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[tcinks]

Welcome kmpreston Sorry for your loss. You've had quite a journey...It's frustrating that they waited so long to refer you to a specialist. It seems to be a lot easier here in the US.

Glad you're getting almost positive opks!

 

[kmpreston]

Welcome kmpreston Sorry for your loss. You've had quite a journey...It's frustrating that they waited so long to refer you to a specialist. It seems to be a lot easier here in the US.

Glad you're getting almost positive opks!

Positive today

Having had such a long journey with absolutely nothing I had tried to convinced myself that my BFP was the one and that my body had just rejected all others before I could know about it. So I was more shocked than I should have been. Although part of me was like "of course. I'm the sort of person who bad things happen to"

Anyway compared to the rest of you my loss seems almost minor. I'm so sorry for all of your losses x

 

[Aayla]

AF type cramping has begun and my cm has started to flow which happens about a week before af shows up. But these are also sometimes pregnancy symptoms so who knows. This is always the longest wait. At least getting to O is active. We temp, we BD, we can poas with opk's. But once O happens it is out of our hands and all we can do is wait.

I may be able to get a frer early and test on wed. That will be 13dpo and that is the earliest I will test as that is when I got my 2 lines last time.

 

[kmpreston]

AF type cramping has begun and my cm has started to flow which happens about a week before af shows up. But these are also sometimes pregnancy symptoms so who knows. This is always the longest wait. At least getting to O is active. We temp, we BD, we can poas with opk's. But once O happens it is out of our hands and all we can do is wait.

I may be able to get a frer early and test on wed. That will be 13dpo and that is the earliest I will test as that is when I got my 2 lines last time.

You're totally right! The wait for O is nerve wracking but there are definitely more distractions. The TWW takes so much more will power. I got my BFP at 10dpo last time so I will be testing from then....which I reckon won't be til the 14th

 

[mrs.green2015]

Hi ladies! Can I join?

I'm sorry for all of your losses. My journey hasn't been nearly as bad as all of yours. We've been trying since March 2015 with one bfp in October which resulted in a mc at 8 weeks. Although I had a feeling it would end in mc since I knew when I ovulated and baby was a week behind in growing. A week before the mc hubs and I saw the heartbeat which is one reason I think it's been so hard. We decided to try again after one cycle, which is this current cycle but it's going terribly. I'm currently cd 27 with no ov in sight.
We're currently buying a house and moving so we decided to take Jan and Feb off and ntnp. But it'd be nice to follow other similar stories during the time.

 

[Uni tsi]

Kirsty I am starting to realize there is no such thing as a minor loss. All of it hurts and causes sadness. It sounds like in many ways your journey has been more difficult than mine. I'm glad you finally got to see the specialist - I can't imagine how emotionally draining it was to have to wait. And then to see the BFP and get all your hopes up ....

Aayla I've been wondering if the tww gets any easier with repetition. I extrapolate from what you say that the answer is "no".

Is anyone else trying CoQ10 to help with genetics? I can't figure out if I prefer ubiquinol or ubiquinone. They say ubipuinol is supposed to be the more bioavailable form but ubiquinone seems to have stronger noticeable effects for me personally like improved EWCM and general higher energy level and concentration. So, I've stuck with the cheaper ubiquinone for now. Also it comes in gummy mango flavor

 

[kmpreston]

My OPK obsession has got ridiculous. Bottom 3 are today. Rest are yesterday (possibly one from Friday). Last one was dark within 2 mins. Will O tomorrow

 

[JasmineFrame]

Hi ladies! Can I join?

I'm sorry for all of your losses. My journey hasn't been nearly as bad as all of yours. We've been trying since March 2015 with one bfp in October which resulted in a mc at 8 weeks. Although I had a feeling it would end in mc since I knew when I ovulated and baby was a week behind in growing. A week before the mc hubs and I saw the heartbeat which is one reason I think it's been so hard. We decided to try again after one cycle, which is this current cycle but it's going terribly. I'm currently cd 27 with no ov in sight.
We're currently buying a house and moving so we decided to take Jan and Feb off and ntnp. But it'd be nice to follow other similar stories during the time.

After my mc and D&C my cycles have been crazy weird I was getting upset and annoyed with the temping since I have no idea what I'm doing and the Opks my doctor said may not even be accurate so my loving husband said let's stop all that cuz he could see I was getting frustrated and depressed and said we will just BD every night if we have too and it's actually been really fun and I'm not thinking about having a baby Everytime we BD. I know it's not for everyone but I feel like if I relax it will help

 

[kmpreston]

Hi ladies! Can I join?

I'm sorry for all of your losses. My journey hasn't been nearly as bad as all of yours. We've been trying since March 2015 with one bfp in October which resulted in a mc at 8 weeks. Although I had a feeling it would end in mc since I knew when I ovulated and baby was a week behind in growing. A week before the mc hubs and I saw the heartbeat which is one reason I think it's been so hard. We decided to try again after one cycle, which is this current cycle but it's going terribly. I'm currently cd 27 with no ov in sight.
We're currently buying a house and moving so we decided to take Jan and Feb off and ntnp. But it'd be nice to follow other similar stories during the time.

After my mc and D&C my cycles have been crazy weird I was getting upset and annoyed with the temping since I have no idea what I'm doing and the Opks my doctor said may not even be accurate so my loving husband said let's stop all that cuz he could see I was getting frustrated and depressed and said we will just BD every night if we have too and it's actually been really fun and I'm not thinking about having a baby Everytime we BD. I know it's not for everyone but I feel like if I relax it will help

I totally agree that if you can do that and relax it will help

However I have tried that twice. December 2014 my cycle ended up being 76 days and August 2015 when it ended up being 45 days. My two longest cycles were the two I didn't track so I quite regret that!!

