hey ladies... been quite a while since I posted properly in here; have read from time to time and mean to reply but then there seems like loads and loads to catch up on, eeeek. maybe I will just jump back in.
anyway... Shiv, glad Sophia seems ok, really hope she decides to feed again in the next couple of days. I was sad when Adam refused to latch anymore when he was about 3.5 months old, and we weren't exclusively bf, I just remember he was fussier and fussier and then outright refused
I expressed for a few more weeks but it was like a switch was flipped and nothing more than drops would come out.
you can only do your very best, I guess.
Boothh
at your nickname, that's hilarious! poor little Jesse and his teeths, hope they don't give him too much bother. Adam seems to be getting more through, he's been very cry-ey and not sleeping so well the past few days and randomly sticks his fingers in his mouth and sobs.
spidey, SO CUTE about Kira and the sheep! she is a girl after my own heart. not that I carry sheep around but I have quite a lot of sheep at home, they are my favourite. Adam is very fond of my biggest sheep, whose name is Shaun but we call Sheepie more than anything.
he picks him up and cuddles him and rests his head on his back. sort of similar to how he is with Betty (cat) these days, affectionate and sweet (though he does not attempt to lift her). he is always going over and snuggling her back, sometimes blowing raspberries on her and getting a mouthful of fur... happy for Kira and you that the prunes have worked! poor girl, that's not a comfortable issue to have.
Heidi, happy birthday for last week! I LOVE the pics of Caylee and Lily, such gorgeous girls
re breastfeeding, I knew I would have problems before Adam was born, so I was prepared, and as it turned out I was just extremely grateful to be able to give Adam anything at all - he had SOME bm every day till he was 4 months old, some days a really small amount, but hey, I tried my best. C and my mum didn't understand why I persevered through the pain in the beginning, when he was doing fine on tops up from formula, but it was really important to me not to give up on my own account, I just didn't feel I could. I don't know what I could do differently next time, probably nothing, but I would at least know what to expect. Adam hasn't been a sickly child, touch wood, he did get gastroenteritis once, not long after he quit bf, but that's all. he's been on antibiotics this last week but for a cyst on his ear, nothing major (in fact the cure has definitely been a worse trial than the illness).
I stay out of the bf section, though, because I feel so riled up at some people. I have never explained my stuff outside "our" threads (I think I wrote a bit in 2nd or 3rd tri), but sometimes I have wanted to, to give another point of view, but I won't, because it'd just stress and upset me and there's no point.
jelr, hi
Natasha sounds utterly adorable, copying you! we have just noticed Adam do this (he has done at times for a while but it seems like it's something new every day now) today he was shaking his head NO at me when I did it to me, and saying Mmmmmm! MMMMM! when I was saying it (re something I was eating). She will be off walking by herself in no time if she is getting her confidence up with the walker
Aunty E, congrats on the surprising boy! boys are totally awesome, I wouldn't be without mine. SO much fun.
Shiv, yay for new shoes! we got Adam's this weekend, too, finally. I was also ok to wait a little longer but I felt bad on Saturday because C usually takes AE to the park when I go to work and he didn't this week because it was raining. so I thought, ok, he needs proper shoes and waterproof clothes because it's often his only day out with Daddy by himself and it's a shame to miss out for the weather. I was not surprised to fimd out AE has quite big feet (5G) because they have just looked so much bigger lately. we were wondering if him walking aorund so much would make them grow fast, or it that a crazy theory? just seems since his birthday, when he really took off with walking, his feet have taken off as well.
Adam got these Clark's shoes - so cute (so expensive for something that will last a month or two!)
nutty, yay for Kai, what a clever little boy! what was that I saw on FB about him being chosen to be a councillor?!
cleck, really hope you are feeling better soon, colds are no fun
as for usernames... mine is nothing to do with my real name, it's the name of one of the tracks from Belle & Sebastian's first album, Tigermilk. I used to identify very much with the Mary Jo of the song... looking on You Tube I found this cute little video someone made to illustrate it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bxcv8_UBWRM&feature=related
for some reason when I joined BnB I didn't register with the name I usually use elsewhere online (Ariel); maybe there already was one, more likely I was trying to make sure I was less googleable by anyone who might decide to hunt me out!
other stuff... I found out on the day after Adam's birthday that I am married to one of the stupidest men in the ENTIRE BLOODY WORLD, but hey ho. we have survived, just about. guess we all have our stupid moments of utter stupidity, I like to think I got mine out of the way before I was married and had a child but seems C is not quite so organised as me! (he hasn't cheated on me or anything remotely like that, it's a money thing, grrrrrrr.)
so upsetting though, both for what he did and because I couldn't tell the people I'd usually tell everything (my mum and my best friend). I did tell some other friends, and mine and Adam's psychotherapist, and I am not quite so utterly livid about it... but it hurts. it really hurts to have secrets from important people.
on a not-really related note (but kinda, since it's also a money thing) we are planning to put my flat on the market in the next few weeks. this is necessary but heartbreaking for me (it's mine, I have lived here for nearly 11 years). we have to get somewhere bigger now, with a garden. which we should be able to once we can get a mortgage (from end of Oct, fx, C has a CCJ that finally comes off then). prices have dropped but nowt we can do about that, and hopefully we can get something better than we'd otherwise have been able to, of course the downside is that we will get less for this place, too. I should have a nice chunk of equity, whatever happens. we considered buying the flat downstairs but there's lots wrong with it so while it'd be a bargain (no estate agent fees or moving costs) I don't *really* want to live there. plus it'd be too weird to live downstairs from MY flat.
the other thing - I kind of made a friend and have been going to toddler groups. Adam loves it. I don't love it when this friend is not there, I find it to be some of the longer 90 minute periods of my life, but it is so sweet to see Adam running around having a whale of a time.