Lookin for NTNP buddy. Just need to CHAT!

[fairyy]

So all of u are testing. It seems the test needs to be done again in few more days and hope AF stays away from u.

I am feeling very low today. When I talk to DH about this baby thing he is like "not now" "am tired", "this is not the discussion time" ...Last night was horrible. We just had a heated discussion and couldn't sleep. I had to take pain killer this morning for this bad headache I am having. He is not ready for TTC. I think he never will be and this way I am never gonna pregnant. Our sex life is not that great so I feel we need to TTC. Why God is not letting me have one at least. Everything seems right when it happens at right time. I don't want to have kids when I am old. I am so so depressed.

 

[MrsCorny]

Hey fairyy... My hubby will prob never TTC. so it's kinda frustrating each month that I am not pregnant.
Maybe just give it a month or two then bring it up again. Maybe it will just happen or he will have enough time to adjust without you talking about it all the time.
I'm on this forum, mostly because I can't talk to my hubby about it longer than 3 sentences. If I talk about it to much he gets overwhelmed and completely shuts down. So I let all my frustrations, excitements, etc out here and in prayer, so hubby dont have to listen to it until pregnancy is a reality, then he has 9 months (well 8 I guess by the time we find out) to adjust to the fact that we are having a baby!
Try not to stress too much, it will happen. May I ask how old you are? I've met women who have had their first in their early 40s and are doing just fine. Don't worry about your age. Your marriage/relationship should be the most important thing, without a happy relationship, your child wont have the very best emotional foundation he/she can have.
Saying a prayer for you right now. Chin up lovely.

 

[fairyy]

Hey fairyy... My hubby will prob never TTC. so it's kinda frustrating each month that I am not pregnant.
Maybe just give it a month or two then bring it up again. Maybe it will just happen or he will have enough time to adjust without you talking about it all the time.
I'm on this forum, mostly because I can't talk to my hubby about it longer than 3 sentences. If I talk about it to much he gets overwhelmed and completely shuts down. So I let all my frustrations, excitements, etc out here and in prayer, so hubby dont have to listen to it until pregnancy is a reality, then he has 9 months (well 8 I guess by the time we find out) to adjust to the fact that we are having a baby!
Try not to stress too much, it will happen. May I ask how old you are? I've met women who have had their first in their early 40s and are doing just fine. Don't worry about your age. Your marriage/relationship should be the most important thing, without a happy relationship, your child wont have the very best emotional foundation he/she can have.
Saying a prayer for you right now. Chin up lovely.

Thanks sweetheart. I was about to write an email to hubby. Actually I wrote it. But now I think I shouldn't send it.

I am 29 and he is 34. Married for 3year and 4months. He is worried how he is gonna take care of me if I get pregnant now. He is into a new project, so working all day. Sometimes he has to go to office on weekends. But something or the other will always come up. That doesn't mean that we should delay it anymore.

U are right harmony of our relation is everything. I do love him like crazy. I still get that goose bumps when I see him. But sometimes he leaves me heart broken. He is ok if I get pregnant but doesn't want to TTC. Initially he wasn't ready to come inside me. Always used a condom or pull out method. But now every time we make out he finishes inside me. Even when it is not needed, like close to AF time. I think he got used to coming inside every time.

I think the solution is to have as much sex as we can just forgetting about the dates. But it is always on my mind. I can't forget on what CD I am on ! What to do ? I think this cycle will be a waste.

Thanks Corny for support. I am feeling bit better now.

 

[MrsCorny]

You don't have to forget about what CD u are on and whatever, but if he doesn't care about TTC, just let it happen. I tell hubby when my "fertile days" are and let him decide whether or not to finish inside. That way I am being honest, but not pushing the baby issue.
He doesn't wanna try right now either cuz of finances and such, but he is okay with it if it happens. Just don't push him, that's all. Guys shut down at the thought, especially the first I think because that means he is supporting a family now, not just his wife. Is a lot of pressure for a man, especially a good one that wants to support and support well.
You have plenty of time, so just vent to us on here darlin. Let your hubby deal the way he needs to and give him the option of finishing inside of not, honesty is important too. I hope I helped and not frustrated. I'm just giving you advice for what is working for me. Blessings dear!!

