London TTC buddies chat thread

[SophieBee]

Hi Clanger and welcome

All sorts of moaning allowed here

Dehydration for OPKs is miserable isn't it? I got into the habit of drinking huge amounts of water when I was losing weight and it feels really unnatural to not have anything to drink all afternoon. I'm hoping that the CBFM will sort itself out and I can drop the cheapy OPKs again. Glad to have them this month as a back up though.

Oh also, meant to say Leeze & ineedaseed - really hope that we get our BFP hat trick this month. How fantastic would that be?

Night night all x

 

[Leeze]

everyone (and welcome Clanger)

Tell me about the OPKs and the not being able to drink water thing!!! I did that today but in the end I had a hot chocolate because the heating is broken at one of the places where I work - and then after a cold journey home I was so desperate to pee that I couldn't hold it any longer. So I only managed 2.5 hours and needless to say the OPK was negative!!

Sophie, I started using the CBFM this month too and I got my first high fertility this morning. I started using the OPKs again a couple of days ago because normally I would get a positive OPK on CD 12-14. I think I must be O-ing late this month which might not be a bad thing because I've been hoping for months that my 2 most fertile days would move to the weekend so there's a better chance of catching that egg! Also, I understand the thing about radio silence, I had mixed feelings about being away for a few days and not being on here. In some ways it was good to not be obsessing about TTC the whole time, but I also really missed it!!

Clanger - I really know what you mean about others sneezing and getting pregnant. I feel like I hear about somebody new being pregnant about 2-3 times a month!! And pregnant women are everywhere!! I keep trying to tell myself this is a good thing because it means lots of people get pregnant and therefore I should be able to too, but I can't help but also feel a bit sad and jealous.

My OH has just texted me to say the traffic is really bad on his way home so he's going to be late. AGGHHH - I've got a busy evening of BD-ing in mind and we're generally not very good at BDing until a couple of hours after dinner. I might have to serve him a very small portion to keep him going and then let him have the rest later as a reward!!!!!

 

[SophieBee]

My cycle is officially screwed up this month, and I'm counting myself out already

CBFM has been reporting high since the first day of testing (CD8) with no peaks reported and I started using cheapy opks on CD9, but have had no positive result. To top it all, I started spotting on Friday (CD12), which at first I wondered whether it was ovulation bleeding, but I never normally get that, have had no other ovulation signs this cycle and am still spotting today. If my usual spotting pattern follows then I will get my period on Friday or Saturday next week (CD19 or 20), a full week before it is due.

I'm definitely prepared to accept that I will probably have cycles where I don't ovulate, particularly as I'm 35, but the dramatic shortening of the length is really worrying. OH thinks I should go to see the GP again, but I only went in September (seems much longer than that) and I'm afraid that she still won't take me seriously.

Feeling pretty low and rubbish about it - mostly though I just feel frustrated because I don't feel like I have the full story.

Ugh. Anyway, how is everyone else doing? Hope your cycles are behaving themselves!

Take care all x

 

[MoonMelody]

*peeks inside* May I come in?

I'm a Londoner, and in my first ever 2ww.

 

[Clanger]

Hi all,

Thanks for the welcome Sophie and Leeze.
Laughing at you giving into hot choc Leeze.Know what you mean re working in cold buildings!I think I must have the smllest bladder ever and ttc means that on the same days I am trying to drink stupid amounts of water to magic up more ewcm AND dehydrate myself completely in the hope of getting an opk reading...what the fook?! I think we are definately entitled to be a little sad and green eyed at the "sneeze and end up preggers without having to do the dehydration/poas/thermometer in an orafice first thing in the morning business"!
Sophie how frustrating and crap about your cycle.I did read a scientific article which said that most women regardless of age have 1 or 2 annovultionary cycles per year and don't even know it unless they are monitoring for ttc.Doesn't make it any easier for you though.It's so annoying to not understand what our body is doing.I
hoping you are yet to o and the spotting is a random mid cycle thingy (also common!) not the start of af.

Oh and hey there MoonMelody, good to meet you!

 

[Leeze]

Hi everyone and welcome Moonmelody! - how lovely to be on your first 2WW. I've just started my 12th 2WW and am seriously hoping it's my last!!

SophieBee -that sounds confusing about your cycle. that's pretty shitty that your GP won't take your seriously. I think it's worth going back and laying it on thick about how much it's getting you down, feeling depressed, sad, confused, not able to sleep etc (I'm guessing, from my own experience, that a lot of this is true!). It took 2 visits with my GP before he made the referral and I think it was because of how tearful I got with it all. You could also ask your GP if she would do a 21 day progesterone test, I think they can do this without referring you to a specialist

Clanger - I'm definitely feeling green-eyed. I was out with a friend last night who is 8 months pregnant, she was complaining about feeling uncomfortable. I was wishing I could feel her discomfort and swap places!!

