Lucky thread

[AmyB1978]

Bailey, my DH is pretty good with her but He doesn't spend much time with her really. i dont know if that's just cause I tend to be with her already or not. Sometimes I wonder if I should ask him to play with her but then I figure if he wants to he can, I. Am not going to ask/offer. Because she is BF and nurses to sleep most evenings she gets a bath not too long after he gets home and then cuddles/nurses for a long stretch before bed and its not like DH can do that. Sometimes I worry he is missing out on her baby days but e does, at least, get Saturdays with her. I find I havetrouble sharing her, even with DH, as she is my world and it seems odd when she's not with me, if that makes sense. Don't get me wrong, if. DH started playing with her, etc, I would let him but I also feel odd having to ask him to interact with her.

We are going to visit my family for the first time at the end of June and Emily and I are leaving about two weeks before DH is joining us, because of his work. I initially said we should do it that way, him joining us later, but thn did tell him its up to him... he cant really take three weeks off anyhow, but is joining us for the ladt week.I feel bad having her, and me, away from him for that long but I wanted to take the chance to visit for a nice long visit with her before I am potentially working again and we can't, it's hard being so far away from them, Especially my sister and niece. I jut know is he told me he was going away with her for 2 weeks without me that I'd lose my head. He acts like he us ok with it though, I hope he really is... Maybe dads are just different than moms.

I dunno, I love being a mama but adapting to allthechange is way tougher then I imagined it would be.

MrsD and anyone else still waiting for your rainbows, if all the bby talk is too much we can start another thread, lucky babies or something, for baby talk and this can be ttc and life talk... Just say the word!

 

[MrsDuck]

Amy I'm fine with all the baby talk, I like to know how you ladies and your bubbas are doing xx

I'm sorry Amy and bailey that you are having a tough time, is it crazy hormones still out of whack making everything seem worse?

Bailey I'm sorry your birthday surprise wasn't better, I'd be annoyed too if my bf wasn't invited but I'm glad you had a nice pampering day

Cheryl how was your sensory day? x

Cupcake I hope you are having a nice week off x

I had a lovely anniversary, the sun was out for us even though the forecast was for rain all day we went to a French market, then had a nice lunch, a walk around, drinks in bars, a bit of shopping and then came home again about 9pm

 

[AmyB1978]

MrsD, ok with the baby talk, but if that ever changes just let me know! So glad that you and DH had a nice anniversary and that the sun stayed out for you!

I am sure hormones don't help with the feelings. I think, partially, it is also just a huge huge change!

 

[MrsDuck]

I suppose we all get used to our ways and only having ourselves and hubby to think of then wham bam a baby comes along and like you say it's a huge change

I forgot to say I've had a bit of a setback today, I chased up my letter and they said 'what letter' how I didn't shout I don't know, I calmly explained and have emailed it to them now aaaaaaargh

 

[baileybubs]

Yeah I agree with what Amy said, sometimes I just ramble on about Emilia and all baby stuff so please tell me if its too much or you want me to stop, I sometimes feel like I'm being insensitive towards you ladies still ttc and if I've upset any of you then I'm so sorry!

Mrs d - for me I definitely feel like hormones are completely out of whack. Uncontrollable feelings is horrible. I love being a mum so much but like Amy I don't think I realised just how hard I would find it to change my life so much and how much it would all affect my body and hormones etc. Sometimes I don't feel like the same person I was a year ago, but I guess that's true coz I'm not just me now, I'm a mum so I'm bound to be different.

I've had a really long chat with df this afternoon about everything I feel and about how I feel I need to change as well as some things I need him to start doing for me too. I've told him that I think I'm overly harsh on him at times and that then makes me feel bad. But that also sometimes he needs to make more of an effort too.
Feel much better after talking to him.

Mrs d I'm glad you had such a lovely anniversary, glad the sun stayed out for you!

Amy my df sounds like your df, he never really plays with her. I worry that he isn't bonding with her, but it could just be down to how I'm feeling emotionally.

 

[MrsDuck]

Aw I wish I could give you both a I bet as your girls get bigger and more mobile and can 'play' with their daddies it will get easier, I bet they just don't really know what to do with them while they are little babies

 

[baileybubs]

And omg are you kidding mrs d about the letter??? That's ridiculous!!! I'd have gone berserk!!

 

[MrsDuck]

Are you both back on the pill now? Could it be that on top of the pregnancy hormones? xx

 

[MrsDuck]

I was a bit off with the secretary but I had to keep calm or else I would have cried, I've sent a snotty email attaching the letter which I'm sure wont help

 

[baileybubs]

Yeah I get doing that mrs d, I get so angry that I cry sometimes and they are tears of anger and frustration and I hate that I do it coz I feel like it makes me sound stupid! Well I really hope that they pay attention, they just don't realise how much things like this affect people's lives! Have you tried going to see your gp to see if there's anything he can do to chase things up, and explain to him your plans to ttc.