 

[fairyy]

You know u are acting like such a blessing to me. Those sentences u wrote are so true. God bless u honey with your bundle of joy soon. U are a loving wife and am sure u will be a wonderful mom.

I am just trying to stay calm. U helped me to come back to a relaxed state of mind. Hope to get BFP by doing NTNP. Even the thought of TTC is horrifying and impacting us. Do u do opk testing ?

 

[MrsCorny]

You know u are acting like such a blessing to me. Those sentences u wrote are so true. God bless u honey with your bundle of joy soon. U are a loving wife and am sure u will be a wonderful mom.

I am just trying to stay calm. U helped me to come back to a relaxed state of mind. Hope to get BFP by doing NTNP. Even the thought of TTC is horrifying and impacting us. Do u do opk testing ?

Aww I'm so glad!! I always feel better when I can encourage others. It's like taking a bit of my own advice haha!

I don't do OPK testing. I don't use anything, really. I track when my cycles start and guess Ov at middle day and count a couple days before and after as fertile days. I try to pay attention to any sensations around my ovaries, but I don't get much, so idk what to think when I do. I don't even get any different feeling/symptoms before AF, except a horrible cramp right before she hits.

I think if we were to TTC we would get a lot more stressed because then it's like it's in our hands and if we don't get pregnant it our fault. Whereas, if we just NTNP and we aren't preggo that month, it wasn't God's plan. We really just wanna leave it up to Him and when we do get pregnant we can give all the glory to our Heavenly Father! Just the way it should be. But every couple is different.

Plus, I feel like if I do the OPK and I "know" he finishes inside around that time for sure, ill freak out til I get a BFP and the TWW will be worse, so CD is enough lol

 

[fairyy]

hmmm. I think I need to jump on hubby more often now. He also likes the natural method of conceiving. Like the way it meant to be. He wants to have for fun. And if babies are made out of it then its fine. But doesn't like the idea of baby dancing. Baby should come out of our love making as a symbol of our love and romance. Not to be a machine and make babies.

 

[fairyy]

One question ladies...I feel after BD session the semen leaks out of me, even the next morning I feel the leakage. Is this thing not letting me get preggo ??? Anyone has the similar problem ? How to prevent it. Few times I tried to put a pillow underneath but no help from that. I try to stay in bed as long as I can after Bd round.

 

[Laura2806]

You ladies are so sweet and right!

At the end of the day we can all do as many different stick tests, sex positions for conceiving, temping, tracking etc etc but at the end if the day the best thing to do is have regular ! We go with every other day at least, but that's thought he whole of my cycle, other than when AF is here, not just fertile times. Everything else is to make us feel better! Lol

And I honestly think NTNP is better than TTC as it comes without the stress, or as much stress anyway. But then sometimes we need to know what's going on the stop the stress lol like right now I'm stressing about whether I did actually ov or not and if so when so I know what dpi I'm on! I think when I return to work (a week Monday) I'll start temping so we know when and if I'm ov'ing at least then I'll know if I'm in with a chance or not! It won't change things though as simon's keeping me calm and grounded this time round. There was so much pressure on us last time, we both put pressure on ourselves, Simon thought there was problems with his sperm, I knew I wasn't ov'ing, our parents knew we were TTC and so did my best friend and even my work colleagues found out. This time round only people I have met through BnB know! Makes it more exciting too xxx

 

[Laura2806]

Fairy it will always leak, it's gotta go somewhere! Aslong as when your OH comes its deep inside that's pretty much all that matters!try to stay lying down for 15mins or so after then do as you like I always shuffle to the bathroom the morning after trying not to leak it everywhere I tend to go straight to sleep while cuddling afterwards but when it's just after AF I get up straight away and go to the bathroom.