OH has just come in so going to dash, catch you later xx

 

[SophieBee]

Hi all - and welcome MoonMelody

I've cheered up a bit since Monday. Still spotting and signs are that AF will arrive within the next couple of days, but there is nothing I can do about it now so there is no point in working myself up about it. I'm going to see what happens with the next cycle and if it plays up again then I'll definitely go to the GP, otherwise we are going to stick with the plan of waiting until February, (which will be about 8 months TTC), and asking for all the tests we can get at that stage, like sperm analysis and 21 day bloods (and anything else we can get quite frankly). At least then we'll both have a bit more information about what is going on with our bodies!

I'm totally with the rest of you ladies on the green-eyed stuff. My work place is a nightmare and there is almost always at least one person pregnant at any one time - currently there are two very big lovely bumps in the office. I just keep telling myself that it will be me one of these days

 

[Leeze]

glad to hear you're feeling a bit better, SophieBee. I wanted to share with you that when we went to the fertility show a little while ago the consultant from the fertility clinic at the Homerton Hospital in Hackney said that you can go there for tests as a "fee paying" patient if you can't get referred, and you can be from anywhere in London. He explained it as being different from going as a private patient, so you don't get to skip waiting lists or get a private room or anything like that. Basically he said that it's the same as getting a referral from your GP in terms of how quick it happens and what they offer you, but they charge you what it costs them to do the treatment which ends up being a lot cheaper than private. Might be worth looking into if you get difficulties getting a referral from your GP xx

 

[MoonMelody]

Thanks for the lovely welcome!

7dpo today, London lasses. I'm really hoping these twingey cramps I've been getting aren't all in my head!

Here is my chart, if anyone would like a wee look. Any opinions?

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/32a035

 

[Leeze]

everyone

Hope you're all looking forward to the Xmas holidays and not feeling too cold in all this snow

MoonMelody - sorry but I don't know anything about temping so can't help you!! I've never got into it even though I bought a thermometer a good few months back. I tend to do the cheap internet bought OPKs (you can get them from Amazon) and have recently started using the Clearblue fertility monitor. that's a lovely pic you've got up of you 2 - you'll make very cute babies together!! I hope those are implantation twinges you're feeling!!

SophieBee - I hope you're doing ok, hon and staying strong. We will get there in the end!!!

My OH and I are going up North this weekend to stay with my parents. I'm in a bit of a dilemma because I don't want to drink because I'm in the 2WW and there'll be lots of drinks around. I might just tell them we've started TTC and be done with it! I just don't want them to keep asking me about it, and I guess I thought I'd be pregnant by now and had this romantic idea of announcing it to them when I was passed the 12 week mark!! I won't probably be on here for a few days so I will wish everyone a lovely weekend and catch up with you next week!

 

[SophieBee]

Thanks Leeze - I'm doing OK, just waiting for the evil to show up so I can hopefully get back on track with a new cycle. Still spotting, but with some luck it will turn into a proper period over the weekend. On the plus side, presuming it does show this weekend and I go back to having a regular cycle, I should be ov-ing right around the time we'll be on a little break in Edinburgh for OH's birthday, so that would be good.

Good luck for the weekend - I'm sure I've already missed you, but if you decide to tell your parents then I hope it goes well and you get the support you need.

MoonMelody, I'm afraid like Leeze I don't do the temping thing so wouldn't have a clue what to look for in the charts. Sorry about that - but fingers crossed you are first time lucky!

 

[Leeze]

really quick one to say hi as it's late and I need to go to bed soon! I've not been back long and am just waiting for some washing to finish!

I didn't tell my parents in the end, it was quite a stressful weekend with lots of family dynamics going on! In the end I had a few drinks but in a sneaky way where on Friday eve I mixed my own drink and just put a tiny bit of alcohol in and then added fruit juice and lemonade to make it look like there was more in it. I had a glass of wine yesterday evening and when my parents were out of the room I poured half of it into my OH's drink and topped mine up with water!! Somehow felt easier to do it this way than to come clean! I really want to be able to tell my parents when we're at the 12 week point and it can be really good news. I think after my m/c in June I'm worried this will happen again and I don't want to worry my parents too much about it.

Sophie, I really hope you get your cycles sorted out, not sure what to suggest but I imagine it's pretty hard going through that every month. xx

 

[SophieBee]

Hi Leeze

Totally understand why you want to wait to tell your folks - and it will be so lovely to given them good news when you know everything is as it should be. Fingers crossed you don't have to wait too much longer! Glad you managed to avoid the booze without looking too conspicuous - hope the weekend wasn't too stressful for you though.

AF arrived today, so here's hoping for a less wonky cycle this time around! Good news is that I should be hitting the fertile window right over the xmas hols time (and also OH's birthday), so I'm looking forward to a fun week off work

OH said to me that we could end up conceiving around his birthday with the due date being around my birthday - wouldn't that be a nice bit of poetry?

