Losing the plot...

[PeanutWhereRU]

Alicea - there are women out there that have children by accident and there are people that plan like us therefore you will always get 2 different mind sets for mothers. We will take full ownership of everything that happens as soon as that sperm hits the egg... I know so many people that palm their kids off to other people I just think wth you're not even ready to care for the little one why didn't you use protection!

I have baby dreams all the time. It's funny coz I always say to myself if I can't have kids at least my dreams will fill that empty space even if it's for 1 minute. I actually not only see dreams I feel then so it's like im living them. Last night I was 4 months preggo (in my dream) and I could feel my baby moving... so amazing!

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

Alicea I'd love that too, just to be told it was possible.

Hang in there and know that you aren't alone in feeling this way! It is a real roller coaster of emotions and it's so hard! I am emotional a lot of the time and close to tears when I feel really out and without a chance of a BFP this month. X

Khigg, honestly? No! That's not 'fair'! Haha. Good on them but I'd love it if it were that easy!

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

I've officially lost all sense of the real world.

Tonight my "best friend" decided to tell me she was pregnant after one month NTNP.

Cool! I had an inkling but you treated me like an idiot and said you just found out… really? Well, why no drinks at dinner last week? Why didn't you tell me there was a chance you might be? That would have been kind.

I have been a total mess since 6pm.

I can't help it. I have already planned not to go to work tomorrow.

I'm hideously upset but it's not like I don't want good things for her.

 

[mrshan]

Tuesday, I'm so sorry. That's so hard. Hopefully the reason your friend didn't mention anything last week was because she didn't want to upset you for nothing if it didn't stick.

It's okay that you feel awful. Feeling sorry for yourself is normal, and she would feel the same way if your positions were reversed. Give yourself a little time and be patient with your heart, and next week you'll be able to be sincerely happy for her. You'll get your sticky bean too.

 

[Gem26]

Do you ever feel like some people just dont get your sorrow?!? Because its so easy for them i feel like they have no clue how we feel or what we go through. What i do know is that if you truly want something you can get it, no matter how hard, you just have to never give up we can do this ladies xxxx

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

Thank you so much

I feel like the worst person in the world but I sent an email explaining. I've had to step back from her for now and just take stock of my own life. I just cannot believe it. She doesn't even like kids and only decided to have one a couple of months ago after getting 'clucky'. FFS.

Breathe.... breathe... breathe!

And yes Gem (same name as me by the way) - I feel that way! Like, no! You don't get to try to sympathise! You don't get it! & you won't.

 

[alicea]

Tuesdaysbaby- I can understand ur frustration with her, people just dont understand how upsetting and devastating it is month after month of trying with no success. People always saying 'it will happen when it happens. Dont worry about it', 'just relax'! Im sure all of us have tried the relaxing when we have been in the NTNP but after now actively TTC I think our patience is wearing thin and seein yet another pregnancy announcement is just soul destroying!

Xxxxx fingers crossed, and lots of babydust xxxxx

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

No they totally don't. That desperation for two lines has never been a thing for her, I just kinda wish it was, just for maybe ONE MONTH? That's not being cruel I don't think. I'm still not in a great place but getting there… thanks alicea xxxx