March/April BFP's who's going for it!! NEW LADIES COME JOIN IN!!

[Mariahs Mom]

So many posts have been put since I last logged on. Goodness, I am far out of the loop!

Laelani - I am right there with you on the symptom spotting. I am trying hard not too, but I feel so different right now. Although my body has played some mean tricks on me before. I still have Saturday before my AF is suppose to show so I still have a ways to go.

ES & Kat - I am sorry about your BFN.

Sweetz - I am pretty shocked! You would think a doctor would be quick on helping you out instead of making you go through all of this bs. I hope you can find a doctor real soon to help you.

Army - Congrats! I am super excited for you.

Brunette - I really do hope you get to feeling better soon.

Mariahsmom - Just have to keep being positive! Relax and enjoy your pregnancy! I know it is easier said than done, but it sounds to me like things are going right. Don't stress so much.

TTCbabyisom - Good luck on your testing tomorrow. I got my FX for you! Throwing that your way.

Thanks You're soooooo right...let me be thankful and shut up hahaha...thanks

 

[mowat]

Good luck testing TTCbabyisom! Let us know!

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Testing in the morning ya'll and hoping for the best. I've been spotting since 9dpo and i NEVER do that. Had some cramping too but today has subsided on both fronts and my temp went up a little so i'm really hoping we did it this time.

I'll properly catch up later!

Good luck...Fx'd for u!!!!!!!!!

 

[Sweetz33]

GL TTC!!!!! FX!!!

So, after making over 15 calls, I FINALLY got in touch with the right people. The high risk OB/GYN called me back and I told them the situation. The lady was really nice. She said just have the ER send over the records and we will use those. Spoke to medical records at the hospital I was seen at. The guy there said do a request, fax it over, and they will send them out. He said put on it that I needed the records as fast as possible so I could make an appointment with a high risk OB, that way they fax it out same day. I was relieved. *ahhhhh* I can breathe now.

 

[Mariahs Mom]

GL TTC!!!!! FX!!!

So, after making over 15 calls, I FINALLY got in touch with the right people. The high risk OB/GYN called me back and I told them the situation. The lady was really nice. She said just have the ER send over the records and we will use those. Spoke to medical records at the hospital I was seen at. The guy there said do a request, fax it over, and they will send them out. He said put on it that I needed the records as fast as possible so I could make an appointment with a high risk OB, that way they fax it out same day. I was relieved. *ahhhhh* I can breathe now.

I'm co glad everything worked out!!!

 

[Sweetz33]

gl ttc!!!!! Fx!!!

So, after making over 15 calls, i finally got in touch with the right people. The high risk ob/gyn called me back and i told them the situation. The lady was really nice. She said just have the er send over the records and we will use those. Spoke to medical records at the hospital i was seen at. The guy there said do a request, fax it over, and they will send them out. He said put on it that i needed the records as fast as possible so i could make an appointment with a high risk ob, that way they fax it out same day. I was relieved. *ahhhhh* i can breathe now.

i'm co glad everything worked out!!!

me too!!!

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Sooooooo my due date is the same week that I lost my angel Mariah ...I confirmed this preg 3 days before she would've been due! ....is this creepy or a blessing?!?!

 

[eyemom]

Mariahs Mom, I think you are due an easy pregnancy!! Try to enjoy as much as you can. As for the due date, that is a wild coincidence. I don't find it creepy though...maybe count it as a beautiful blessing during what might otherwise be a pretty sad and difficult time.

ttcbabyisom, I was just wondering about you! I've really had my hopes up for you this time around. Fx this is IT!!!

Sweetz, oh that is such a relief! Glad it's working out now.

AFM, took my last Clomid pill tonight. Still no problems, not even headaches or hot flashes. I'm mentally preparing myself for being crazy and hormonal after I ovulate, but so far so good. Getting kind of excited to ttc. I'm still scared the Clomid won't work, but last few cycles I haven't been especially hopeful. So it's exciting to have something to be optimistic about again.

 

[ESwemba84]

Good luck ttcbabyisom! Can't wait to see what the result is!

