March/April BFP's who's going for it!! NEW LADIES COME JOIN IN!!

[nevergivingup]

Sweetz, I'm so glad you are able to see someone FINALLY!!

Mariahsmom, I think it's totally normal to be freaked out by that. I hope you'll be able to work through it and enjoy this pregnancy, though. I think that's a fear we all have: not being able to enjoy the new pregnancy due to fears of what happened before. *hugs*

Eyemom, good luck stimming!

Brunette, ugh, the ovulation thing is just not the exact science we wish it would be.

AFM, So last night I did something stupid. I tried to talk to my husband about The Anniversary (of the m/c) and how I was sad this week. It immediately turned into a conversation about Jason and how it's fine that there's nothing he can do and that I'm not mad at him. Then he ran away to play a video game.

So then I thought "OK, I'll talk to my best girlfriends about it." I try not to bore them with TTC talk, so I thought I'd earned a "It's the anniversary of my miscarriage and I'm sad" chat. After like 5 minutes, the conversation turned to how I talk about it too much and I should be more like Lady Mary from Downton Abbey who "didn't talk about such things". This after millions of pledges about how I can talk to them ANY time about it. The reasoning behind that was the thought that my talking about it perpetuates my sadness about my situation. NO, my situation perpetuates sadness about my situation. They said I should especially stop reading posts on this board and talking on this board because they say it's keeping me sad and grieving and unable to move on. How can I move on from something that is ongoing?? So I'm totally pissed and feel unsupported. Apparently my family and friends just want me to never talk about it because it makes them uncomfortable.

Sweetz, I'm so glad you are able to see someone FINALLY!!

Mariahsmom, I think it's totally normal to be freaked out by that. I hope you'll be able to work through it and enjoy this pregnancy, though. I think that's a fear we all have: not being able to enjoy the new pregnancy due to fears of what happened before. *hugs*

Eyemom, good luck stimming!

Brunette, ugh, the ovulation thing is just not the exact science we wish it would be.

AFM, So last night I did something stupid. I tried to talk to my husband about The Anniversary (of the m/c) and how I was sad this week. It immediately turned into a conversation about Jason and how it's fine that there's nothing he can do and that I'm not mad at him. Then he ran away to play a video game.

So then I thought "OK, I'll talk to my best girlfriends about it." I try not to bore them with TTC talk, so I thought I'd earned a "It's the anniversary of my miscarriage and I'm sad" chat. After like 5 minutes, the conversation turned to how I talk about it too much and I should be more like Lady Mary from Downton Abbey who "didn't talk about such things". This after millions of pledges about how I can talk to them ANY time about it. The reasoning behind that was the thought that my talking about it perpetuates my sadness about my situation. NO, my situation perpetuates sadness about my situation. They said I should especially stop reading posts on this board and talking on this board because they say it's keeping me sad and grieving and unable to move on. How can I move on from something that is ongoing?? So I'm totally pissed and feel unsupported. Apparently my family and friends just want me to never talk about it because it makes them uncomfortable.

Kat S: If it's no offense to you tell your friends to go Blow themselves!!! And being that they're women they'll be awhile trying to perform it so that should keep them and their negativity out of your ear. Wasn't going to repind just skimming but that made me so mad. They'll never understand what we go through daily. These boards have nothing to do with us stressing bc I haven't been on here continuously and I ended up getting depressed and sad all over again for my first angel baby bc I ended up finding my notebook where I wrote everything down ab my first pregnancy all the way up to my DNC and every pain that followed I written down. After reading it my heart was heavy even though my LO was right in front of me it's just a hole that won't seem to fill no matter how hard I try the first m/c took a lot out of me bc I really wanted that baby. Enough about me Kat S, don't you ever feel bad for needing to talk ab your angel baby if you have no one else remember we're here for you always bc we have been there and people like me are still stuck there, hang in there Kat

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Sweetz, I'm so glad you are able to see someone FINALLY!!

Mariahsmom, I think it's totally normal to be freaked out by that. I hope you'll be able to work through it and enjoy this pregnancy, though. I think that's a fear we all have: not being able to enjoy the new pregnancy due to fears of what happened before. *hugs*

Eyemom, good luck stimming!

Brunette, ugh, the ovulation thing is just not the exact science we wish it would be.

AFM, So last night I did something stupid. I tried to talk to my husband about The Anniversary (of the m/c) and how I was sad this week. It immediately turned into a conversation about Jason and how it's fine that there's nothing he can do and that I'm not mad at him. Then he ran away to play a video game.