How's everyone else doing - any news or updates? We've got our decorations up now, so finally feeling nice and festive. Just waiting to finish work for the year now! x

 

[Leeze]

Ooh - SophieBee - that would be great to conceive over Xmas hols and your OH's birthday with your due date around your birthday. Sorry to hear AF got you but glad you're able to look on the positive side of things and it sounds like your OH is pretty supportive too

I'm a bit sad today, my best friend told me yesterday she's 7 weeks pregnant. She was on the pill and not even trying and she's in a pretty new relationship. I'm happy for her that they're making a go of it and I know she'll be a great Mum. But I can't help but feel like it's unfair somehow.

I probably won't be on much the next week or so because we're going to Spain till 29th Dec. Although I'm planning to test on Xmas day so I'll try to give an update if I can! I've been feeling quite tired this week like I'm coming down with something so I'm hoping this might be a sign!! (or maybe I'm just coming down with something!!)

Have a great Xmas everyone xx

 

[SophieBee]

Oooh Leeze, I'm very jealous of your Spain trip! Have a wonderful time and a safe journey. And I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a Xmas day BFP!

I found out today that yet another work colleague is pregnant, so I feel your sadness, though obviously it's not quite the same as a best friend. Honestly we seem to have 4 or 5 in some stage of pregnancy at any one time, and there are only 60 of us. Sometimes I think the men in the office will get pregnant before I do!

Wishing everyone else a great Xmas too! Here's to those 2011 pregnancies

 

[Leeze]

Hi everyone

Back from Spain today and sadly it was a chest bug I was coming down with and not a BFP! AF got me on Boxing day. Also I was ill for most of our trip although it was lovely to see a bit of sunshine. It was even 16 degrees for one of the days!! I've been a right misery guts to be honest, from feeling ill and from emotionally feeling crappy. I've learnt now though that most months the emotionally crappy bit lasts about as long as AF does and then a few days later I start to feel a bit better. Actually, today I'm even feeling a bit better. I'm looking forward to the New Year starting and feeling like we can have a fresh go at TTC. Although, this means we've been TTC now for 12 months which is really starting to take it's toll. We will keep going though, because we really want it!!! How's everyone else doing? SophieBee - I hope you're getting lots of rest in and getting that BD-ing in on those important days!!! Enjoy your holiday week!!!

 

[SophieBee]

Hi everyone

Sorry to hear that you've been unwell Leeze, and that AF got you on Boxing Day. Hope you're feeling better now

We are just back from a few days in Edinburgh, a little trip we took for OH's birthday. It was freezing there, so I'm very jealous of hearing you've been enjoying 16 degs! Good news is that it looks like my cycle was back on track this month. CBFM was showing highs the past three days and a peak today, plus loads of other signs of ovulation too. We haven't managed to BD today, what with travelling and feeling a bit too knackered, but hopefully we've done enough already - and might try to get some extra in tomorrow

Hope everyone is well and has a lovely new year. Mine will be very chilled out as I'll be entering the 2ww, so no champers for me. Oh well - I'd rather have a BFP in a couple of weeks anyway

 

[Tinkerbell3]

Hiya ladies :wave:

Hope you don't mind another Londoner TTC joining in, been finished the pill for nearly 4 weeks now and not really sure if I've OV'ed yet I guess I'll soon know in the next couple of weeks if AF shows up or not

 

[Leeze]

Happy New Year everyone and welcome to Tinkerbell!!

SophieBee - that's great to hear about the positive O signs - fingers crossed for this month

I'm going to have a few drinks tonight and let my hair down a bit as I'm still a week or so before O. My OH and I have decided that after tonight we're going to do a 3 month detox which basically involves no alcohol, healthy eating and a new exercise regime - so hopefully this will help with the much wanted BFP!!

Wishing everyone a fertile and prosperous 2011!!

 

[SophieBee]

Happy New Year all - and welcome Tinkerbell3

Right then, I'm officially in the 2WW so I'm in need of some distraction techniques to stop second guessing every twinge. Having said that, I'm not sure we've quite done enough this month, despite the good signs having returned. Ended up missing the peak days entirely, what with one thing and another, but you never know.

Oddly, I seem to get loads more ewcm on the days before I get a positive opk, so often end up focussing on the earlier days. If nothing happens this month then one of my resolutions is to hold out until the peak days show on the opk, rather than jump the BD gun at the first sign of ewcm.

Good luck with the detox health kick Leeze - very virtuous! I need to get back in the healthy eating saddle as I've enjoyed the festive period a little too much . I have a good motivation (apart from TTC of course) in that we are having a New Year party at work instead of having had a Christmas do. This is at the end of the month and I got a lovely skirt from the hubby for xmas which fits, but not quite as well as I'd like, so I'm planning to get on the healthy eating and exercise come Monday so I can look fab for the party!