AFM, still no AF! I started a new job tonight, so it kinda kept my mind busy. Still having symptoms, and it keep having waves of thinking AF is about to start, but it always goes away. I don't have any more tests, but I'm just gonna get $$ store tests until AF shows or it turns positive.

 

[brunettebimbo]

Grrr FF changed my crosshairs again! Hoping they don't move again. Our chance went from high to good!

 

[Kat S]

Sweetz, I'm so glad you are able to see someone FINALLY!!

Mariahsmom, I think it's totally normal to be freaked out by that. I hope you'll be able to work through it and enjoy this pregnancy, though. I think that's a fear we all have: not being able to enjoy the new pregnancy due to fears of what happened before. *hugs*

Eyemom, good luck stimming!

Brunette, ugh, the ovulation thing is just not the exact science we wish it would be.

AFM, So last night I did something stupid. I tried to talk to my husband about The Anniversary (of the m/c) and how I was sad this week. It immediately turned into a conversation about Jason and how it's fine that there's nothing he can do and that I'm not mad at him. Then he ran away to play a video game.

So then I thought "OK, I'll talk to my best girlfriends about it." I try not to bore them with TTC talk, so I thought I'd earned a "It's the anniversary of my miscarriage and I'm sad" chat. After like 5 minutes, the conversation turned to how I talk about it too much and I should be more like Lady Mary from Downton Abbey who "didn't talk about such things". This after millions of pledges about how I can talk to them ANY time about it. The reasoning behind that was the thought that my talking about it perpetuates my sadness about my situation. NO, my situation perpetuates sadness about my situation. They said I should especially stop reading posts on this board and talking on this board because they say it's keeping me sad and grieving and unable to move on. How can I move on from something that is ongoing?? So I'm totally pissed and feel unsupported. Apparently my family and friends just want me to never talk about it because it makes them uncomfortable.

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Sweetz, I'm so glad you are able to see someone FINALLY!!

Mariahsmom, I think it's totally normal to be freaked out by that. I hope you'll be able to work through it and enjoy this pregnancy, though. I think that's a fear we all have: not being able to enjoy the new pregnancy due to fears of what happened before. *hugs*

Eyemom, good luck stimming!

Brunette, ugh, the ovulation thing is just not the exact science we wish it would be.

AFM, So last night I did something stupid. I tried to talk to my husband about The Anniversary (of the m/c) and how I was sad this week. It immediately turned into a conversation about Jason and how it's fine that there's nothing he can do and that I'm not mad at him. Then he ran away to play a video game.

So then I thought "OK, I'll talk to my best girlfriends about it." I try not to bore them with TTC talk, so I thought I'd earned a "It's the anniversary of my miscarriage and I'm sad" chat. After like 5 minutes, the conversation turned to how I talk about it too much and I should be more like Lady Mary from Downton Abbey who "didn't talk about such things". This after millions of pledges about how I can talk to them ANY time about it. The reasoning behind that was the thought that my talking about it perpetuates my sadness about my situation. NO, my situation perpetuates sadness about my situation. They said I should especially stop reading posts on this board and talking on this board because they say it's keeping me sad and grieving and unable to move on. How can I move on from something that is ongoing?? So I'm totally pissed and feel unsupported. Apparently my family and friends just want me to never talk about it because it makes them uncomfortable.

You know what, you're totally right!! I need to relax and enjoy this blessing growing inside me. Thank you

Now, as far as what your friends said I can't believe them! How insensitive. You should be able to talk abt it as much as you want. You're the one grieving not them UGHHHHHHHH. You guys have helped me soooooooo much on this board and we are all here for you. Some ppl need to realize, it may be uncomfortable to them but SO WHAT! They didn't go through this, you did! So just get over it. Now I'm pissed. I had the same convo wit my brothers and cousins. So I know how you feel.

