LTTTC #1 - Support Group *Please share your story

[KatO79]

Aww Myshel know how you feel. my DH and I went recently to this theater piece that partly took place outside and we got these small books we had to answer questions in. In what is missing in his life, he wrote "A child", really broke my heart I'm so glad that you're feeling so good about adoption now.

AFM AF is on her way but I had a feeling she would so not too disappointed I honestly think we have an issue and really do need IVF to get pregnant. AF is definitely delayed by at least 1 day which is good, I'm hoping she'll be delayed again by 1-2 days more next cycle as well so if we'll be doing the short protocol, we can start right after our 1st meeting with the RE.

 

[KatO79]

How's everyone doing these days? This thread has gone pretty quiet

AFM I'm currently trying to come up with questions for our IVF RE since in about 2½ weeks we'll be meeting with him/her. I don't have any questions about IVF or anything so thinking it'd mostly be questions concerning DH and I, our chances, ect. DH is supposed to be thinking up any questions he has (plus reading about IVF to see if he has any questions about it) but I doubt he'll get that done Told him to write down anything he comes up with but he'll just procrastinate writing any down and then forget any questions

I'm open for any suggestions since I'm horrible thinking up questions

 

[DBZ34]

It has gone a bit quiet, hasn't it?

I'm in the middle of limbo land at the moment. I just had my beta today, so I'll know for sure soon. I had a couple of tests that looked positive, though the one that had a really visible pink line (that DH and I both saw and hugged about) faded like an hour after I took it and now I'm convinced it was some sort of fluke or a weird evap or something. Today's test kind of looks like it has a line, but there's a weird spot where the line is supposed to be, so maybe it's affecting my perception of the line. Basically, I'm driving myself crazy, but I'm hoping I'll hear my results later today or tomorrow morning. The beta will be conclusive though, so at least there's that.

My nurse will probably think I'm crazy if it's negative, since I called her all excited after I first saw the line on my test (before it faded away into barely there nothingness). But I'm hoping we'll hear good news...

 

[DandJ]

Kat - the meeting is quickly approaching! My questions would be what are the success rates with first time IVFs at your facility and then I would ask about the medication. Can't wait to hear how your appointment goes!

DBZ- Ugh, such torture about the faint lines! Hoping you get excellent results that will make you continue to be excited!


AFM, I am having my first medicated IUI in October with 25mg Clomid, Prometrium & Ovidrel. I am nervous as heck since I tend be a Debbie downer and not set high expectations so I won't be disappointed later. Doctor has high hopes we should be able to be successful the first time with me having good enough FSH results, both tubes open, I'm "young" and DH's swimmers are normal. It's hard to be optimistic but we shall see!

 

[deafgal01]

Good luck ladies. I haven't officially jumped on the ttc boat again just yet but I think I'm mentally trying to get ready to give it another try with home insemination (from donor).

 

[KatO79]

Good luck DBZ34

Thanks DandJ Hope your IUI works for you! I can understand you not having expectations up though. Our RE thought IUI would definitely work for us as well do to my test results (CD3 hormones, HSG) but yet here I am, 6 failed IUIs later Not to get you even more negative! I just wish I had had less expectations going into doing IUI as well. Hopefully it will work for you though!

Wow so exciting deafgal, which month are you thinking about trying?

 

[DandJ]

Eeek - well, now I'm really not sure!! But 6, wow! Did your insurance cover those or were they out of pocket?

 

[KatO79]

Eeek - well, now I'm really not sure!! But 6, wow! Did your insurance cover those or were they out of pocket?

Well I live in Denmark where they see infertility as a disease so the state pays (providing you're TTC #1), except for the hormones (that you pay for yourself). Although taxes on paychecks here are about 45% plus we pay a 25% tax on everything in this country so in a way, we're paying But you have to have been trying for a minimum of 12 months to get the referral to get the "free" tries (6 IUIs and 3 IVFs). Otherwise you must pay for it yourself.

 

[Myshelsong]

Good luck dBZ!!!

This summer has been thankfully pretty low key over here. We have our appointment on Monday with the Dr and the start of PRIDE training on Saturday so things are finally starting. Not sure how I feel about any of this but it is what it is. How does one react to finding out if they can even qualify for ivf. Ugh

 

[DandJ]

Eeek - well, now I'm really not sure!! But 6, wow! Did your insurance cover those or were they out of pocket?

Well I live in Denmark where they see infertility as a disease so the state pays (providing you're TTC #1), except for the hormones (that you pay for yourself). Although taxes on paychecks here are about 45% plus we pay a 25% tax on everything in this country so in a way, we're paying But you have to have been trying for a minimum of 12 months to get the referral to get the "free" tries (6 IUIs and 3 IVFs). Otherwise you must pay for it yourself.

Holy moly!!! That is a lot of taxes you guys pay! So in most likely does even out.

Hoping the IVF will work for you!

 

[KatO79]

Eeek - well, now I'm really not sure!! But 6, wow! Did your insurance cover those or were they out of pocket?

