

[adroplet]

I'm getting donations next week...

Just started metformin though and i feel like HELL. Hoping it will only affect our chances in a positive way

Wow, sorry about that. I can't imagine being sick for more than a day. It will be worth it though...a little cuddly one.

 

[krysb]

hey, i'm krys. my partner had our first baby on july 22. today is cd1 for me on my first month trying to conceive #2 irish twins would be so great!

 

[laurac1988]

Congrats on number 1 Hun and fx for a quick bfp

I got +opk today so starting donations tomorrow

 

[LeahMSta]

Well folks, Just like that it seems we are back in the donation groove. we are doing another cycle of SMEP so we start donations on Wednesday. DW had a tiny meltdown about how frustrated she is with her body and how sad it makes her to have to start fertility testing/treatment. Thankfully (or not depending on how you look at it) the next appointment available wasn't until November since we waited til the last minute so she gets a bonus month of TTC without medical intervention. Hopefully she is feeling that it is an opportunity and not more pressure.

Laura: Is your tummy starting to adjust to the Metformin yet? GL with donations this month. I hope this is your cycle for a BFP!

 

[JandK]

Well folks, Just like that it seems we are back in the donation groove. we are doing another cycle of SMEP so we start donations on Wednesday. DW had a tiny meltdown about how frustrated she is with her body and how sad it makes her to have to start fertility testing/treatment. Thankfully (or not depending on how you look at it) the next appointment available wasn't until November since we waited til the last minute so she gets a bonus month of TTC without medical intervention. Hopefully she is feeling that it is an opportunity and not more pressure.

Laura: Is your tummy starting to adjust to the Metformin yet? GL with donations this month. I hope this is your cycle for a BFP!

Leah how many months have you been trying?. I did my 6th insemination on Saturday and I am feeling the same way as your wife..

 

[laurac1988]

I feel for you and your dpnhun, it is frustrating. But fx this is your cycle - nothing to make the body work like threats of treatment! Haha.

I got my positive opk yesterday, then it was STUPIDLY positive this morning (test line way darker than control) and still equal lines this evening so it looks like it's starting to fade out ambit. Had a donation this mornning so I think, for once, our timing was spot on

Oh and with regards to the Metformin... It's getting there. I still have ridiculous cramps, but I don't know whether they are now of related rather than Metformin. They feel different