 

[Starry Night]

Kat - I am so sorry of how your friends spoke to you. I don't know why people think being sad is such a horrible thing. It's a valid emotion and better expressed then pent up inside. Like any other surpressed emotion, sadness festers if trapped up. Also, I don't think people understand that grief is fluid and comes in cycles. You can be doing fine for awhile and then bam! something reminds you and you're sad again. And with a child, the loss is so close to our hearts that every time the sadness comes back it is really dear to us. You can 'move on' (ie. have a functional life) and still be sad. I wish people could comprehend that. Anniversaries are always going to be hard.

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Mariahs Mom, I think you are due an easy pregnancy!! Try to enjoy as much as you can. As for the due date, that is a wild coincidence. I don't find it creepy though...maybe count it as a beautiful blessing during what might otherwise be a pretty sad and difficult time.

ttcbabyisom, I was just wondering about you! I've really had my hopes up for you this time around. Fx this is IT!!!

Sweetz, oh that is such a relief! Glad it's working out now.

AFM, took my last Clomid pill tonight. Still no problems, not even headaches or hot flashes. I'm mentally preparing myself for being crazy and hormonal after I ovulate, but so far so good. Getting kind of excited to ttc. I'm still scared the Clomid won't work, but last few cycles I haven't been especially hopeful. So it's exciting to have something to be optimistic about again.

Thank you I will do just that; count it as a blessing!!

I have Fx'd for u this cycle

 

[ttcbabyisom]

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Awwww I'm so sorry

 

[ESwemba84]

Ttcbabyisom
I'm so sorry.

Kat, that is so frustrating! I was pissed reading it. It sounds like you feel completely unsupported in something that should be more open to discussion. And from my experience, talking about MC and infertility is the BEST thing I have done. That's why I go to an infertility support group......actually, you should look into that as well. I feel I can't talk to my husband about a lot of the stuff I can bring up within the group. Anyway, just a suggestion.

Sweets, glad you finally got some answer from the doctors end!

Eyemom, good luck with this cycle! I hope the clomid works for you!

Mariah's Mom, it might be a blessing. Now you have something to look forward to, and while it definitely doesn't take the pain away from your loss, your 2nd baby will bring you joy and excitement and help ease the pain of those anniversaries.

AFM, CD25! And my boobs are still sore! I'm not testing today, but if AF still isn't here tomorrow, it'll be the first thing I do!

 

[mackjess]

Kat, I'm so sorry about your friends. If it helps any, I think about you lot and wish you well and pray you get your miracle baby. I hope that this board doesn't prolong things for you or keep you from moving on, but like you said, you are going through this, currently, how can you not feel this way? I don't really have anything to offer because I realize long term TTC is a whole different ball game of tests/procedures/treatments, etc than I've experienced. I know one of my friends has been trouble TTC, for about 5 years, and I never really understood what she was going through until my m/c then I started going nuts TTC. I know it hurts her, she wants to know why I can get pregnant and she can't. If she had said that and I hadn't had a loss, I think it might have hurt my feelings but I'm more understanding that I had been before. We're here for you whatever you need.

 

[brunettebimbo]

Removed CM from CD14 and 15 because I couldn't be sure whether it was watery or creamy and it put O date back!

 

[eyemom]

ES, glad AF is staying away. Hope the new job is great...do I have my story straight...your last job was pretty miserable? Hope this is a great thing for you. Also, I think Dollar Store tests are great.

Kat, I'm so sorry you didn't find the support you needed where you should have been able to find support! That's kind of infuriating. We're not "real life," but we are here for you. I agree a support group might be a good thing if you have access to one. It's too much to bear all on your own.

ttcbabyisom, I'm so sorry

brunette, that puts your ov date back where you want it, right? Hope this is right then! Wishing you the best

AFM, CD10 and after thinking about it, we're going to start our every-other-day BD tonight even though I probably won't ovulate for another 4-6 days or so. I've heard that on Clomid it usually takes ~5 days or so after the last pill to ovulate, but I've also heard of some ladies missing the window. Which I do NOT want to happen on a medicated cycle. So I figure this way we'll have our bases covered and we'll have some good fresh swimmers for whenever it is ovulation time.