LTTTC #1 - Support Group *Please share your story

[wannabemummyb]

I know, right Here's hoping things soon turn around for us both

The RE talked about that if it doesn't go away during the extra downregulation week they'll have to go in and remove it I'm so hoping it doesn't come to that though. I just fear though that this bodes poorly for the success chances of this IVF round but sincerely hoping I'm wrong

I have everything crossed for you Hun.

Swimmyj thank you. Boo Ho for the one folli, and for the negativity from the family. Hope your time away goes better than expected x

 

[Tara6]

Hi all!!! I'm new. These forums are a bit confusing to me....
Not sure where to jump in or how to start....
Me-33 DH-32
I've had 2 natural MC and went to RE we both tested out perfect. Did 1 round Femara with trigger and had a BFP! that lasted 11w5d. They seem to think I am clotting out and want me on thinners next time. Although with all the treatment since then I haven't been able to get a BFP again. I'm now dubbed Unexplained Infertility. Took a break over the summer and was suggested to do IVF with PGS.... Got the quote on that and can't afford the procedures annnnd the meds..... I have had a godsend send be a box of menopur but unfortunately still need 3 boxes and 3 boxes of Follistim to even come close.... I just don't know what to do. I don't qualify for anything and all I want is my rainbow

 

[deafgal01]

That sucks, Tara. Welcome. Hopefully you won't be waiting too much longer for your rainbow.

 

[swimmyj1]

Welcome Tera - sorry your in the same boat as us. But I find being on here venting things out really helps. Hopefully it won't be too much longer till your bfp

 

[KatO79]

Wanna - Im sorry I really hope they run more tests.
KatO - really hope you wont need surgery to remove the cyst. Fingers crossed. We need some good news around here.

AFM- cd14 scan my lining is good but only one mature folicle ugh!!! We wanted 2-3 so next time increasing the dose. Going home to see my family this weekend, really hoping that my mom doesn't bring up ttc she was really mean about our last mc idk if I can take her negativity.

Thanks

So sorry your mother is so negative Maybe don't discuss it too much with her, like don't talk about your feelings about it with her and keep it to the facts? My own mother can be difficult as well (she's highly narcissistic) but I've found out keeping it to cold hard facts seems to help. Maybe just say things are going fine and you'll update when there's something to tell? Or the old "Everything's fine, thanks for asking" (my favorite at the moment when dealing with my narcissistic siblings) and change topic?

Hi all!!! I'm new. These forums are a bit confusing to me....
Not sure where to jump in or how to start....
Me-33 DH-32
I've had 2 natural MC and went to RE we both tested out perfect. Did 1 round Femara with trigger and had a BFP! that lasted 11w5d. They seem to think I am clotting out and want me on thinners next time. Although with all the treatment since then I haven't been able to get a BFP again. I'm now dubbed Unexplained Infertility. Took a break over the summer and was suggested to do IVF with PGS.... Got the quote on that and can't afford the procedures annnnd the meds..... I have had a godsend send be a box of menopur but unfortunately still need 3 boxes and 3 boxes of Follistim to even come close.... I just don't know what to do. I don't qualify for anything and all I want is my rainbow

Welcome Tara Sorry about your MCs. An unexplained infertility "diagnosis" is the worst: it means they can't find the reason but that there's something wrong somewhere, they just don't have the ability to test for everything I should know, we've been "diagnosed" the same. Been TTC for 2 years, been through 6 failed medicated IUIs and am now doing long protocol IVF.

Is it possible to save up some money for a while?

 

[Tara6]

I am really trying to save but I don't work and it is hard with one income as it is. Believe me I am looking. I think The DH has given up the thought of IVF because of the price tag. Even taking out a loan doesn't seem sane to him, "we will be paying off IVF well after we learn if it works or not" And he has a point but He would buy a brand new truck without blinking an eye.....
'Unexplained' does suck.... I've had all the tests done and the SA and nothing, at least if there was 'something' wrong with me I could tackle it, I guess I have to be greatful there is 'nothing wrong with me' I think the eggs are just fighting off his sperm lol

 

[Myshelsong]

Hi Tara!p, so sorry about y issues with mc. The undiagnosed is the worst, we were like that for FOUR years until we finally did a DNA test on hubby so sperm. Turns out is is DNA fragmentation issue.

