Lucky thread

[Tawn]

Well I only got about 4 inches cut off, but feel much better for it. Now my hair isn't just hanging in two straight sheets on the sides of my face--anything is an improvement on that!

Aww Mummy, that was a pretty tough thing for DH to say. I think you need to have a chat about how you need to feel positive about ttc (after all I think you said your DH was like mine and worried about you being "sad" so I think being hopeful is much better!!!)

Bailey, oooohhh I would be MAD at OH if I were you! I don't blame you at all! When I had my pains last night, DH was ready to get a friend over to stay with stepson while he slept and take me to A&E. Your DH needs to (no offense) grow up a bit and realize he needs to support you through this difficult time in your life!

Cheryl, glad you were able to eat a bit hun. The pains are definitely in my tube, not my stomach (I remember my ectopic pain so well it is hard to forget) so it isn't poo related, unfortunately. How have things been in that arena for you lately, better?

Cupcake, you bake the most delicious things! I never received my lemon meringue pie by the way! Hope baking raises your spirits a bit love.

MrsD, did you tell me how you were feeling today? I think you forget how concerned we get for your well being!!!

AFM, the pains are off and on. Only really on the left and very throbby. Especially when I was sitting in the hairdressers chair for an hour, definitely feeling it then. But I am just going to hope and pray with all my might that it is just scar tissue from the old ectopic pinching as it stretches, and try to stay calm about it until I know either way.

I had massive MS this morning (gagging in the kitchen sink again ) and boobs are getting more sore so going to focus on the positives rather than the negatives! PMA!

I do have a question for you ladies though, if that is OK? DH wants to tell stepson about the baby as soon as we know it is in the uterus (he wants to be able to explain why I am so tired and why I've been feeling so sick before and after eating lately) so he is thinking we tell stepson after the scan, when I will be about 7 weeks. I think we should wait till 12 weeks just in case, but DH doesn't like the idea of our parents knowing (we are telling them tomorrow otherwise his mum will try and force wine down my throat! lol)

I understand a lot of the reasons he wants stepson to know, but I can't imagine having to tell him (he's 10) if we lost the baby.... What do you ladies think?

 

[MrsDuck]

Aw big hugs to you all sorry you are all having a shitty time atm xx

Night mummy, I bet you dh was just trying in his own little way of protecting you and he didn't see it from the PMA viewpoint x

Tawn I'm the same with my hair, I love the feel when it is first cut but my hair grows so quick and I can always think of something else that I would rather spend the money on. Tawn have you got time to go to a&e if you are still having pains just to be on the safe side xx

Bailey I don't want to give any relationship advice but if he was mine I would be giving him a good kick up the arse, I hope he comes to his senses xx

Cupcake enjoy your lemon drizzle cake yummm xx

Cheryl yay for getting your clients to wash off their own colour taking the pressure off you a bit xx

I'm fine thanks ladies for asking in fact I'm feeling much better today, I've got nothing planned for the weekend do I'm just going to go with the flow xx

 

[MrsDuck]

Oooh it's a tough one tawn, i know it's not the same but I told my 11 year old sister that I was having a baby and so she was going to be an aunty and then she was disappointed when it wasn't to be but she was fine and I think is just excited about the thought of being an aunty again one day hopefully soon xx

 

[Tawn]

Mrsd so glad you are feeling better hun! A go with the flow weekend sounds nice! Is DH still cooking for you?

No, don't think I will be going to a&e this weekend. If the pain gets steady rather than on and off I will go right away tho, I don't want to risk rupture.

Lying on the sofa watching friends, thinking about a nap lol. Lovely Saturday!!

 

[cupcake1981]

Aw Tawn it's a tough one, I see why your dh would want to tell him but at the same time telling anyone anything before 12 weeks is always a risk. He is very young, and might not be able to understand if god forbid anything happened (not that it will). As for your pain, is your epu open today? Could you call them and get some reassurance? X

Aw hun if you lived nearer I'd drop you off a slice! X

Mrs d are you ok today? Going to venture out today?

Bailey did you and oh talk?

Where's Cath today?

 

[MrsDuck]

Yeah you are probably right a&e will be really busy on a bank holiday weekend, but if it becomes unbearable again pls go we worry about you xx

An afternoon of tv and napping sounds good x

Yup hubby is still cooking but I'm probably ok to now but as soon as I do it once then that's it he will back off.....decisions decisions haha

 

[MrsDuck]

Hi cupcake :wave: what with you making cake and I'm watching a baking program I have the urge to cook x

 

[cupcake1981]

Hmm my cake mix was too big for tin and it's not looking great!

