Wow SO much to reply to this morning!!!
First of all... Angel, CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is FANTASTIC NEWS!!!!!!! Yaaaaaaayyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Celebrating another awesome BFP for this group!!! I hope you are feeling great. I know it's so hard to stay positive after multiple losses (you and I both know this well), but please, please try. Is your doctor going to follow your betas or anything like that?? Sending you all the best! xox
Sweetz, I think I missed the announcement about the heartbeat but that is FAN-FREAKIN-TASTIC! So much good news on the boards today!! If you don't mind me asking, what is the status with your DH situation at the moment?
Lpkjp, so glad you are back and active on the board! We've missed ya. Sounds like some SUPER promising signs!!!!!!!!!!! With all pregnancies except this most recent one (#4) I have always *known* was pregnant well before the test. So trust your instincts. And also maybe consider trying a different brand to ease your mind about the evaps! lol.
Garfie, so glad you are also back more often these days! Your posts always make me laugh...this one included...LOVE that you broke your memory foam!!! LOL! I agree, we have one too and I have NO idea how you managed it. Must be some good baby dancin'and, Happy anniversary!!!!
I can't wait till we finally get married and can celebrate those milestones...
Never - so excited for your appt tomorrow! I can totally understand the excitement as I have never made it that far either (well the first time with my blighted ovum I was 11+6...but of course there was just a sac + yolk on ultrasound - NOT the same!). I'm really glad your DH is going with you! Awesome!! Pleeeasse post lots of picsxoxo
Lisalee - Also STOKED for your appt today! Yaay! Congrats sweetie! Keep us posted on how it goes. I love that you and Never are going so strongly into the 2nd tri.
Krissy - I cannot believe your husband is treating you that way! He sounds like he can be a real jackass! Do you ever stand up to him and argue back? Not trying to encourage you to do anything you're not comfortable with, but you really don't deserve to be pushed around by someone who is really not contributing!
HisGrace - Don't think we've formally "met", but I wanted to say that I read your journal a while back and what you wrote really spoke to me. You're an awesome writer and I can totally relate to the spiritual journey that you are on (in fact, I am still kind of on it). So anyway, welcome and really glad to have you here
BayBeeEm, that's exciting that you are considering a new job. What area do you work in now, and what area are you thinking of moving into? I can definitely relate, as lately I have been feeling more than disenchanted with my grad school studies (btw I still owe you a response to your PM about my background!). I've definitely been contemplating a change in career...although it is scary as what I am doing right now is very comfy both in the work and the $$.
I've actually been in a situation where I did conceive right before job interview. This was in January 2012, a time when I was also contemplating leaving school. I found out I was pregnant right before the interview, but decided to go for it anyway. It ended up going fairly well, but I decided after the fact that I wasn't going to take it anyway (and would stay in my program instead). I figured they just wouldn't call me for a follow-up interview, but they DID, that night, and wanted me to come in the next day to meet their financier. So I bit the bullet and disclosed the fact that I had just found out I was pregnant and that I probably wasn't the best candidate for them (they were a startup and needed somebody to work 50+ hour workweeks for at least the first year to get things going). It was the right choice for me, and it turned out they were very understanding. They ended up hiring me as a consultant! So far I've only done one small project for them, but they recently contacted me about another one this fall. So it worked out really well....but it was very specific circumstances. AND, obviously, I ended up losing that pregnancy as well, so that was a bit disappointing. I actually think that especially if you have experienced a loss, there is absolutely NO reason for you to disclose it until you are at least in the second trimester and more confident in the pregnancy. Unless of course, you are going to be super tired, nauseated, etc etc. Then it might be good to tell them sooner.
Not sure if that was helpful at all, but there you go...haha.
AFM....Thanks everyone for your kind comments about my loss, and the testing... They actually carried out tests after pregnancy #3, so I had the results before this most recent pregnancy...which is why I didn't go on anything (except progesterone + baby aspirin) for this pregnancy (since the results all came back normal). But yeah, onto more agressive options next time! Thanks for rooting for me
Other things, my poor Grandpa is in the hospitalHe is 85 and has been sick with some lung issues for the past few years. It got worse on the weekend so my grandma called and ambulance and they brought him in. My mom, aunt, and other family members are all there with him at the hospital. My mom and I have been texting and she thinks he won't last more than a few more days
I am very thankful that we were just up visiting with him earlier this month, and that I have been able to see them fairly regularly this past year (as opposed to previous years where I only say them once/yr). But it is going to be hard nevertheless. He was a very strong force in our family.
Wow SO much to reply to this morning!!!