However has your clinic done a NK cell test on you? It is an newish test, but it is suppose to tell you if your antibioties would attack an embryo from implanting or causing miscarriages... It might be something to see.

Fingers crossed for everyone

 

[KatO79]

I am really trying to save but I don't work and it is hard with one income as it is. Believe me I am looking. I think The DH has given up the thought of IVF because of the price tag. Even taking out a loan doesn't seem sane to him, "we will be paying off IVF well after we learn if it works or not" And he has a point but He would buy a brand new truck without blinking an eye.....
'Unexplained' does suck.... I've had all the tests done and the SA and nothing, at least if there was 'something' wrong with me I could tackle it, I guess I have to be greatful there is 'nothing wrong with me' I think the eggs are just fighting off his sperm lol

Totally understand, I'm a housewife myself and have put any job hunting completely on hold, especially now while we're doing assisted conception. Although in my case it was going badly even after 2 educations and about 6-7 years after my 1st one I still couldn't get a job here. Here if you don't have good connections it's almost impossible to get a job and none of the supermarkets or anything like that will hire you if you have a degree because you're deemed "over qualified" So believe me, I know all about how hard it is to find a job!

So we're a one income household as well. Officially if you get a referral here assisted conception is free but technically the taxes here are so high (about 45% on paychecks and 25% on goods/services) that it's like we've been paying.

I'm sure your DH thinks it's more practical to e.g. buy a truck because he knows it's something that works after purchase while he sees IVF as a risk seeing as how chances for a BFP each time is about 30-40%.

I've been fearing I may have something similiar or that my eggs have hard "shells" and the s can't break through. I guess we'll see for my 1st IVF if they see anything

I was hoping I had Oing issues or DH had a very low sperm count or something so we could tell people that but nope And the problem is when you tell people you're unexplained they hear "nothing is wrong" and immediately assume you're "not relaxing" or "trying too hard" and "should go on vacation." I'm sorry we didn't fib with people and say I have something, maybe that'd have made them more understanding and I'd be free of hearing their BS advice

I hope you manage to save up or get a surprise natural BFP

 

[KatO79]

So just got back from my appointment and am now cleared to start stimming The cyst was much, much smaller and since it's not a functional cyst (my blood work showed my hormone levels are extremely low), they're letting me start. Going to be taking 225 IU Bemfola and 0.2 ml Suprefact (to prevent Oing). DH was happy to hear the good news Guess I could've taken my MIL with me today since it was good news, I feel kinda bad now and her and my FIL are taking off for a vacation in a few days so she won't have another chance Wow now I really feel bad about not taking her with me

How's everyone else doing these days?

 

[Myshelsong]

Why would you feel bad? You had a Dr appointment that was crazy personal, there is no way o would take family to that.

Good luck Hun with the swimming! Fingers are crossed for you.

 

[KatO79]

Why would you feel bad? You had a Dr appointment that was crazy personal, there is no way o would take family to that.

Good luck Hun with the swimming! Fingers are crossed for you.

I just thought it was great she was interested enough to want to go although I'm not sure if she should've been there for the scan though with my lady parts out in the free for that But it may have been nice for her to be able to ask the RE or nurse about anything she wanted to know about IVF. She definitely won't be home though to be able to take me to egg retrievel but if it happens during next weekend like DH and I are guessing, it won't be necessary for her to be home for that because then DH will definitely be able to drive me back and forth.

Thanks And it's called stimming, not swimming

 

[Myshelsong]

Yes I know it's stimming, stupid auto correct!

 

[swimmyj1]

hey gals dropping back in

KatO79 - i really hope this IVF you have it!

