Looking for a bump buddy who's been through a MC too

[bbben]

Hi bbben and binlidsrock. Congrats on ladies x

Sorry bbben can't help with the heartbeat question as I never heard a heartbeat. Not too sure what is should be. Did the midwife say anything about it when you had your scan?

HI Vicvix! THanks. I am hoping I can carry this to full term. My husband and I are very anxious to have a baby of our own. My OB just said Congratulations when she read the transV ultrasound result. I noticed that the fetal heart rate on the ultrasound was 71 so I started reading about it.. I am hoping and praying this is ok. Thanks a lot. It's good know that somebody cares...

 

[Vicvicx]

Hi bbben. Everything will be fine, I'm sure if the doc's never said anything then there is nothing to worry about

Is it possible you may have been reading your own heartbeat? Prob a silly question but hey

These threads are great for questions, answers and general moans and worries. They are all a great bunch of ladies, like you say, it's nice to know someone cares x

 

[Vicvicx]

Hey AM, so sorry hun

Takes things really easy over the next while and make sure you get some company. I always like to be on my own when upset but sometimes its good to have someone there even if you make them stay in another room or something x

You know we are here if you need a chat x

 

[BlueFairy]

Hi AM,

I’m so sorry I didn’t reply to your post sooner, I’ve been really busy the past couple of days.

I’m really sorry to hear your news I know how hard it is to go through something like this so please pm me if you want to chat.

I hope you take the weekend as time to relax and come to terms with what has happened.

You will have your forever baby one day and I’m sure we’ll here good news from you soon.

xxxxxx

 

[repogirl813]

good luck to all of you new moms going through this here! As for me all has been well so far just waiting til april when they do a sono!!!

 

[BlueFairy]

I'm waiting for my 12 week scan too on the 2nd April, I'm starting to get excited/terrified about it now.

I made it to 8 weeks so far today, the longest I've ever been pregnant :happy dance: and apart from the morning sickness and tummy pains because I've not pooped in days (tmi) everything seems to be going well.
I've started using a Doppler just in case I can pick up a heart beat but nothing yet...still early days I know.

I have my blood tests a week tomorrow so that will break up the wait for the scan nicely. Plus I booked the blood test day off work so I can relax before my appointment and try not to worry about what the results might show. I think I will go for some retail therapy and chill.

I went to the hair dressers yesterday and it was so nice to get a head massage, hair cut and relax for the morning, I even went to the florist and bought myself a lovely bunch of flowers on the way home. I highly recommend it as great way to relax and feel a bit spoilt for a while...which is really what we should be doing for ourselves ladies. I mean the first trimester is so stressful, full of vomiting and worrying it must be the best time/excuse to pamper yourself.

I hope everyone else is having a good weekend.

xxxx

 

[Vicvicx]

Hey Bluefairy - Well done on the 8 weeks!!!

Just wondering - are you not going to get an early reassurance scan done? I have one arranged at 8 weeks (3 weeks tom ). I just told them I was really worried due to previous mmc and couldn't wait until 12 weeks and they booked me in no probs.

We don't have any blood tests done up here tho, maybe that makes a difference?

Good idea on the retail therapy too, might just take you up on that

 

[BlueFairy]

Heya,

I asked for an early scan but my midwife said unless I bleed that I couldn't have one. Which I can understand as if there is nothing obviously wrong there is no reason for the early scan, but the reassurance would have been nice.
I wouldn't want to lie and say I've bled either, I don't want to take the appointment away from someone else who is having real concerns, plus I would feel like I'm tempting fate or something.

I will just have to sit it out and hope the next 3 weeks 5 days goes quickly enough for me.

I'm have the early blood tests because I'm Rh- and they are doing some checks because of that.

Roll on 12 weeks!

 

[Vicvicx]

Ah I see, I know what you mean about tempting fate x

One of my friends works in a doctors surgery and she is now 14 weeks and already had 3 scans!! She was not worried at all, having two kids already but one of her colleagues arranged her to have extra scans anyway. It was good for her but like you say, it may have pushed someone else further down the list who needed them more n

When I had mmc and after D&C, the midwife told me to phone them straight away the next time I found out I was pregnant.

I did and they were really great, I just mentioned how worried I was and the midwife said straight away that she would book me for an 8 week scan. I didn't even have to ask which was great.

My friend is also rh- and had no problems at all. She had to have some routine injections but it was no bother at all.

 

[BlueFairy]

Heya Ladies,

I went to the doctors today because I’ve been having really bad cramps for the past couple of days. The cramping started to get worse today and I’m terrified something is going wrong. But the doctor told me to take some pain killers and sit it out. Basically because I’m not bleeding there is nothing he’s going to do for me.
Obviously I’m happy I’m not bleeding but a scan for reassurance would have been nice. I’m really scared something is going wrong.

