LTTTC #1 - Support Group *Please share your story

[deafgal01]

Kat- I'm doing ok. I'm happier lately as I've managed to refocus on God and work on grad school. Haven't tried again for a baby since. Not sure when we'll start trying again but it's been on hold for so long that I don't know if we'll ever get there but at least I'm finally happy again now and I don't want to lose that.

I see everyone is at different stages now. Hope everything works out for all of you!

 

[KatO79]

Hey ladies, so AF looks more like it was an early mc. The bleeding turned into flooding and I passed several huge clots, the first the size of my hand. Docs fobbing me off a little and just saying the mc is because my thyroid is still not right.

Hopefully, we will get a sticky one soon xx

Awww I'm so sorry wannabemummyb I hope you soon get that rainbow

Kat- I'm doing ok. I'm happier lately as I've managed to refocus on God and work on grad school. Haven't tried again for a baby since. Not sure when we'll start trying again but it's been on hold for so long that I don't know if we'll ever get there but at least I'm finally happy again now and I don't want to lose that.

I see everyone is at different stages now. Hope everything works out for all of you!

Good to hear you're doing well I hope one day you guys will give it another try though but take all the time you want off to be happy and enjoy your life Wish I could do that but at age 36, don't have the time

AFM just taking things easy the next 1½ months or so until our 1st meeting with the hospital. DH and I are talking about starting to look around for a house closer to his new job (takes him 1 hour and 15 minutes to drive each way and he wants to cut it down by about half or so) so maybe I can distract myself with that soon. We'll be waiting to buy until his 3 month trial period is over to be sure but after that, we can buy. We just need to figure out what areas we want to look in and what our price range is. A friend of DH's sent us a link to a cooperative apartment but we want to own a house (with a small garden but large lawn) since we've been renting the last 5 years or so (his parents and another couple own the apartment) and before that had a really small cooperative apartment (that was technically DH's, I just moved in).

BTW I'm thinking that the royal jelly I was taking is partly to blame for why my AF was late. Does anyone know if that's possible? I started taking it around 6-7 days after I Oed and AF came about 2-3 days after I stopped taking it. Does it sound plausible to anyone?

 

[DBZ34]

wannab- So sorry to her that. And I'm sorry the doctors aren't taking you seriously. Hopefully you'll get a sticky bean soon!

Kat - That sounds plausible to me. Royal Jelly does mimic hormones, so the drop in the extra hormones probably brought on AF. Maybe you should start taking it before ovulation and see if it makes a difference. It is supposed to improve egg quality and up the libido too.

 

[KatO79]

Kat - That sounds plausible to me. Royal Jelly does mimic hormones, so the drop in the extra hormones probably brought on AF. Maybe you should start taking it before ovulation and see if it makes a difference. It is supposed to improve egg quality and up the libido too.

Hmmm question is if it'd delay O which wouldn't be good in my case as I O CD13-14? That's the reason I wanted to start taking it, to see if it'll help us for our IVF since I figured maybe it takes a few cycles before you see the improvement.

Can't decide if I should start taking it now since it's around CD6 now

 

[CruzinMomma]

Hi Ladies,
I am new and wanted to introduce my self. I am 41 and DH is 45, we have been LTTTC since 2007 (almost 8 years), we decided 2 years ago that in order to save our marriage and our sanity we would take a break and re-think what we wanted to do. As much as I want to say I was ok and got over it, I really didn't and I still very much want to have a baby. I want to kick my self because we took this break but the reality was that we just couldn't afford to do IUI or IVF and my insurance at the time didn't even cover preliminary testing to determine that we needed a FS to help us. I paid to see a FS out of pocket and the test alone with out insurance were expensive.

Our financial situation has not changed much but I have new insurance and a new job. This insurance will at least cover IUI and a couple of rounds of IVF.

I here in the hopes that talking and stalking LOL will help clear my mind as to what to do moving forward. I keep thinking about our age mostly

Thanks for hearing me out

 

[KatO79]

Hi Ladies,
I am new and wanted to introduce my self. I am 41 and DH is 45, we have been LTTTC since 2007 (almost 8 years), we decided 2 years ago that in order to save our marriage and our sanity we would take a break and re-think what we wanted to do. As much as I want to say I was ok and got over it, I really didn't and I still very much want to have a baby. I want to kick my self because we took this break but the reality was that we just couldn't afford to do IUI or IVF and my insurance at the time didn't even cover preliminary testing to determine that we needed a FS to help us. I paid to see a FS out of pocket and the test alone with out insurance were expensive.

Our financial situation has not changed much but I have new insurance and a new job. This insurance will at least cover IUI and a couple of rounds of IVF.

