March Mamas 2012 Baby Group (Closed Group)

[waula]

no bangs here missy!!!! but just heard on radio it was sonic boom from typhoon jet!!!

kym - elliott will get there hun...i think the whole weighing thing can be quite variable - a missed feed, a big vomit, a giant poonami waiting...hope the formula helps xx

cupcake - sorry for my confusing reply, one handed, swaying baby, left handed, baby brain - i meant it for Lozza!!!!! i'm just surrounded by friends with monster babies who keep telling me how much their babies weighed at different stages and i'm feeling the pressure - it just makes me worry N gaining as he should (i'm just being silly/hormonal, he's on the 75th centile for goodness sake!!!!) so was only trying to reassure you...sorry!!!

cupcake - glad the NCT meet went well...and the cake was appreciated!

FT still got end of period dc here...

so went to see my friend and baby in nicu today...turns out she had the same dr as me to do her forceps when she ended up with 4th degree tear and baby inhaling meconium (dr was awful, made us feel awful about askin for c-sec 70hrs into non-progressing induction labour and made us sign to say we'd gone against medical advice to have a section...) breaks my heart to see her boy all wired up and her barely able to walk...and just brings all the trauma back so having a lot of cuddles with N and wishing DH was coming home tonight...

 

[MissyBlaze]

It was loud

Cuppie. I bought new vests today too! T is such a piggy wig. He's into 0-3 stuff now. Making me sad. Luckily my great friend had a baby this week so I can give her some of the newborn stuff.

I'm sure I'm going to regret that he's slept nearly all day. I should wake him up but I'm so tired.

 

[emera35]

F went into 0-3 stuff a week or 2 ago I think?!? Its so weird seeing her wearing stuff Roh was in at 3-4 months old! She weighed the same at 3 weeks as Roh weighed at just short of 3 months!!!

Lads try not to enter the baby competition! Especially about weight gain. BF babies gain in fits and starts, and as long as they gain then they are doing fine! Its so great to be proud of your LO's weight gain and development etc but don't be disheartened if other people's LO's do better or sooner. Its such a change for me to have a baby that's getting chunky, having had a baby that was borderline failing to thrive last time. It was so depressing going to meet ups with my skinny little babber and everyone else telling me "oh little Jonny has gained 3lb this week! Has Roh gained, he's so tiny?!". Just try TRY try not to compare you baby with other people too much! It only gets worse with the "oh yes well Jonny started sleeping through before birth, rolled at 2 weeks and started walking at 6 months and now he's 18 months and is composing a sonata" blah blah blah!! If you can just smile and nod and then not worry how fast your baby grows or progresses you'll be a lot happier. Trust your instincts, you'll know if things aren't right! Everyone grows, develops and does everything else at their own rate!

 

[Widger]

I second what Emera has said. D was 75th percentile when born and stayed there for a while, then he dropped down to 25th and a little lower. I got a bit concerned about it at the time but he was thriving and so trusted my own instincts. I felt bad as one hv said I should come back in a week to check as drop was quite dramatic, within a month. But during that time he was ill, fussy etc so of course he wasn't going to feed well. He was a bf baby until 7 months and the rate at which they grow can slow right down for various reasons. I suppose what trying to say is, if they do lose weight at some point don't worry too much about it. Whether they'be just been to toilet, had a feed etc can all make difference.

Anyway, going to snooze now. Hubby got B and need to catch up before I feed him again as could be another long night.

Has anybody's skin changed? I've got really dry skin on my arms and legs from nowhere!!

 

[citymouse]

Well, not to brag, but G managed to pee on herself twice in one diaper change. And she's 99th percentile in managing to get both feet into one leg of her sleep suits.

This weepiness is killing me! Will it go away soon? I'm afraid to go anywhere or talk to anyone. I get a burst of hormones, cry for ten seconds, and then I'm basically okay.

OMG, another poop?!? This child is a pooping maniac today. Who wants to bet she pees on herself again?

 

[MsCrow]

KK I am so sorry about your grandfather but think it's special he met your daughter. It will have made him a happy man.

Kymied, I feel slightly cross for you about your appointment. I'm sorry E is still a couple of ounces off but I think it's the most undermining thing to say to a woman that she must 'top up' with formula. Especially if a woman says it, and it mostly likely always is as it's a sly way of implying inadequacy. I hope you don't take that statement to heart and press ahead, as long as E's weight is going up in a steady manner, that really is all that matters. If you do try a bit of formula then I hope it works for E and it fits in for you.

Those whose babies are the type who indulge in an evening fuss...my E being one of them. Sling the baby (ahem) if you have one, just do it, they'll chill out and zonk out immediately. That or dancing and singing badly have saved our sanity.