I'm nervous my DH's genetic testing came back and he has some abnormalities. They didn't say over the phone if it was going to prevent us getting a baby to term or if having a healthy one is out of the question she just said she wants us to come in tomorrow and talk with her. ugh I know its only one day but i stink a waiting.

 

[KatO79]

Yes I know it's stimming, stupid auto correct!

Yeah had a feeling it was autocorrect But it's a funny correction

hey gals dropping back in

KatO79 - i really hope this IVF you have it!

I'm nervous my DH's genetic testing came back and he has some abnormalities. They didn't say over the phone if it was going to prevent us getting a baby to term or if having a healthy one is out of the question she just said she wants us to come in tomorrow and talk with her. ugh I know its only one day but i stink a waiting.

Thanks

Oy, I hope it's nothing too serious FXed that it's something they can help you with! But if it's not good news, have you decided what to do?

AFM my Bemfola shot last night went fine. Was a bit nervous since it's a slightly different system from my Puregon Pen but think I did ok. I'm sure I'll do better tonight BTW my next appointment is the 16th for a scan to see if they need to adjust my Bemfola dose and 2-4 days later another scan to decide when egg retrieval will be

 

[deafgal01]

Swimmy- thinking of you today.

Kat- that is good.

 

[swimmyj1]

He has a genetic abnormality called 47 xyy we have to go to a genetic specalist and talk with them about risks. Men can still have kids with it usually but there is a large increase in miscarrage. So our doc said we can keep trying eventually we most likely would get a healthy one or IVF with genetic testing of embroys. I'm not sure im ready for IVF mentally or financially. Guess at least we have answers and hopefully when we go talk to the genetic specalist they can tell us our odds better. But it probably will take a long time to get in to see them.

 

[Myshelsong]

Swimmy - I know that this is not what you were hoping for but I hope having some answers helps a little bit. I wish we did the test you guys did, all we did for him so far was DNA fragmentation test where we found out that the % of something was way to high to conceive. It would be so much better getting down to the details of what is wrong.
Hopefully the genetic specialist will be able to answer all your questions.

Good luck Kat!

 

[KatO79]

Awww sorry swimmy So you'll just keep trying naturally then? Or would you be open to IVF at a later date? How long is the waiting period to get in to see the specialist?

FXed you soon get a sticky BFP

 

[swimmyj1]

waiting period is 3-4 months at the one by my house but I'm still waiting to hear back from one about 3 hours away. A friend of mine got in there in 2 weeks so very much work the drive hahaha. I think for now we are just going to keep trying using clomid and progesterone. Me and my DH talked about using a donor but are just going to wait to make decisions about IVF or donors until we talk to an expert. I guess this genetic disorder doesn't usually effect fertility so we will see what they say. I will say I'm a little upset at my feritility doc they had me thinking no way we would get pregnant with a healthy baby solo. But i pulled up a lot of medical journals that talk about it and that isn't the case.

 

[KatO79]

waiting period is 3-4 months at the one by my house but I'm still waiting to hear back from one about 3 hours away. A friend of mine got in there in 2 weeks so very much work the drive hahaha. I think for now we are just going to keep trying using clomid and progesterone. Me and my DH talked about using a donor but are just going to wait to make decisions about IVF or donors until we talk to an expert. I guess this genetic disorder doesn't usually effect fertility so we will see what they say. I will say I'm a little upset at my feritility doc they had me thinking no way we would get pregnant with a healthy baby solo. But i pulled up a lot of medical journals that talk about it and that isn't the case.

Yeah 3-4 months is a bit long to wait I hope the other one can see you sooner. It can't hurt to decide though what you'd be open to in the meantime.

I'd never heard of this disorder before so looked it up. The site I read mentioned something about higher chances of miscarriages I think? But that would make sense I guess given what it is. So maybe your RE meant that chances are just a bit lower than average and it'll take longer?

AFM found out what happens when you don't hydrate well during stimming I felt sick yesterday, like bad nausea and horrible headaches so will be more careful in the future. Think I'll try and drink about 3 liters each day.