Reading your email reminded me that I bought a rocking 'feeding chair' that glided for £250 for the nursery whilst I was pregnant. I never used it! Allow me to be frank.....
Babies as young and as small as E aren't designed to look after themselves, so it makes sense that she cries if she is in a crib. For her to sleep up to three and a half hours still being only a few weeks old is fantastic & such an achievement for you both - but it may not feel like it if you are running on empty.
Babies this young rely on several things to soothe them such as your smell and touch as well as the milk itself. Think about the term the fourth trimester; proximity to parent equals survival.
So the further away she is from you the more she will protest, that's how she's programmed. Being skin to skin with you allows her to regulate her own body temperature more effectively, drift off to sleep without distress, and feed without too much disturbance if you can master it lying on your side & drift back off.
Until they are at least four months old babies don't produce the hormones in the brain required to differentiate between night and day to establish or maintain a recognisable sleeping pattern, so finding a way to manage and feed (and sleep) is for you survival too.
I think I spent most of the first fortnight in bed with A learning to feed.
Cartoon:
https://www.thefoodoflove.org/breastfeed-in-your-sleep.htm
Bed guard:
https://www.argos.co.uk/m/static/Pr...14417612|Safety+gates+and+guards|14417615.htm
This is the link to the Argos bed guard which we used with a normal double bed when I was feeding A in the night time. I used a pillow at first to prevent her from falling out. But this allowed us three to use every inch of the surface of the bed to sleep on
Principles of the continuum concept (sling wearing / natural or 'attachment' parenting as its sometimes called). We dipped in & used what we wanted from its ideas as traditional ideas didn't suit us
https://www.continuum-concept.org/cc_defined.html
I thought long & hard after I had A about what assumptions people make about how babies are cared for, based on the society & experience of their parents. Shops sell certain products & we are told that you need x y and z when preparing for your baby. We did use a cot but only one which we could take one side off & attach to the double bed, giving that little bit more mattress room as she grew.
I guess what I'm saying is that mums are set up for a really hard time from the start because they aren't given information about how their baby experiences the world, more about what they should/ shouldn't be doing.
Your 'motherly instinct' is the most important thing, and once you can identify what's its telling you, & if you can learn to trust it, most of your decisions as a parent will naturally follow.
Think about the moment in the night, when you describe when you 'give up and bring E to bed'. What are you giving up?
Do you feel like you can't or shouldn't co-sleep? Would you like more printed information or books about it? Research has shown that breast feeding mothers co-sleep very safely given a few simple conditions and the WHO guidelines leaflet can be googled easily enough. But don't be surprised if the HV doesn't support or recommend co-sleeping or if she doesn't have any of the leaflets.
As ever call me if you need me honey xxxxxxxxxx