The constant feeding/crying cycle. Yeah, I'd say it's likely to be wind, really, I rolled my eyes but I'm pretty convinced. If it's not that then it's a growth spurt or something that needs investigating. Anyway, I'm trying to battle E's wind in two ways; feeding her mostly upright using the BN method as she will naturally burp halfway through a feed and winding her on my shoulder using a combination of firm pats upwards and rubs upwards.

The pulling and raking at the nipple is something that distresses me too. My HV saw it and thought it was also likely to be wind as it always occurs later in the feed. Rarely is it a slow flow though if I do swap breast towards the end E feeds heartily except I know it's just a batch load of fore milk which will impact on her colicky behaviour.

Mouse, you're peaking the hormones but they will start to go now!!!! E did the two legs in one sleep suit leg.I'd upwrap her from a cellular blanket to find her lamely flapping a monoleg like a mermaid.

Boots parenting vouchers landed yesterday so we braved it into town this morning to get breast pads and bottle tops to convert the Avent feeding bottles into milk storage bottles. Avent is 25% off with the vouchers. Also picked up some Sudocrem, spare nappies, infant calpol (from month 2) and a home safety kit.

E's had a couple of vaguely better nights. We're using the colief having got two bottles on prescription. The first bottle ran out on Saturday night so E had withdrawal from it which meant the rest of Saturday and Sunday were absolutely hell. It's a faff to use but I hope, if the better nights continue, it means it's working. Finally got an earlier tongue-tie clinic appointment in Stockport for the end of the month. In Oldham I would have waited an additional 3 weeks. At least we can rule it out quicker...the HV still suspects a small posterior tie combined with the colic.

After a hell weekend I feel like a fog of depression is lifting, marginally. At least, I don't want to cry with E.
to those with visitors, they will leave soon!

 

[Glowstar]

KK sorry about your Grandfather

FT - great weight gain re bleeding mine is tailing off now and like a pinky orangey discharge? weird as I was expecting at least 4 weeks as sure that's what I had with the girls but mine started tailing off 2 days ago will ask MW tomorrow as she is coming back as J's cord still hasn't fell off...day 13 tomorrow!

Mrs Crow - lovely to hear from you hopefully we can catch up soon?

Can I ask on what day your HV's came? For the first time since J born when he went for a nap this afternoon I dived in bed for an hour. I left my phone downstairs so as not to be disturbed. After about an hour there was really loud knocking on the front door. I flung my dressing gown on and ran downstairs. It was the HV saying my number must be wrong as she'd been trying to contact me and could she come tomorrow (Friday) as she had to come before J is 2 weeks old. So she is coming tomorrow at 2.00pm. I then checked my phone and I had ONE missed call about 45 minutes before she came to door....wouldn't call that not being able to get hold of me...would you? more like she should have organised it all earlier and was panicking

Anyhoo - J is an official little person today as we went to register him

 

[Glowstar]

Well, not to brag, but G managed to pee on herself twice in one diaper change. And she's 99th percentile in managing to get both feet into one leg of her sleep suits.

This weepiness is killing me! Will it go away soon? I'm afraid to go anywhere or talk to anyone. I get a burst of hormones, cry for ten seconds, and then I'm basically okay.

OMG, another poop?!? This child is a pooping maniac today. Who wants to bet she pees on herself again?

I feel you on the hormones City - I have been a nightmare this time...OH only needs to say something to me the wrong way and I burst into tears Mine didn't kick in until around day 6/7 so I'm not worrying too much that it's still continuing. There's not really a lot you can do about it but I think as long as you realise it is a hormonal reaction you'll be OK.

 

[mitchnorm]

She just wont stop crying unless you are up walking about with her...she falls asleep and then you put her down and she screams blue murder....tell me this is normal???! I am worried something is wrong....is it wind....colic....reflux...growth spurt or just usual 3 week old behaviour??!! Its a nightmare...why only evenings? Anyone else getting this?

Only saving grace is that we had this last night and she slept fine tbh.....i mean tonight she is crying 5 mins after feeding...not like her at all

Just cancelled meeting a friend for lunch tomorrow....i am trying not to.feel quity...i am spending the whole day indoors.....probably in bed til at least midday. I need a break from visits to workplaces, nct gathering and new mum and baby group...time for some me time (and M)

 

[lauraclili]

Mitch, I was pretty much going to ask exactly the same thing. Also, we have the same thing about the poos suddenly decreasing in number. It's kind of reassuring that they are both the same and both the same age. I'm therefore guessing its an age related thing.

