March Mamas 2012 Baby Group (Closed Group)

[lauraclili]

Emera! Go you!

 

[mitchnorm]

Havent got the skills of emera....but am managing to type to you all on phone whilst soakingg in bath. Hubby equipped with a bottle of expressed milk so should be ok...though there are already baby cries downstairs hmmmmm. Sure he'll be fine
I am feeling a little down today....inadequate for bringing up this baby....hormones may have reared their ugly head again...hope thats all it is. Hubby back.to work tomorrow after 4 days off too so sure that has an impact on.way i am feelibg

I think.i.am doing ok....but anyone else still feel unprepared to do this job??!!

 

[loolindley]

That's exactly how I feel Mitch. Especially when she screams for hours on end and I can't soothe her. It breaks my heart and makes me feel crap.

I've been having one of those days too. I miss Al as he always seems to be at work/ at the house/ sleeping. I can't wait until we are moved in and it's the 3 of us, but that also scares the crap out of me because my Mum is helping me so much at the moment and I'll have to start doing everything myself. Gah!

I'm hoping things will be a lot easier a few weeks down the line and I can see what a good job I'm doing. Hopefully.

 

[vitfawifetobe]

Ladies we have just tried mam pacci but e just gag i think its too big4 her mouth. it was 0 but looks huge . she is currently sleeping on hubby so defo not hungry she jus fed 60mins feed

hubby is going to go c if we can get a smaller one any suggestion to smaller teet? is the a rigjt way to put them in or right side

 

[mitchnorm]

Glad i am not the only one Loo for us both......

I am worried cos hubby is back to work and she is going through this grizzly phase...hope i will cope ok. He is soooo good with her....and can magic the wind out of her. Makes me feel a bit inadequate. Although i seem to be able to get her to settle to sleep...most of the time. Just didnt realise how challenging this would be...and how much guess work would be involved. There is no rule book i guess.

Dont get me wrong ladies...i love every bit of her and even when she is having a grizzly moment...face all screwed up...i still think she is the most beautiful thing in the world...i just hope i am good enough for her. She deserves the best

 

[Glowstar]

Vitfa J did that a couple of times at first....she'll get the hang of it

Mitch/Loo I feel like that and this is my 3rd it's NOT easy but I am sure we will all get there

Emera - nice work

MW was here this morning and J is now 8lb 3oz since Friday (was 8.1). OH was saying about how he can't wait for J to do more things and she said that she prefers this age and we will look back in 6-9 months and wish this age all over again.

 

[lauraclili]

I am worried cos hubby is back to work and she is going through this grizzly phase...hope i will cope ok. He is soooo good with her....and can magic the wind out of her. Makes me feel a bit inadequate. Although i seem to be able to get her to settle to sleep...most of the time. Just didnt realise how challenging this would be...and how much guess work would be involved. There is no rule book i guess.

Dont get me wrong ladies...i love every bit of her and even when she is having a grizzly moment...face all screwed up...i still think she is the most beautiful thing in the world...i just hope i am good enough for her. She deserves the best

I exactly know how this feels. Sometimes I worry that I'm not doing a good enough job, sometimes that I'm going to let her down or do something wrong, sometime that I don't love her enough even though I love her so much it makes me feel weepy.

X

 

[Mrs Cupcake]

go emera!

no ideas on the name for the wrap but i agree its very pretty - what's wrong with mr hoots?!

i think there must be something about 3 weeks old as loads of babies seem to go through a difficult patch then. it will pass mitch. im sure you will miss hubby. mine has another week off and im already dreading him going back because he is so helpful with making me drinks and passing me stuff as well as winding and nappy changes...

i think i have just been the victim of R's first comfort feed. i thought it was a bit soon as he fed just an hour ago. he latched on and then after a few half hearted sucks has gone to sleep... i hope this isnt a sign of things to come!

 

[vitfawifetobe]

Havent got the skills of emera....but am managing to type to you all on phone whilst soakingg in bath. Hubby equipped with a bottle of expressed milk so should be ok...though there are already baby cries downstairs hmmmmm. Sure he'll be fine
I am feeling a little down today....inadequate for bringing up this baby....hormones may have reared their ugly head again...hope thats all it is. Hubby back.to work tomorrow after 4 days off too so sure that has an impact on.way i am feelibg

I think.i.am doing ok....but anyone else still feel unprepared to do this job??!!

Mitch i could have written that whole post - mind reader -my hubby is amazing with - rashinal, and can make decision and so do hrlpgul at nihht im terrifed - cried alot about it today - hugs xx

 

[mitchnorm]

Thanks ladies...you always wonder if you are the only person feeling this way and then feel guilty about it. ....thanks for being here

Glow...great news about weight going up....J is a real cutie...loving the pics on fb

 

[vitfawifetobe]

Im terrifed of it glow it also looks huge
does it go in a specific way

 

[emera35]

Lads, you are all doing just fine, its a pretty steep learning curve this being a Mum thing!! Its not a walk in the park, and yes, you'll make mistakes and miss things and get it wrong..... and every time you do, you'll learn something and get better and better at it until you look back suddenly and laugh at yourself and wonder what the worry was for!
Saying that, i still feel totally inadequate for the job! Why isn't there a manual and rules and, seriously, who the heck thought it was a good idea to let people have babies and then let them "look after" them and raise them with no sort of training or qualifications at all?!?!? Oh, and on top of it all you have to do this on the job training whilst undergoing the worst sleep deprivation you've ever experienced and with raging hormones! To be honest i'm just pleased if i can get the nappy on the right end of the baby half the time!