I got a few UTI's whilst TTC last time from not going to the bathroom straight afterwards but when TTC you obvs don't wanna get straight up!xx

 

[fairyy]

Fairy it will always leak, it's gotta go somewhere! Aslong as when your OH comes its deep inside that's pretty much all that matters!try to stay lying down for 15mins or so after then do as you like I always shuffle to the bathroom the morning after trying not to leak it everywhere I tend to go straight to sleep while cuddling afterwards but when it's just after AF I get up straight away and go to the bathroom.

I got a few UTI's whilst TTC last time from not going to the bathroom straight afterwards but when TTC you obvs don't wanna get straight up!xx

Thanks Laura. I am glad that I joined this thread. Its always nice to see u all reply. I think we are gonna BD as much as possible. That's the better way for us it seems. Hope to get bfp at least by out 4th anniversary. That will be on Feb 28th.

 

[MrsCorny]

You ladies are so sweet and right!

At the end of the day we can all do as many different stick tests, sex positions for conceiving, temping, tracking etc etc but at the end if the day the best thing to do is have regular ! We go with every other day at least, but that's thought he whole of my cycle, other than when AF is here, not just fertile times. Everything else is to make us feel better! Lol

And I honestly think NTNP is better than TTC as it comes without the stress, or as much stress anyway. But then sometimes we need to know what's going on the stop the stress lol like right now I'm stressing about whether I did actually ov or not and if so when so I know what dpi I'm on! I think when I return to work (a week Monday) I'll start temping so we know when and if I'm ov'ing at least then I'll know if I'm in with a chance or not! It won't change things though as simon's keeping me calm and grounded this time round. There was so much pressure on us last time, we both put pressure on ourselves, Simon thought there was problems with his sperm, I knew I wasn't ov'ing, our parents knew we were TTC and so did my best friend and even my work colleagues found out. This time round only people I have met through BnB know! Makes it more exciting too xxx

Having ovulation/fertiluty issues puts uou on a whole different playing field. Nothing wrong with TTC, but especially if there are underlying issues. I dont knoe how women that experience that make it thru. God bless them!

 

[Laura2806]

Me to it's lovely isn't it I'm sure you'll have it by then

Me neither hun! I was starting to head towards having tests done to check I was ov'ing and OH to check sperm count, when I got my BFP, goes to show stress over getting pregnant caused me to struggle to conceive! This is the big motivation behind staying as calm as poss this time round! Xx

 

[RedButterfly]

Hate to break it to you ladies but it doesn't make a blind bit of difference whether you lay down with your butt in the air, did a handstand or got straight up to go to the bathroom. The sperm will make it to where it's got to go. The best thing you can do is have deep penetration so the sperm is as close to the cervix as it can get.

Both times I've TTC, I've always got straight up to go to the bathroom and now I have 2 little girls.

Just have fun!

 

[mel28nicole]

I've noticed goin throughout this forum that most ladies who get pregnant are the ones that aren't trying. The more relaxed you are, the more likely it'll happen! Hell if I am pregnant it was probably off the pull out method so I didn't even worry about it staying in long enough lol

 

[fairyy]

I am glad to know that laying down for long or pillow under the butt doesn't make a major difference. Because sometimes we do it in the afternoon or morning when the mood sets in. Then just have to get up from bed. So no pressure for doing it only in the night and go to sleep straight. Btw I would love to gave a little girl.

 

[Laura2806]

fairry a girl is our aim this time round :thumb up: but ultimately we dont mind what we have as long as it's healthy!!

 

[ica235]

Me too I've always wanted boy boy girl but would love to have a little girl next! So it's a win win for me!! Lol

I gave in and bought more tests lol gonna hold my pee again and take one! Of course ill share a photo! Ill see if I can get a photo from yesterday afternoons test too xx

Hope everyone is ok today, missed a few posts

How's everyone feeling? Any gut feelings? Any secret BFPs that you haven't shared? Lol
I had a dream that one of you got a BFP last night! So had to come on to check!!

 

[RedButterfly]

We would like a boy this time round but would be happy is it's another girl.

 

[ica235]

Another bfn! Won't bother with a pic it's stark flippin white!!!