 

[emera35]

Mitch sad to say it sounds pretty normal tto me! My nan always said "you can't sit down wth a baby" and she was right! F does it too, fine if I'm stood up walking about but goes nuts if I sit down. She's asleep on OH for now but has been hard work ths evening, same sort of thing as M. It could be wnd or growth spurt or just wanting rhythmic motion to keep calm, who the heck knows what babies REALLY need if its not a poo a wind a feed or a sleep its a mystery!? If she'll settle with you pacing then I doubt its colc or reflux as colic tends to make a baby inconsolable so even pacing aboit with them won't help, and reflux tends to involve large regular quantities of vomiting and also failure to thrive (no weght gain). Like I said earlier, it does get better.

Something you start to realise with babies/children, everything is a phase, everything. Just when you think you've got things worked out, everything will change and they'll start doing something completely different I remember Roh being similar to this, not settlng in the evenings and crying a lot. I think it was about now we started doing a relaxed bathtime then soothing music and massage and then a bottle and bed. I've just expressed now for tomorrow and. Think we'll start. I seem to remem ber it helping with Roh's evening grumbles here's hoping we'll have the samw result this time!

 

[citymouse]

Lol, MsC, monoleg!

Mitch, sorry you're stressed. the only thing I can suggest is set her down when her eyes gt heavy, so she falls asleep in whatever place she's going to wake up?

 

[loolindley]

Mitch, I'm in the same boat honey. D has been beside herself for a week now and it's breaking my heart. Every now and again we have a good day, but they are followed by a hell if a night. I think she has been trying to increase milk supply today as every time she has fallen off me, there hasn't been a milk river from her mouth when there usually is. I think this means she is stimulating for more, but who knows. I'm at a loss now and just 'going with it'.

I've got visitors from Wales tmoz, and as its a 5 hour round trip drive then I'm guessing it won't be a short visit. I'm exhausted and Al will be at work. Not slept for 3 nights and the thought of visitors makes me want to cry.

To make things worse Al's parents are coming on Sat morning and staying until sun night. I can't/ don't want to deal with being a hostess.

Glow, forgot to say, you nearly had a tearful phone call from me yesterday evening. I was totally lost in Hyde just driving round and round with D screaming trying to find b&q. How can you get lost us Hyde?!?!?

Hope everyone has good nights. Ok, that could be a stretch for some of us, I know. Let's hope for more sleep than we had last night!

 

[Widger]

MsC - I laughed at mono leg as b appears at times to have no.legs as takes them both out

Kk - sorry to hear about grandfather xx

Mitch - I remember the 'witching' hour... Which was actually.more than an hour. I seem to be getting this in the middle of night but remember with D and would always be around 5pm. As he got older it defo got better and bath time helped too. NCT friends had same thing around same time.

So had quick nap, fed and now he's fast asleep. This is time he's most relaxed so thinking of ditching this feed soon and have hubby with expressed milk in bottle so then the theory would be I could go to bed at 9pm, then get woken around 1 or 2am which is usually next feed so I get longer stretch of sleep.... Will wait a week.or so to see how it goes when hubby back at workm
Anyway, must catch up on sleep before next round

 

[KellyC75]

Soooo tired today DD2 was up at 4.30am, back to sleep at 5.30am......I just had half an hour when DD1 was up!

Eyes are so heavy

 

[Skadi]

Our appointment went great today! The Nurse from Growth and Development was blown away by her. She was expecting a baby just able to turn her head when placed face down. I was like uh... watch this. lol Keira then proceeded to hold herself up by her arms and hold her head up and stare at the nurse for almost a minute before she decided she wanted to roll over. So the nurse was very impressed by her. We will see if she continues to develop like this... if so she should be sitting for her 3 month appointment.

She is now 8.5 lbs and 51cm long. So growing but not too crazy which is just fine with me... I want to enjoy her being tiny! lol

 

[Kel127]

Sorry I have disappeared since giving birth. I have a rough time since then.
Here is a link to my birth story which explains: https://www.babyandbump.com/birth-stories-announcements/955943-my-birth-story.html

Can you change the front page- my Rowan is I know it is considered a male name in the UK but here in US I have only heard it as a female name!

 

[waula]

cry...feed...vom...cry...poo...cry...feed...burp...burp...poo...cry... where dd the sleep part of this cycle disappear to??

 

[wouldluvabub]

Waula google overactive letdown. I reckon that's mine and B's problem and the reason behind him being so unsettled.. Maybe that's the issue with yourself and N too.. There are some suggestions on how to help.

 

[wouldluvabub]

Kel-'read your birth story! Sounds like you had a hard time I'm sorry!! At least in the end you have your little girl to make up for it!!!