So then I thought "OK, I'll talk to my best girlfriends about it." I try not to bore them with TTC talk, so I thought I'd earned a "It's the anniversary of my miscarriage and I'm sad" chat. After like 5 minutes, the conversation turned to how I talk about it too much and I should be more like Lady Mary from Downton Abbey who "didn't talk about such things". This after millions of pledges about how I can talk to them ANY time about it. The reasoning behind that was the thought that my talking about it perpetuates my sadness about my situation. NO, my situation perpetuates sadness about my situation. They said I should especially stop reading posts on this board and talking on this board because they say it's keeping me sad and grieving and unable to move on. How can I move on from something that is ongoing?? So I'm totally pissed and feel unsupported. Apparently my family and friends just want me to never talk about it because it makes them uncomfortable.

Sweetz, I'm so glad you are able to see someone FINALLY!!

Mariahsmom, I think it's totally normal to be freaked out by that. I hope you'll be able to work through it and enjoy this pregnancy, though. I think that's a fear we all have: not being able to enjoy the new pregnancy due to fears of what happened before. *hugs*

Eyemom, good luck stimming!

Brunette, ugh, the ovulation thing is just not the exact science we wish it would be.

AFM, So last night I did something stupid. I tried to talk to my husband about The Anniversary (of the m/c) and how I was sad this week. It immediately turned into a conversation about Jason and how it's fine that there's nothing he can do and that I'm not mad at him. Then he ran away to play a video game.

So then I thought "OK, I'll talk to my best girlfriends about it." I try not to bore them with TTC talk, so I thought I'd earned a "It's the anniversary of my miscarriage and I'm sad" chat. After like 5 minutes, the conversation turned to how I talk about it too much and I should be more like Lady Mary from Downton Abbey who "didn't talk about such things". This after millions of pledges about how I can talk to them ANY time about it. The reasoning behind that was the thought that my talking about it perpetuates my sadness about my situation. NO, my situation perpetuates sadness about my situation. They said I should especially stop reading posts on this board and talking on this board because they say it's keeping me sad and grieving and unable to move on. How can I move on from something that is ongoing?? So I'm totally pissed and feel unsupported. Apparently my family and friends just want me to never talk about it because it makes them uncomfortable.

Kat S: If it's no offense to you tell your friends to go Blow themselves!!! And being that they're women they'll be awhile trying to perform it so that should keep them and their negativity out of your ear. Wasn't going to repind just skimming but that made me so mad. They'll never understand what we go through daily. These boards have nothing to do with us stressing bc I haven't been on here continuously and I ended up getting depressed and sad all over again for my first angel baby bc I ended up finding my notebook where I wrote everything down ab my first pregnancy all the way up to my DNC and every pain that followed I written down. After reading it my heart was heavy even though my LO was right in front of me it's just a hole that won't seem to fill no matter how hard I try the first m/c took a lot out of me bc I really wanted that baby. Enough about me Kat S, don't you ever feel bad for needing to talk ab your angel baby if you have no one else remember we're here for you always bc we have been there and people like me are still stuck there, hang in there Kat

Nevergivingup I love this. Perfectly written

 

[Sweetz33]

TTC so sorry sweety *hugs*

Kat........I agree with Never....tell them to shove it where the sun don't shine. Seriously. They have no clue what you are going through....us ladies on the board do. We have been there, we know it doesn't just "go away". Pardon my wording but Fuck them and their superficial friendship!!!! TRUE friends, even if they don't understand, will BE understanding!!! ARRRGGGHH!!!! That whole thing pissed me off....

One of my friends I have know for well over a decade when she heard about my last miscarriage gave me a so what attitude about it, even down to saying in a FB post "IDK why people that lose a pregnancy in the first few weeks are so sad...it isn't a baby, it's a f****** tadpole!" I was so hurt and upset that I chewed her out BIG TIME! BIG falling out. About 4 months later, I get an email from her asking to talk. I logged onto IM and just said "what..." (the wound was still fresh....) This was her response.....I saved it bc it showed me how people who are willing to change can and will.

