LTTTC #1 - Support Group *Please share your story

[madtowngirl]

Good luck with your ER tomorrow, pbl_ge!!

And Happy belated Birthday, Myshelsong!

Regarding adoption, I definitely want to go that route, too, if I can't get pregnant, but DH is vehemently opposed to it right now. When I bring it up, he accuses me of wanting to "just give up" on getting pregnant. It's not that I want to give up, it's that I'm trying to be realistic, and keep options open. The adoption process takes a while, especially if you adopt a child from abroad (which we would likely look into). I know how terrible it sounds, but the idea of adopting domestically (I'm in the U.S.) terrifies me, because I've heard so many horror stories about the birth parents changing their minds, or coming back for the child. After all of this stress of having trouble conceiving, it would probably kill me to have something like that happen to me.

I actually work for a company that gives financial assistance and 4 weeks of 80% paid leave for adoption. I really wish all workplaces gave some sort of benefit for adoption.

 

[Myshelsong]

Good luck on Egg Retrieval!

 

[pipilotta]

Dovkav, I'm really sorry that it didn't work this cycle. Your ideas about the different test sound good. Don't give up, there is still time. And you might get your answers soon.

Pblge, good luck for ec.

 

[pbl_ge]

Thanks ladies! I had so many follies during stims, but when my estradiol crashed on Monday, I must have lost a bunch. They only got 7 eggs. Hoping that I get good fertilization and survival rates, but I'm less optimistic. It only takes one, though!

Hope all are well.

 

[TLB1986]

Thanks ladies! I had so many follies during stims, but when my estradiol crashed on Monday, I must have lost a bunch. They only got 7 eggs. Hoping that I get good fertilization and survival rates, but I'm less optimistic. It only takes one, though!

Hope all are well.

Good Luck!!

 

[pbl_ge]

Thanks! I forgot to post that all seven survived and were fertilized! Transfer tomorrow. FX!!!

 

[pipilotta]

Omg pblge, that's wonderful. I wish you all the best for the transfer, and I hope it will stick!

 

[flou]

That's great news pblge! I hope the transfer goes well. Fxd this leads you to get your little one!

 

[pbl_ge]

Two 8-cell embies on board! May even have frosties. Doc put my pregnancy chances at 80%, but my live birth chances at 47%. I guess that's why they don't want you to test early.

Anyone got TWW advice?

 

[madtowngirl]

Oooo pbl_ge, I hope this is it! I'm crossing everything that can be crossed for you!

As for tww advice, find something non-ttc/baby related to bury yourself in for the next two weeks. A book, a craft project, a really good tv series....anything! I feel like thinking about the possibility of pregnancy makes the tww feel like a month, so I try very hard to distract myself with sewing projects (I'm a seamstress).

 

[flou]

Pblge I hope your little embies take and stick. I have my fxd for you!

I agree with madtown just try and take your mind off of the tww. This won't be easy but it will hopefully make the next two weeks go quickly. I have Ov'd this weekend so i have just started the tww as well! Lets hope we both have bfps in 2 weeks time.

 

[pieceofpie]

Hello everyone, How are you all?

I am sorry for the length of time that I have gone missing, just had some sorting out to do.

I will read and comment on post later, as I am in a rush but thought I would share some great news with you all. On October I was given an opportunity for full and sole adoption of a baby boy that will be birth in March 2014. Like myself the mother is a foreigner and she is already the mother of two small children. The adoption will be a private one and I will have the child immediately upon birth. Currently I am putting all the legal documents together. The only thing I have to do is cover the NIB contributions, and pay 1/3 of her immigration status fee for another year, pay all medical expenses of the mother and since her family don't want it out that she is pregnant, it is recommended that she goes private.

I am excited on one hand however, on the other I am scared stiff because of the fact that I don't want somewhere in the future she wants access to the baby.

I am not sure if I should look at this as god answering my prayers for a baby or its just a coincidence. I know I have grown up on the saying that he answers prayers but never in the way you want it.....so just maybe.

 

[Myshelsong]

Two 8-cell embies on board! May even have frosties. Doc put my pregnancy chances at 80%, but my live birth chances at 47%. I guess that's why they don't want you to test early.

Anyone got TWW advice?