Well I live in Denmark where they see infertility as a disease so the state pays (providing you're TTC #1), except for the hormones (that you pay for yourself). Although taxes on paychecks here are about 45% plus we pay a 25% tax on everything in this country so in a way, we're paying But you have to have been trying for a minimum of 12 months to get the referral to get the "free" tries (6 IUIs and 3 IVFs). Otherwise you must pay for it yourself.

Holy moly!!! That is a lot of taxes you guys pay! So in most likely does even out.

Hoping the IVF will work for you!

Yep, it's expensive to live here

Thanks, I really hope your IUI works for you

 

[wannabemummyb]

Best of luck DBz34!

Kat - hope your meeting goes well

Deafgal - fx for your at home insem. Hope it works for you.

AFM - when I said AF got me in July - actually turned out to be an early mc. The first day was more like spotting, so thought it might be IP did a test, got a bfp then started miscarrying on the way to work a couple of days later. My GP thinks it's because my thyroid levels are still not right - so they are trying to get them sorted. This time we decided not to have a TTC break and just get straight back on the TTC wagon

 

[deafgal01]

Kat- I'm not sure. It's kind of wait and see approach. I could have given it a try this past month but donor was busy so I decided that was God saying "not yet." It sucks though because I would have preferred to inseminate on the weekend but so far it looks like for the next 5 to 6 cycles it'll be during the week (like the week of the 23 something) which means December would be out for sure. November might not happen. But any other months we might have a chance to give it a go maybe...

Wanna- Thanks!

 

[KatO79]

Best of luck DBz34!

Kat - hope your meeting goes well

Deafgal - fx for your at home insem. Hope it works for you.

AFM - when I said AF got me in July - actually turned out to be an early mc. The first day was more like spotting, so thought it might be IP did a test, got a bfp then started miscarrying on the way to work a couple of days later. My GP thinks it's because my thyroid levels are still not right - so they are trying to get them sorted. This time we decided not to have a TTC break and just get straight back on the TTC wagon

Thanks wanna

I'm so sorry about your MC wanna Hopefully your GP will soon have your thyroid levels on an even keel and you'll get your rainbow soon after

Kat- I'm not sure. It's kind of wait and see approach. I could have given it a try this past month but donor was busy so I decided that was God saying "not yet." It sucks though because I would have preferred to inseminate on the weekend but so far it looks like for the next 5 to 6 cycles it'll be during the week (like the week of the 23 something) which means December would be out for sure. November might not happen. But any other months we might have a chance to give it a go maybe...

I don't know about home inseminations so pardon me if these are really dumb questions: Why can't you do it on a weekday and it has to be during a weekend? Can't you take those hours off?

I hope you soon can start giving those home inseminations a go and that it works for you

 

[deafgal01]

Ovulation timing? My cycles are natural- I am just going with my body signs right now and still need to get new opk but yeah cycle day 15 usually is during the week and I am trying to avoid taking time off work as my donor works too so we would have to work around the work schedule anyways.

 

[thumpette]

Hiya, hoping to join this thread. Not sure if I qualify as ltttc but I sure feel it. I was initially ttc for 18 months. I got blood tests and oh got semen analysis and we were told everything was fine and that we'd conceive naturally. I was 30 at the time. Fast forward to April 2014 and I got my bfp. Everything progressed perfectly with the pregnancy and at the 20 week scan we found out that we were having a little boy and that everything looked perfect. I was due on NYE 2014. I went overdue and was having regular scans but on Jan 11th presented with reduced movement to be told that our baby had no heartbeat. Max was born silently the next day weighing 7pound 5. It was a problem with the blood vessels in the placenta. Obviously we're grieving and devastated and heartbroken. We can never replace Max but I'm desperate to try again. We started ttc 6 weeks after he was born. Physically I healed very well- I went a bit mad exercising and I'm now 1.5 stone lighter than I was when I got pregnant with Max. I've been temping and opking. For the first few months my luteal phase was shot- only 8 days a lot of the time. I've been taking b complex vits and it's now 13 days. I started attending a fertility clinic called Napro who are all about tweaking the levels rather than going straight for ivf. 2 months of tracking later and they have confirmed that my progesterone is low. This month I'm taking 5 Femera on day 3 to stimulate ovaries, then having follicle tracking to see if that's worked and then having a pregnl injection and progesterone support. Might take a few cycles to get it right but feeling hopeful that at least something is happening. Also on a load of supplements and a mad diet where I can't have any dairy, gluten, eggs, beef or lamb. It'll be all worth it to one day have a healthy baby to bring home. I just want to say that I consider myself so lucky to have experienced the joy of pregnancy with Max. I wish the outcome was different but I wouldn't wish him away for a second xxx

 

[wannabemummyb]

I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome to the thread! Fx that the steps your taking now help you get your bfp x

 

[deafgal01]

Welcome thump, you do qualify considering 18 months was a long time to conceive Max. I'm sorry for your loss. I hope it won't take as long this time around for you.

 

[Myshelsong]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My heart goes out to you. Welcome to the thread, I truly hope that this journey has a happy ending for you soon.

 

[KatO79]

So sorry about your loss thumpette I hope you soon get your rainbow baby

AFM going to my meeting at the IVF hospital tomorrow afternoon, Danish time. It starts at 3:30PM and ends around 6:00PM. So will update once I get home how it went and what the plan is