It does get easier and you do gain confidence, keep the faith lads, we are all in this together!


About gagging on dummies, it might be too long for your babber's palate? F gags on them too sometimes. i give them to her by teasing her top lip as you would for a feed and let her take it in her mouth rather than just popping it in, it helps

Oh also, don't feel inadequate about winding. All Dad's are better at winding, it's just a thing I think its the bigger hands? OH can produce burps in seconds when i've been trying forever! In my thinking its just a great excuse to finish a feed and hand 'em on over with a "i need your amazing skills honey!" type comment Also F will often settle with OH if i've been trying for ages too. Sometimes i think babies need a change of scenery/smell etc as much as adults do!

OTher thing i think might be handy to share. Don't underestimate the strength of their little personalities already. They are very young, but they are little people and they are very individual. Roh and F look quite similar, but they are already noticably totally different in personality! F's facial expressions and mannerisms and her "look" (glare! ) are all very different, and so are the things she likes and dislikes! I think the key is spending time figuring out what they like, and who they are. For example F loves having her feet rubbed, loves looking at the bookcases and hates being held cradle style (like a baby). She loves being bounced gently, and isn't keen on falling asleep in the dark! Maybe if you get a second, jot down the little things you have discovered like that. You might find it helpful.

Also i have a photo i'll get to uploading of how i hold F when she's grizzly, it works for winding too. I hold her this way and then rock/swing her gently. It can take a whilse, but she seems to find it comfy I'll edit to add it when i get the chance

https://i287.photobucket.com/albums/ll122/emera3537/Freyja/IMG00188-20120409-1549.jpg

 

[mitchnorm]

Thanks emera...spot on again.

M does not seem keen on dummy at all...had it for a while earlier and held her hand in front of it to keep it in place (clever girl)....maybe i am trying to put it in rather than let her take it herself like when i bf hmmmmm.....i am now off to tease her top lip with it.

Hubby has just given her a little colic massage

 

[mitchnorm]

Emera...i wondered if it was that hold you were on about...good for colicky/windy babies....may give M a go tomorrow. She is having a grizzly time fighting sleep at the moment

 

[emera35]

Yeah Mitch, with Roh i used to just shove the dummy in and he was thrilled about it. With F i need to let her take it. If she doesn't want it she just won't take it. If she does it can take a few false starts. Its also important to angle the teat upwards like you do when latching on i'm finding with her anyway. Once its in i stroke her cheek gently, to encourage her to suck (i also do that if she's dozing on the boob)

Added the picture i said about to last post.

 

[MissyBlaze]

Oh I'm loving all these top tips gals. I'm so out of my depth now. I have no clue about anything now they're older than 10 days!

I did the colic massage on t yesterday. Approximately 20 mins later we had mega poomageddon! It was crazy. And a bit sad because I'd just pit him in a gorgeous new outfit.

Went shopping today with my min and bought a lifft sling, a cute little boots collectable outfit and loafs of vests for me to dear foe feeding. Plus I got out my pre pregnancy clothes... they all seem a bit big so I tried on some jeans in town. I was in size 18 jeans... today I easily got inti a 14. I'm shocked! Pretty sure it was freaky shop sizing but I'm well happy! I love breast feeding.

 

[Joannaxoxo]

Great tip Em. Kieran has been very fussy today and when DH took him he was able to get burps out that i'd been working on for quite awhile. I will try that hold next time and see if it helps. My mom suggested putting his stomach over my knees and patting his bum to get out gas, he helps but only for a few minutes then he cries. So perhaps your hold will work better.

 

[Joannaxoxo]

Just read over the last few pages (wont be able to catch up on everything, sorry). Glad to know i'm not the only one feeling a little down. Its been a bit of a crap day for me too, just feeling really tired and DH has been gone at work. Plus Kieran has been fussing a lot today and i'm guessing it was just some gas but it still gets frustrating when you cant help them and you know they are fed and changed but they are still crying. He's finally asleep but i'm anticipating him waking up again soon.

I'm having a hard time motivating myself to get anything done, I'm just so tired. So I either need to go have a nap or make some dinner, wont have time to do both so I guess food is more important, dilemmas. lol.

 

[Glowstar]

Vitfa I do exactly what Emera does...tease the top lip and get them rooting a bit and then they suck it in. J has only had it 3 times so far he's not too fussy but once he get's going on it he has a death grip

 

[Widger]

Hello lads

Had heel prick test and weigh in today and B has gained weight not lost any!!! Gone from 8lb3oz to 8lb9oz so happy and good to know my milk is well and truly in.

With regards to windy babies.... They are all windy. Their tummies are so tiny and their digestive system isnt mature enough to deal with all the milk they take so they all suffer with wind. It isn't a coincidence that we are all suffering, some days worse than others. Believe me when I say you will know when you have a baby that suffers from colic. My friends daughter had it and she would cry inconsolably for hours on end, usually early evening. It is also something that happens when they are a bit older I think too?

Like Emera and others, I'm already a mother but I'm still learning. D never cluster fed, ever, yet B had two nights of it. Every baby is different and offers new challenges. B tonight was fussy and fed from 6 till 9 and was on boob, off boob, crying, windy but no wind coming... have no idea why but he was.

Anytime D did something out of the ordinary I would always blame a growth spurt.... usually reason.

We are all doing a great job and we will all get there