OMG that is so exciting!

Get a good book, have a nice tea with a warm blanket, listen to good music and watch some romantic sappy movies that make you feel good on the inside.

Wish you all the luck!

Pie - congratulations, that is fast but great news. Hope it all works out for you.

AFM, Started my girly days yesterday
On to the next cycle!

 

[pieceofpie]

Was not even conscience that I posted it because I thought I deleted it and said Happy holidays instead to everyone and will post later.

The mother is Asian and she is pregnant for a Negro male so it is taboo where she is from however she is too far along in the pregnancy for an abortion and the call came on the 16th October. I know her mother very well so it more like a favour than anything else but because I have decided to do it I have decided to make it completely legal since the mother would be heading back to her country after the birth to get married, what can I say.

Also here in the Bahamas we do not have the long process for adoption as other countries I guess because I know that once an arrangement is made with the birth mother and the necessary paper works or drawn up legally there is nothing to hold back the process...I was guided through this by a medical staff member who had the exact same procedure done three years ago. So for those looking into adoption maybe a visit to the Bahamas might just work out for you all, like it did for me.

 

[madtowngirl]

pieceofpie, that is wonderful news! Good luck, and I hope it all runs smoothly!

Myshelsong, I'm sorry your girly days are here.

 

[flou]

Good luck pieceofpie! I hope everything goes well for you. Me and my DH have set a time limit of three more years ttc. I will be 35 by then and we have still not had a little one we have decided to go down the adoption route. I hope it all goes well for you.

 

[DBZ34]

Good luck on the adoption process, pieceofpie! I hope it all goes smoothly.



DH and I have talked about adoption pretty candidly. We both agree that we are open to adoption and would happily pursue it if TTC doesn't work out and maybe we'd do it even if it does. We've also talked about being foster parents and fostering to adopt. It would be a much harder road, but making a difference in a child's life, even if it's for a little while, would be worth it. Helping those kids that are born to parents that can't care for them the way we could would be so rewarding. We're just not stable enough to do it right now. One day, though.

 

[Myshelsong]

Well Girly days are almost over so onto another round of yoga and sex!

How is everyone doing this month? I have decided - at the advisment of my acupuncturist - to be positive and do what makes me feel happy.
So I changed my Avatar to something positive and I am going to do what I want when I want! I am sure this will make no fertility impact but I do hope that it will be a positive experience.

pbl_ge - How is the wait going? Nails all bitten yet?

 

[emeraldjoy]

dovkav123 -No I haven't been tested for PCOS. It was over a year ago that I saw my OBGYN and she did some tests that all came back normal, but I wasn't worked up extensively. She said that she wanted to make sure it wasn't my husband before we started down the clomid path. When we found out that his sperm were slow and few, she said that we needed to get him to a specialist first. We decided to just make some lifestyle changes including supplements, juicing, and acupuncture and wait and see what happened. His count improved a lot, but we still aren't preggers.

The weird thing about my cycle is that when I get regular acupuncture, I have regular cycles.

pblge -That is wonderful news! I have no good TWW advice. I try to give myself small rewards for making in through the day that do not involve dreaming about possibilities.

DBZ34 -My husband and I are foster parents, but we haven't had many placements because the organizations that we have worked with have been truly terrible. If pregnancy doesn't happen for me, I am interested in adopting, but I would want very young children.

 

[pieceofpie]

Hello ladies how are you all doing? I sincerely look forward to reading all the post and I kept praying for each and everyone that hopefully 2014 is the year for most everyone.

I live in the Caribbean and therefore do things a whole lot differently, we are still somewhat in the old age and believe somewhat in what we call "bush medicine" had my final batch to drink which consist of Aloe vera and sersee Its a bitters to cleanse my inside from the MC and my final cornmeal and green banana porridge to strengthen back the inside including with whatever the doctor do. I will see my doctor next week for my all clear but I am just too excited to worry about much.

The reason I post the above is because I do believe base on what I have read so far that just maybe some bush medicine is what is needed. Please don't get upset about it just stating my point.

Myshelong maybe the new changes is just want the doctor order.

DBZ maybe you could look into adopting outside of your country and into the Bahamas, there is a variety of children up for adoption. Just a thought or Jamaica where I am from.