Your mom's response made me angry. Who in the world would say that to their daughter? Reminds me of a short clip I watched a while back about domestic abuse. The daughter was constantly being physically abused by her husband and she couldnt take it any longer so she called her parents for help. She sounded so desperate on the phone and asked her parents to please help her and take her home. The parents were like "well, you're married now so you have to work it out between you two. It'll be ok." The daughter kept begging and crying and suddenly the phone went quiet, her husband shot her to death. I know your case is not as severe, but its still emotional abuse and your mom is being dismissive. It sounds like she's afraid you're gonna come knocking on her door or something and she'll have to deal with the responsibility. If I had a daughter and her husband treated her that way, I'd probably come and punch him straight in the face and take my daughter home.