"I wanted to apologize for my harsh comment a few months ago about your miscarriage. I was a heartless jerk. I saw an episode of one of my favorite TV shows in which one of the characters had a miscarriage, right about the same week as you. Watching it from that perspective, even though it wasn't real, hit me so hard and I started crying. I didn't realize that when something like that happens, it affects every aspect of your life...physically, emotionally and mentally. I didn't realize that the baby already had a heartbeat, little toes, little finger, etc. Then afterwards having to deal with the hormones, the loss, the possible fights with your mates....and then idiots like me who post stupid shit online. I am so very sorry, so so sorry. Please forgive me."

That message from he was so heartfelt and sincere. Granted it took a TV show to open her eyes, but it also mended our friendship. Some people can have their eyes opened and understand. They need to want to make the effort though.

 

[eyemom]

Thank you never and sweetz, that's perfect. That's great to see that people can change and have the humility to confess when they were wrong. People just don't understand that when you have a miscarriage, especially when you want the child sooo so desperately, you grieve just as much...the loss is just as great...as if you lost a child you'd gotten to bring into this world and hold and raise and play with.... You don't just "get over it." It's something you live with forever.

Love you ladies.

 

[mowat]

Wow Kat. So so sorry. Nothing to add really, I think the others have said it better than I could. Just so you know, I think I start to cry (I don't usually let myself cry completely) almost every day, and my last miscarriage was about 6 months ago.

 

[Starry Night]

My mom recently told me she was talking with a lady who shared she had had a m/c about 50 years ago and as this woman talked about her miscarriage she got tears in her eyes. It doesn't go away and that is normal and fine and good.

afm - just a quick update: found out we are having a girl. Also, everything from the scan was perfect. This really is my first normal pregnancy. Feeling very blessed.

 

[nevergivingup]

O my I just realized why I got on these boards and why I'm still here bc y'all women are so awesome that I began to tear up reading everyone's responses bc we're all here together ----->ok my corny moment is over...

Starry: YAYYYY FOR TEAM GIRL!!!! Glad everything went great now as I always say sit bk and relax!!

Sweetz: Your story gave me hope that I may can talk to my friends ab my 3 losses bc I still struggle in my mind and mourn my angels.

 

[nevergivingup]

Wow Kat. So so sorry. Nothing to add really, I think the others have said it better than I could. Just so you know, I think I start to cry (I don't usually let myself cry completely) almost every day, and my last miscarriage was about 6 months ago.

Mowat 6 months is still very fresh it's ok to cry. It's been a year and some for me and I still day dream sadly about what ifs???

 

[Mariahs Mom]

My mom recently told me she was talking with a lady who shared she had had a m/c about 50 years ago and as this woman talked about her miscarriage she got tears in her eyes. It doesn't go away and that is normal and fine and good.

afm - just a quick update: found out we are having a girl. Also, everything from the scan was perfect. This really is my first normal pregnancy. Feeling very blessed.

Congrats on the little girl!!!! I'm hoping that I have a normal & healthy pregnancy too...

 

[nevergivingup]

Sorry ab your bfn, don't lose hope as long as you fight for what you want your dream will come true

 

[eyemom]

mowat

Starry, that's such great news. I am so happy for you. Bring on the pink.

never

 

[mowat]

Awesome Starry!

 

[ESwemba84]

Starry, that's wonderful! I'm so happy for you!

AF got me. Right in the middle of my work shift! Thanks a lot, nature.

 

[eyemom]

Well poop. Sorry ES.

 

[brunettebimbo]

ES I'm sorry

Starry yay for girl

 

[Unexpected212]

Sorry AF Got you Eswemba

Congrats Starry. Team pink! That's amazing.

As for me I'm just suffering from epic morning sickness but still feeling blessed and greatful for this gift. I'll gladly take all the suffering for a healthy baby at the end.

 

[Mariahs Mom]

Es- sorry abt AF...

Unexpected- I 100% agree. As much as I am dreading the morning sickness, I will definitely endure it all if it means I can bring my baby home in 9 months!!!!!!!

 

[Kat S]

Ugh, ES, I'm sorry to hear that I think I'm only a few hours behind you. I feel The Cramps coming on.

Starry, a girl!! Oh what a dream! Congratulations!

 

[Starry Night]

ES - sorry that AF caught you.

 

[ESwemba84]

I'm glad you girls recognize that MS will be worth it in the end. A friend of mine who knows about my fertility issues, and who also just told me she's 8 weeks pregnant, was complaining about her MS. I told her I'd kill for that, and it is usually a sign of a healthy pregnancy.......

I'm having some serious cramps and a raging headache today. I'm off work today, so I'm just lounging, and I *might* get around to cleaning...