I am back on the pill, it's the mini pill that I've never been on before and I'm seriously considering coming off it. But then I also started my period same time I started the pill and I've been bleeding for 11 days with it now. I don't know if the bleeding is coz it's my first AF after birth or if its the pill causing it.

 

[ttcbabyisom]

Well girls, back to the HOPEFUL phase of this whole journey, the 2WW! I'm 4DPO today I believe...that is if my chart is correct. So...doing my "pretty please" dance.


Also getting our answers and a better explanation today on all my blood work so fingers crossed! Hopefully we feel good after leaving the appointment and have a plan of action!

I'll catch up here soon ladies on this thread! to all of you!

 

[MrsDuck]

11 days omg, I have no idea if that's normal, what does dr google say I know you did say but why are you on the mini and not the normal pill? Was it to do with your iron levels?

I tried getting my dr to chase up the RAI treatment which he did but once you have been referred its out of his hands, this consultant has to refer me and until he gets around to it, the hospital won't send me an appointment. It's so annoying that this consultant holds all the cards to my future and there doesn't seem to be anything I can do about it

 

[baileybubs]

Hi ttc, nice to hear you are feeling hopeful and will get some results that can help soon too!! For everything crossed for a BFP for you soon sweetie!!

 

[MrsDuck]

Well girls, back to the HOPEFUL phase of this whole journey, the 2WW! I'm 4DPO today I believe...that is if my chart is correct. So...doing my "pretty please" dance.


Also getting our answers and a better explanation today on all my blood work so fingers crossed! Hopefully we feel good after leaving the appointment and have a plan of action!

I'll catch up here soon ladies on this thread! to all of you!

Ttc that is great news and I'm glad you are in a better place again to you xx

 

[baileybubs]

Just keep bombarding this consultant with emails and cc yourself into them so that you can put in a complaint if you get no joy. It really does suck that he holds your future plans in his hands!!

I've read that first AF after birth can be long I just don't know what's normal or abnormally long. I also know that some people bleed continuously when they start taking the mini pill so it could be that.
I can't go back on the combined pill coz my blood pressure is still high and it can cause blood clots, whereas the mini pill is just progesterone.

 

[MrsDuck]

Luckily I have kept everything and I am starting to compile a complaint, but I am waiting until after I have this scan just in case I need to deal with this department some more.

Do you have a follow up drs or mw appointment coming up that you can have a chat to?

In the meantime vent away to us xxxxxxx

 

[cupcake1981]

Hey ladies!!

Yey bailey is back, missed you chickadee. Sorry your df was useless and had ignored all the suggestions you'd made . Glad you have managed to sort some things out today tho. I must admit after hearing you all struggling with ur ohs I'm worried about the affect baby will have on my relationship with my hubby, we are so stupidly in love and im worried ill start to resent him when baby is here for whatever reason

Mrs d glad you had a lovely day yesterday. I'm livid for you that your letter is lost, idiots!!!! I hope your appointment gets rushed through now.

Amy I already think I know what you mean about not wanting to share your baby, I KNOW I'm going to feel like that when my little guy is born, not so much with hubby, but with everyone else who'll want a piece of him when he's here.

Ttc glad you are back on the ttc journey! Has your doc put you on high dose FA for the mthfr?

AFM I have been to Bath today with my rents and sis to visit some relatives, was lovely but 5 hours in the car has killed my back! Hubby and I are at stalemate about nursery paint at the mo, we bought some tester pots yesterday and I just hate blue walls . Cheryl where was your lovely wallpaper from? I know what you ladies mean about hormones baking everything worse. I still can't get past my fall out with my MIL, cos she basically won't admit she did anything wrong and I can't help but resent her for it. It's got to the point where I am avoiding my inlaws cos I feel awkward around them now, because I resent them, I don't really know what to do and hubby says they'll never admit they are in the wrong.

X

 

[baileybubs]

I think Cheryl got her wallpaper from mammas and papas cupcake!

And don't worry about how you and dh will be after the little guy arrives. Although we are struggling adjusting me and df still love each other very much, I think it's more about getting things balanced and into routine, I'm sure once we establish ourselves into our new rules as mummy and daddy we can properly make time to be a couple.
Plus you all know how useless my df was before she was even born, and I know I'm quite high maintainance so I don't make it any easier lol!!

 

[cupcake1981]

Oh did she bailey? There's no nice baby wallpaper anywhere I've seen. Ill look on M & P.

Hubby is taking a month off after baby is born, 2 weeks pat leave and 2 holiday, I'm worried ill come to rely on him too much and won't get into a routine, plus I don't want his rents here all the time as i want time with just us 3, plus with things still being awkward with them for me!

 

[cupcake1981]

Ooh I like this!

https://m.mamasandpapas.com/search.php?q=Wallpaper#product-7490H7000