little rant

[Bug222]

Hope you don't mind a little rant...

A little back story- im 37+6 with my second child. I will be having a repeat c-section on the 27th of Aug. I have a spinal malformation that causes my pelvis to twist instead of the usual relaxing and opening... leading to excruciating pain and immobility. I have been off work and minimally able to walk since 23 weeks this time. I have been in prodromal labour on and off for almost two weeks now.

Yesterday my sister and mum were looking at the pictures of the maternity ward where I will be after the c-section and my sister makes the comment-

"so if you were going to do this the painful way you would be on this ward the whole time"

ummmm.. excuse me??? If I was going to do this the painful way???? Instead of the daily pain I have been in for months, instead of the major surgery I will have to ensure this rainbow arrives safely?

I really had no words and just walked away. Now it has been nagging at me and I have been realizing just how much the comment has upset me. I already feel like a failure.

no real point to this post... just needed to get it out.

 

[Willow01]

Aaw hun how frustrating that's not what you want to hear. I hope your section makes thing easier, I'm sure it will, and the 27th Aug comes quickly!x

 

[jlw617]

Im sorry she made such an ignorant comment, unfortunately people say really callous things about things they dont understand or have experienced. I wish people would be more sensitive to issues like this, Ive never had to have a csection thank God but its definitely not something Id want to have, it is major abdominal surgery and I have had abdominal surgery and it is certainly not easy to recover from let alone recover whilst taking care of a newborn! my life motto for ignorant people/comments as ive gotten older is to just let it roll off like water off a ducks back!

 

[Take2]

Sounds painful, is this something you were born with or is it a pregnancy related condition? If this is something you have had your whole life I'd have thought she would have been more understanding?

 

[Stephytiggs]

I feel for you hun, was it said in a nasty way or just a flippant comment? I wouldnt take it too much to heart, people say things like that trying to be funny. I would hope didnt mean to make you feel as if your medical condition was a lot less than what it is x

 

[hanni]

I'm sorry she said that to you! People can be such dicks and say sigh ignorant things. I'd love to see them manage to sit up in bed 5 times a night and carry a baby around with a 6 inch hole in one if their major organs and then tell anyone it's the easy option!

 

[Bug222]

Sounds painful, is this something you were born with or is it a pregnancy related condition? If this is something you have had your whole life I'd have thought she would have been more understanding?

It is something I was born with- just is a lot worse in pregnancy


Thanks ladies. I don't think it was meant in a malicious way - just her being her usual self