 

[Vicvicx]

Sorry to hear you are having cramps but glad no bleeding

You would have thought that they would have sorted a scan for you, if only to put your mind at rest ggrrr

I know you don't want to temp fate and everything and you know best but I would contact your early pregnancy assessment unit at the hospital direct. They will probably be a lot more helpful than the doctors.

You know how you feel best so if you feel you are fine then good but if you are worried at all, get onto them. They provide a service and you are more than entitled to use it x

Let us know how you get on

 

[pip101]

I would definitely push for a scan- just to reassure yourself! Surely you can get one somewhere? I hope they do- and fx its just your uterus stretching!
let us know how you get on! xx

 

[Amberks8]

Hello everyone! Well, I read the posts all the way back from the first, so I feel like I know you all

As you can see in my signature, I had a miscarriage, at week 6 last March. TTC since then with no luck, and FINALLY got my BFP this cycle.

This has been so difficult...Every time I wipe I pray that I wont see blood. After a miscarriage, it really is hard to have faith that everything will be okay.

How is everyone doing???

 

[pip101]

Hey Welcome!! Congrats on your BFP!!!!!!!!!!I am still the same- if I get a lot of cm I am always worried its blood! I am hoping the fear will ease next tri! wishing you a h&h 9mths!

 

[hippylittlej]

I am getting cramps at the moment but nothing I can do about it and so I am choosing to stay positive. It could be anything and unless I see any blood no point worrying.

I am becoming far more calm and trusting that what will be will be and I am fed up of not enjoying this pregnancy and so I have decided to just get on with it.
The midwife said I have no reason to not have a healthy pregnancy and that if for any reason something was to happen it was nothing I did or didn't do and nothing I could do to stop it.

I understand why we all worry, I know how it feels to lose a baby but I think if I worry about it all the time I am going to stress myself out which is unhealthy.

I hope that everyone starts to feel a little more positive, I know it is difficult though.

 

[Vicvicx]

Hi Hippy and welcome

Know exactly how you feel about cramps and looking for blood all the time. It's sooo hard to relax into the pregnancy when you have had a bad experience before

People always say to me, its nature, your body will do what it is supposed to. And while that may be true, I wish our bodies would cut us some slack sometimes!!

Anyway, can't wait until 8 week scan, two weeks on Monday for some reassurance x

 

[Amberks8]

Hippy - With my son, I had AF like cramps throughout the who first trimester. Dr. said cramps with no bleeding are simply from your uterus expanding in preparation for the next 9 months. So, really, if you think of it like that, cramps are good! Just as long as they are not severe pain, or with bleeding.

We can get through this! Cant wait until we are all out of the first trimester and CONFIDENT that our babies are healthy and on their way!

 

[BlueFairy]

Hi Ladies and welcome Amberks.

The cramping I had we really bad but thankfully it has stopped now and no bleeding so far so I hope everything is ok.

Made it to 9 weeks today with all my blood tests etc tomorrow. This is the longest I've been pregnant and I'm so grateful for each day that comes.

I still check for blood every time I go to the loo and I think I always will.

It getting harder not to tell people as time goes on...I feel like my abdomen is hardening a little now and I soon might start showing a little...but I'll probably just look fat or something But not telling my close family is so hard.

3 weeks until scan day...my husband told me yesterday how scared he was about not seeing the baby again...it was nice for him to share his feelings with me and I appreciated it but somehow knowing he shares the same fears makes me worry even more about the scan...I'm such a typical woman....want my husband to share but I don't like it when he does if he doesn't say the right thing

 

[Vicvicx]

Yeah for nine weeks Gald you cramp0s have stopped xx

Know what you mean about hubby's!! It's like they don't know where to put themselves sometimes

My DH is the most negative person I have ever met. He is like that with every day things, not just pregnancy. It is really draining sometimes as I am quite a positive person (tho at the same time always prepare for the worst then anything else is a bonus)

We have friends that have mc and the first time round, it was as if he had already decided that thats what would happen to us. Fair enough, he was right but it almost feels like he is un-supportive sometimes. I find it hard to get excited only for him to put a dampner on it. I know he is being realistic but sometimes it would be nice for him to be more positive

 

[BlueFairy]

Yes I'm like you quite a positive person but also prepared for the worst in a way. To be honest what ever hubby says I'm going to be puking with fear for another mmc.

I should cut hubby some slack...poor guy having to bring me water when I'm puking in the loo, doing all the cooking for me to decide I don't want it, dealing with all my mood swings, having to look after the house and dog because I'm so exhausted all the time and then spending the evenings alone because I've gone to bed at 9o'clock....he's a saint really! He's going to be a great dad.