I here in the hopes that talking and stalking LOL will help clear my mind as to what to do moving forward. I keep thinking about our age mostly

Thanks for hearing me out

Welcome CruzinMomma

Wow 8 years is a long time Good thing that you now have better insurance so you can look into more testing and treatments. What test did you get done back then? I'd say if you can afford it that you should probably start treatment and do what you feel comfortable with, especially when you've been trying for that long. Hopefully IUI or IVF will do the trick

I'm sure the break was probably good for you both. DH and I are on forced break until we can start in October as the hospital doesn't have room for us until then. So we're NTNP until then and it's been pretty good. If I was younger (like late 20s or even very early 30s), I would've taken a longer break but feel you on the age thing, I'm 36 so don't have the time fertility wise since I'm assuming it can only go downhill.

 

[CruzinMomma]

Welcome CruzinMomma

Wow 8 years is a long time Good thing that you now have better insurance so you can look into more testing and treatments. What test did you get done back then? I'd say if you can afford it that you should probably start treatment and do what you feel comfortable with, especially when you've been trying for that long. Hopefully IUI or IVF will do the trick

I'm sure the break was probably good for you both. DH and I are on forced break until we can start in October as the hospital doesn't have room for us until then. So we're NTNP until then and it's been pretty good. If I was younger (like late 20s or even very early 30s), I would've taken a longer break but feel you on the age thing, I'm 36 so don't have the time fertility wise since I'm assuming it can only go downhill.

I had both dye & saline HSG tests (small blockage on my left ovary found via the dye version). I had multiple pelvic sonograms and did 4 unsuccessful rounds of clomid (my numbers were to low) as well as a SA for DH. The FS we had at the time told us with DHs slow motility and my problems with ovulation, our next step would of been IUI but we couldnt afford out of pocket back then. The break did help and I am hoping a new FS will be able to pick up where we left off and not make me do the HSG test again, I am totally open to any other test. And I would like DH to have another SA. I agree with not being able to take long breaks, I keep thinking in the back of my mind Im running out of time (so much for a relaxing break)

Thanks for welcoming me, and good luck on your journey as well

 

[KatO79]

I had both dye & saline HSG tests (small blockage on my left ovary found via the dye version). I had multiple pelvic sonograms and did 4 unsuccessful rounds of clomid (my numbers were to low) as well as a SA for DH. The FS we had at the time told us with DHs slow motility and my problems with ovulation, our next step would of been IUI but we couldnt afford out of pocket back then. The break did help and I am hoping a new FS will be able to pick up where we left off and not make me do the HSG test again, I am totally open to any other test. And I would like DH to have another SA. I agree with not being able to take long breaks, I keep thinking in the back of my mind Im running out of time (so much for a relaxing break)

Thanks for welcoming me, and good luck on your journey as well

Did they check your hormones as well? I know mine did a CD3 hormone check and in some countries they also do CD21 hormone check. I don't know what the rules are but if this was done some years ago, one could fear they might want to re-test you both since things could've changed since

Yeah, once you hit around mid-30s and over, you feel you don't have time to take a break for 1-2 years Otherwise I might've given us 1 more year to try naturally before asking for the referral and starting my IUIs. But totally feel you on the time issue. I actually always said I wanted to have baby #1 (give birth) at latest when I was 35, then had to push it to 36 and am now pushing it to 37 (since my birthday's in May) Guess we should've started TTCing 1-2 years sooner (at least) but nothing to be done now

Thank you and here's hoping you soon get the help you need and your BFP shortly after

 

[Myshelsong]

Lol I wanted to be done with all three children by the time I was 30! Now 34 and doesn't look like this is ever going to happen.

WelcomeCruzin. I hope that your new FS will speed the process along for you guys. They will probably do a SA for sure, as well as test the hormones but those are easy and don't take a lot of time as you know.
I have my MRI next week then the fallow up appointment second week in September to discuss next step. IVF or we give up I guess.

 

[DBZ34]

I am another one that wishes we hadn't waited so long...If I knew then what I know now. I thought I could at least have two by 30, but in the back of my mind, I knew fertility issues did happen in my family. I couldn't get DH to budge though. Even now when I say we should have started earlier, he says that if we would have gotten pregnant, he wasn't ready to be a father back then. But now, all his friends are having kids and he feels left out...and I feel guilty. But, hey ho. What can you do. I can't turn back time unfortunately.

But, in more positive news. IUI cycle #3 has just started! I start Femara tomorrow and then I'll do injectibles for 3 days after I finish the Femara to hopefully grow those follies nice and big. Last time we did injectibles, I had 4-5 eggs ready to go, so I'm hoping for similar results. We're also planning ahead with BDing and making sure DH will have a good amount of time between our last BD and the IUI. Last IUI, the timing was bad and so his count suffered because it was only like a 24hr hold or something.