 

[Aayla]

No it doesn't get easier. I do wonder what it would be like if I didn't get a bfp. I got my bfp on my 3rd cycle. I have to take femara as I don't ovulate on my own. My first cycle the dose wasn't high enough to make me ovulate. Second cycle I ovulated but we didn't do it enough due to stress (I lost my very nice job with supreme benefits) but third cycle I made sure we did it every day from the time af stopped (we did it 14/16 days ) and sure enough I got my bfp.

So now I am in my second cyle since the mc. First cycle we didn't catch but we did do it a lot but not exactly to the same schedule. There was a lot of stress and drama with friends and I blame that. This cycle I opted to not track anything. No opk's, no temping and no testing. the no temping does kind of suck. I really liked seeing the temp spike but I don't miss stressing over every temp and what it may mean.

I think getting it so soon makes me stress about not getting it so soon again. but then this is only the 2nd cycle since the mc. I will say that the longer this goes the more knowledgeable I get. I am learning my body like I never have and I have realized how little I know about my own reproductive system.

I have been actively ttc (on femara and charting) since May of 2015 but it feels like years. I don't know how people do this for years on end. I'm now trying to learn to live my life anyway and not let this be too much of the main focus....Yeah right It's a process. I've stopped talking about it on my fb page after the mc. Hubby doesn't want to announce it until the first scan comes back good. (our announcement is a whole new post lol).

 

[Uni tsi]

Hi MrsGreen. Welcome! I'm sorry for your loss. The cycle after is so difficult, waiting for things to get back to normal.

Jasmine, I can't stand temping either. It makes me feel like the stakes are so much higher because I invested all this work into it and then if we don't BD at exactly the right time I freak out and become unpleasant which makes actually BDing impossible. And that was when we were NTNP at that lol So, now, I don't know if tracking BBT is really a good idea for me. But, I'm trying to find my thermometer and against better judgement will give it a try this next cycle because I just want to make sure that I do still O. Maybe with everyone's support I can temp without turning into a fx! lol

Kristy it's nice to see what a positive opk looks like. I've never seen one myself lol

 

[Aayla]

After not temping this month I highly suggest doing so. If you can take it at relatively the same time and make sure you get a good night's sleep it's amazing. You will start to see a pattern. I know my cover line, I know how big my temp spike tends to be and it also lets you know without a doubt that you ovulated. Everything else, cm-opk's, can be false positive. They only tell you when ovulation is near.

I hate not knowing when my exact O date was. while I have it set on cd18 I could have ovulated on cd17 or cd19.

 

[Uni tsi]

Aayla I know what you mean about wanting to hold off on the announcement till you hit a positive milestone. I have the feeling that next time, if I could, I wouldn't tell anyone until after I have my little baby home.

I tested again today But I'm pretty sure I'm going to get the same result this cycle no matter how many dpo I wait. It is probably for the best, I think my body is still adjusting to what happened and I think I just didn't have good CM this past cycle and probably the lining wasn't what it should be. So, I'm just trying to think of this cycle as practice. But, what I need is to practice not testing so often!

 

[Uni tsi]

Aayla, I appreciate the encouragement - I will try temping! I really didn't like the uncertainty this past cycle. Getting a good nights sleep and doing it at the same time every day will be a challenge for me so I don't know if I'll get accurate results. But I do think it will be good to try. My app wants me to temp every day of the cycle to calculate an accurate result, but I wonder if I could get away with just temping till I see the spike?

 

[Aayla]

You need to temp the whole way. One spike may be ambiguious. It is 3 temps that stay high that confirm ovulation (so usually you don't know for sure until 3 dpo). If your temps stay high for 18 days that is a promising sign of pregnancy (assuming you wait that long to test lol). My lp is 18 days so that doesn't work for me. Plus you will get a sense of how your temps work throughout the whole cycle. Are you someone who gets a temp dip right before af comes (like the day before) or are you someone who gets af and then your temp drops. It all helps to know.

Some odd days in temp may happen. If you can, make a note of what was different. Was the room too hot? Too cold? Did you recently fly? etc. Did you have to wake up early or late. I say if it's within an hour then it's fine.

 

[kmpreston]

Aayla, I appreciate the encouragement - I will try temping! I really didn't like the uncertainty this past cycle. Getting a good nights sleep and doing it at the same time every day will be a challenge for me so I don't know if I'll get accurate results. But I do think it will be good to try. My app wants me to temp every day of the cycle to calculate an accurate result, but I wonder if I could get away with just temping till I see the spike?

You should definitely temp every day. It actually makes you much less stressed because it becomes a habit. Especially if you start now so you have a week or so when it doesn't matter at all and you're just getting used to it

I'm going to start temping again next month

 

[Uni tsi]

Well, step one, locate the thermometer that was somewhere in all the still to be unpacked boxes, is complete. I even unpacked a few other things from random boxes while I was at it I feel like I've really accomplished something lol

 

[c beary83]

I might temp a couple of cycles. I did it a while back but found it too stressful trying ti make sure I woke up at the same time. Might be useful to try it again.

I tested bfn today too

 

[Aayla]

I will be temping again next month. I am doing it now but it isn't going to tell me anything as I started after ovulation.

 

[c beary83]

At least it gets you into the habit aayla