 

[baileybubs]

Hi ladies,

Tawn - hmmm that is a toughy, I know it would be hard on your step son if something were to happen after you told him, but just try and imagine what you would have done if you had never had the ectopic. Is he a mature 10 year old, or not likely to understand? I can see why your dh would want to tell him, and I'm sure your dh is just thinking that once you know that bubs is in the right place that theres nothing to worry about. We unfortunately know different coz of all our mc stories, but I think if you step son will understand then I would tell him, I suppose it depends whether you think you can hide it from him for another 5-6 weeks.

Mrs d - glad you are feeling better today hun xx

AFM - I have talked to oh, dont feel like I got anywhere though because to be honest theres nothing he can say atm that will make me feel better, he's always full of apologies and promises he will change and now I feel like its more about his actions than words, so only time will tell if he can show me he wants to be a father and a husband and be responsible. He did say though that he thought from my text that I had had the cramps and they had gone and that they were only IBS cramps, he didnt realise how upset I was and didnt think I was worried about mc because I had said they turned out to be IBS. I told him that I am ALWAYS worried about mc!! So we shall see, he has said that all he wants in life is to marry me and have this baby so I have said that his actions recently have shown me that he wants to drink at the pub with his mates, not be a dad and a husband. I've told him that I wont put the ring back on until I feel like he's shown me that me and baby are priority. So things arent fully ok with is now but better.

Oh and tawn I agree with mrs d, if the pain gets worse go to a&e, like you said you dont wanna risk rupture, but I am sure thats not the case anyway.

Cupcake what are you up to today hun?

Is is peeing down where everyone else is?

 

[baileybubs]

Doh ignore that cupcake I remember you are making lemon drizzle cake yummy!!!

 

[MrsDuck]

Aw bailey I'm glad you and your oh had a good chat and I hope he took everything on board and he cuts down on drinkies after work and cares for you better xx

No not peeing down here but blowing a gale. It peed down all day yesterday though with thunder and lightening x

Cupcake I bet it tastes lovely xx

 

[baileybubs]

Yeah we've had thunder this morning. So much for August eh?

Yeah I love lemon drizzle cupcake I bet it tastes yummy!! I make homemade scones and they look rough lol, but taste lush!!

 

[cupcake1981]

Hmmm it over flowed a bit but I think it's ok! Shoulda stick to what I know and made nigellas as usual!

Has anyone been on a thread that's in the birth section? Called funny birth stories or sonething, it's hilarious, I was proper almost wetting myself reading it!

 

[Tawn]

Bailey, glad you chatted with oh. Hope you feel a bit better about it! How is furry bailey feeling now?

Mrsduck yup you better hold Off on the cooking, milk it for all it's worth!!

Cupcake, it doesn't matter what it looks like more what it tastes like!!!!

I think you girls are right, maybe we will wait and see how we feel after the scan next week rather than make a decision right now.

 

[baileybubs]

Hey Tawn,

Glad its feeling a bit better by the sounds of it hun. And yay for the gagging again this morning!!

I do feel better and a little empowered lol, my male friend put something on my fb about it saying that apparently men like to think they are in control but really they need someone to control them otherwise they freak out and dont know what to do lol. I think that he's right as my fella would just go mental if I werent here to calm him down!

And furry Bailey is ok still limping though. He's not in pain but I have contacted a local vet but they will only take real emergencies at the weekend so I have had to send off an enquiry about him getting seen next week. I'm not gonna walk him and see if it gets better, and I really hope its all ok. I have been giving him dog milk with glucosamine and joint care treats to see if they help lol!!

Are you getting excited about your dad coming tomorrow?!

 

[baileybubs]

Cupcake I'm just reading that birth thread, some are so funny, thanks for recommending it, cheered me up no end!

 

[cupcake1981]

Lol it's hilarious right! I read it about 2 weeks after my mc and was the first time I'd laughed, but it Definately cheered me up to! Been meaning to mention it on here for ages!

 

[baileybubs]

My emotions are everywhere today! I'm feeling happy but weepy happy now lol, like if theres something sweet and cute in a storyline on what I'm watching on tv I'm like "aww that is so sweet" almost tearing up. I feel like how a caricaturist would depict a pregnant woman lol, all the extreme hormonal changes.

Some of those birth stories scare me though, like the diarrhea ones and stuff, eeek!!

 

[cupcake1981]

Haha they are scary, but whatever happens its unlikely you'll remember any if it when you have your baby in your arms! And there is always epidural!

 

[baileybubs]

I've said to oh that I want to do as much as I can with just gas and air, I want a water birth you see, but we will see lol!!