I've got my scan to check progress on next Saturday...But I'm going to be doing A LOT of opks, just to make sure we don't almost miss our chance to do the IUI, like we did last time.

My FS said I embarrassed him because he thought he knew what was going to happen in my cycle and I called 5 days earlier than expected telling them that I thought I was about to ovulate...which I was. So, they've adjusted my cycle timing so that we will hopefully be able to get in before my body decides it's ready to pop.

This is one of those times I think my FS and IUI team was so much better when I was in England. I had a baseline scan and scans every other day to monitor follicle growth. Here, they're just kind of crossing their fingers and hoping it all works out... But I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a good amount of eggs, a good amount of sperm, fertilization and a nice long pregnancy.

 

[deafgal01]

Cruzin- welcome. That's where I am right now - I'm on break trying to save myself and my marriage. The 2 tries at IUI really messed with my mental so I've been on break ever since. Hopefully soon we'll start trying again here somehow - we don't have any money for IUIs or IVFs and insurance doesn't cover any of that. Hope you get your baby soon.

DZ- good luck. I think it's funny when we know our bodies better than our FS. Glad you guys caught it in time and I hope it results in a bpf which will lead to a baby after a nice long pregnancy!

 

[DBZ34]

Cruzin- welcome. That's where I am right now - I'm on break trying to save myself and my marriage. The 2 tries at IUI really messed with my mental so I've been on break ever since. Hopefully soon we'll start trying again here somehow - we don't have any money for IUIs or IVFs and insurance doesn't cover any of that. Hope you get your baby soon.

DZ- good luck. I think it's funny when we know our bodies better than our FS. Glad you guys caught it in time and I hope it results in a bpf which will lead to a baby after a nice long pregnancy!

Thanks, dg!

When you do feel ready to try again, have you considered home insemination? I know a few ladies on here have done it and have had some success. And it saves lots of money compared to IUI/IVF.

 

[deafgal01]

That is what I am thinking about but not entirely at ease with the idea still.

 

[wannabemummyb]

AF got me again yesterday

 

[deafgal01]

Wanna - that sucks! Have a glass of wine today if you can.

 

[KatO79]

Sorry wannabemummyb Treat yourself to something this week, like a glass of wine or something else you enjoy.

AFM nothing much. I'm starting to get increased CM so think I'll soon be Oing, think it'll happen tomorrow if my cycle is how it normally is. So I don't think the royal jelly is delaying O but time will tell for sure. It'll be interesting to see if it delays AF this time. We BDed yesterday morning so we'll see since I don't know if we'll get another BD session in there, only if we're in the mood since we're technically NTNP

 

[DBZ34]

Good luck, Kat!

AFM - I'm trying to be relaxed as much as I can be while working a stressful job, being on call and having our new employee call me twice an hour every hour last night until like 6am. I'm running off of no sleep really at the moment. But, I'm excited because we're in the middle of the IUI cycle.

I just started the injectible part of the cycle after 4 days of Femara. I thought I'd feel my ovaries a bit more today than I had been previously (Lefty was really pinging a couple of days ago, Righty is putting in minimal work it seems), but nothing so far. I can't tell if that's a good thing or a bad thing. But, I guess we'll see on Saturday, when I have my u/s to see what's going on in there. I'm hoping to have at least 4 good follies...but I guess we'll see what happens. I've been sending my follies good growing vibes...And then I have to make it through the TWW...gosh, this cycle is moving super slow. But, that's probably just the anticipation of the outcome.


How's everyone else doing?

 

[deafgal01]

Doing ok. Bit bummed AF showed yet again but then again I don't even have any chance at this thing...

 

[KatO79]

FXed DBZ34

Sorry AF showed up deafgal

AFM I'm almost 100% sure I did in fact O Tuesday so it's a waiting game Didn't get any more BDing sessions before (although we had one after) but I guess my extremely minimal chances are there since we BDed 2 days before O

Just wish the days up to September 28th would go really fast, would really like to talk to our new RE (don't even know who it'll be at the hospital) and hear what they think about our chances with IVF and if they have any concerns about me or my eggs. I hope they're all as lovely as the people at the clinic were, they were so nice and supportive so I'm hoping the people at the hospital will be as well.

 

[Myshelsong]

Hey everyone
Things here have been going pretty slow, nothing overly exciting. Had my final tests done and now waiting to see the Dr on the 14th of September. Right now I am looking after my cousins three month old while she is visiting her sister with the other two children and it is crazy. I never realized how much my DH wanted a kid until I saw her with him. It is super cute and makes me feel that if I've isn't an option adoption will be a viable option that will make us both happy.
Sorry af hit some of you. I know the feeling.