First of all... Angel, CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is FANTASTIC NEWS!!!!!!! Yaaaaaaayyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Celebrating another awesome BFP for this group!!! I hope you are feeling great. I know it's so hard to stay positive after multiple losses (you and I both know this well), but please, please try. Is your doctor going to follow your betas or anything like that?? Sending you all the best! xox
Sweetz, I think I missed the announcement about the heartbeat but that is FAN-FREAKIN-TASTIC! So much good news on the boards today!! If you don't mind me asking, what is the status with your DH situation at the moment?
Lpkjp, so glad you are back and active on the board! We've missed ya. Sounds like some SUPER promising signs!!!!!!!!!!! With all pregnancies except this most recent one (#4) I have always *known* was pregnant well before the test. So trust your instincts. And also maybe consider trying a different brand to ease your mind about the evaps! lol.
Garfie, so glad you are also back more often these days! Your posts always make me laugh...this one included...LOVE that you broke your memory foam!!! LOL! I agree, we have one too and I have NO idea how you managed it. Must be some good baby dancin'
Never - so excited for your appt tomorrow! I can totally understand the excitement as I have never made it that far either (well the first time with my blighted ovum I was 11+6...but of course there was just a sac + yolk on ultrasound - NOT the same!). I'm really glad your DH is going with you! Awesome!! Pleeeasse post lots of pics
Lisalee - Also STOKED for your appt today! Yaay! Congrats sweetie! Keep us posted on how it goes. I love that you and Never are going so strongly into the 2nd tri.
Krissy - I cannot believe your husband is treating you that way! He sounds like he can be a real jackass! Do you ever stand up to him and argue back? Not trying to encourage you to do anything you're not comfortable with, but you really don't deserve to be pushed around by someone who is really not contributing!
HisGrace - Don't think we've formally "met", but I wanted to say that I read your journal a while back and what you wrote really spoke to me. You're an awesome writer and I can totally relate to the spiritual journey that you are on (in fact, I am still kind of on it). So anyway, welcome and really glad to have you here
BayBeeEm, that's exciting that you are considering a new job. What area do you work in now, and what area are you thinking of moving into? I can definitely relate, as lately I have been feeling more than disenchanted with my grad school studies (btw I still owe you a response to your PM about my background!). I've definitely been contemplating a change in career...although it is scary as what I am doing right now is very comfy both in the work and the $$.
I've actually been in a situation where I did conceive right before job interview. This was in January 2012, a time when I was also contemplating leaving school. I found out I was pregnant right before the interview, but decided to go for it anyway. It ended up going fairly well, but I decided after the fact that I wasn't going to take it anyway (and would stay in my program instead). I figured they just wouldn't call me for a follow-up interview, but they DID, that night, and wanted me to come in the next day to meet their financier. So I bit the bullet and disclosed the fact that I had just found out I was pregnant and that I probably wasn't the best candidate for them (they were a startup and needed somebody to work 50+ hour workweeks for at least the first year to get things going). It was the right choice for me, and it turned out they were very understanding. They ended up hiring me as a consultant! So far I've only done one small project for them, but they recently contacted me about another one this fall. So it worked out really well....but it was very specific circumstances. AND, obviously, I ended up losing that pregnancy as well, so that was a bit disappointing. I actually think that especially if you have experienced a loss, there is absolutely NO reason for you to disclose it until you are at least in the second trimester and more confident in the pregnancy. Unless of course, you are going to be super tired, nauseated, etc etc. Then it might be good to tell them sooner.
Not sure if that was helpful at all, but there you go...haha.
AFM....Thanks everyone for your kind comments about my loss, and the testing... They actually carried out tests after pregnancy #3, so I had the results before this most recent pregnancy...which is why I didn't go on anything (except progesterone + baby aspirin) for this pregnancy (since the results all came back normal). But yeah, onto more agressive options next time! Thanks for rooting for me
Other things, my poor Grandpa is in the hospital
Words do stay with you. I've been thinking lately how some people have said things to me that I really have never forgotten. I try to remember that if the people who said them don't matter, the words themselves don't matter either.
It's really sad when people try to bring you down to their level of negativity. I'm happy that you met someone better who appreciates you.
he finally accepted that I was strong and had moved on and didn't need/want him anymore 
Armymama - Does he treat you as if you are one of his minions in the army?
That was how my ex hubby treated me - he was also in the army it started just by shouting and quickly escalated.
I thought it was me not being a good wife, entertainer etc (sounding familiar?) thought it was the pressures of his job, the fact we had a small child etc etc - yes I made all the excuses under the sun for him. There was no one to talk through it all with either as the army is a very closed group and besides did I want to disgrace him?
Then one day I woke up and thought I've had enough I cannot see me being with this bully for the rest of my life, grow old together etc and that was when I felt calm as a huge decision had been made.
I hope the time apart can give you both some breathing space hun and if you need to vent, talk or just bitch about him you know we are all here for you
X
