I was in dire need for a forum like this!
All 3 of my children were born elective C-Section.
Haylie Elizabeth was born 11-19-04. During my pregnancy with her, I gained A LOT of weight, was border line pre-eclamptic, had gestational diabetes and was testing my blood sugars, and had high blood pressure. My OBGYN said she wanted me to try vaginal, however because of these symptoms she was worried that the babies heart rate would drop with each hard contraction nearing delivery. Being young and scared, I demanded a C-section.
My OBGYN was like "uhh...are you sure? you probably can do it?" and I refused. So, she said that she herself was pro-choice and that also included a woman's right to decide how to birth her child. My heart is torn about this, as I really wish she would have said "no, vaginal is normal, lets give that a go"... *sigh* I was only 17 at the time. (Please, young mommies don't take offense to this) but I wish she would of realized I was more scared of the pain of labor than anything else and that I might of regretted this choice. Anyways, Haylie was born by elective C-Section, however, while the OBGYN was "in there" and I was open, made a statement that I would have indeed needed a C-Section because Haylie's neck/head were literally curled UNDER my pelvic bone. She said I would of been in labor for hours and never progressed.
I got pregnant again at 19. This time I WANTED a Vbac SO bad. I went to a different OBGYN and my first prenatal visit, I told her my desire, she said she understood, because she herself had a vbac before. She said, however, the policy for her was that I would have to go into labor NATURALLY and progress naturally before my due date in order for me to have a vbac. She said once the baby is over the due date, she's too nervous for vbac in case baby is too big and could increase uterine rupture. So, two weeks before I was due, I was set for a C-Section the day after my due date and my OBGYN said that if I went in naturally before, her co-workers knew to let me try vaginal. Well, my son held on, and I went past my due date. Thus, another C-Section.
I got pregnant again at 21. I went to an OBGYN co-worker of my past vbac supportive OBGYN. Only this time was told she, nor any of the other OBGYNs would let me do a vbac after two and I'd automatically need to have a C-section. I wanted a different opinion, so I went to another OBGYN clinic in my area and asked around. No other OBGYNs would let me do vbac either. I was devastated, but really loved the OBGYN that I picked from this clinic because she was caring, and seemed to really CARE about me. So, I knew it was going to be another elective C-Section. During this pregnancy, my amnio fluid was low so I had ultrasounds once a week until birth. Two days before my scheduled C-Section, I called the office and told them that I was in SEVERE back pain. I couldn't barley walk. The on-call OBGYN said that he would deliver my baby the following morning since I was so close to it anyways, and it was elective. He asked me if I wanted to get my tubes tied "yes!" I said. Being 21 with three children, single mom and having the father walk out...I never wanted to do this alone again. Within 15 minutes my regular OBGYN called me "Please don't have your C-Section tomorrow. You want your tubes tied? I'll do it. I really want to be the one to deliver your baby" she wanted me to come to her office the next morning. She was so nice and caring, such a sweet lady. She talked about getting tubes tied, I had to sign forms, etc.. and wished me luck, and that I'd see her the next morning to have my baby. The next morning, she met me in the pre-op room, before we were ready to go. She asked to speak to me privately. She pulled the curtain "It is your choice, and I don't want to influence you in ANY way, but do you really want to get your tubes tied?" and I go .. "yes, well...no..not really. I don't know.. I just can't have another baby soon. I can't do it. Maybe we can talk about the IUD?" and she goes "Oh, Good. I couldn't sleep last night, I was tossing and turning. My husband asked me what was wrong and I told him I was thinking about a patient. You asked me yesterday if a tubal was reversible...and that bothered me. I know you may think you don't want any children NOW, but your so young yet. What if you met Mr. Right and wanted a baby but couldn't? I really,
really don't want to be the one who did that to you"...
Three months later I got the IUD, and she was right! Three years later, I am married to the LOVE of my life, IUD removed and we are TTC!!
so, I am glad I had a doc that LISTENED to me... not just my words, but
really listened.
But now I am here, feeling rather depressed about the fact that I will NEVER get a change to have a vaginal birth. I've always wanted to go into the hospital in the middle of the night in labor and deliver with all my might & power. I feel like I took the easy way out.
It's SO heartbreaking, one STUPID mistake when I was a teen and I am suffering for it. At least I would of known of L&D vaginally was like.
*sigh* oh well!!
Everyone i've talked to says I shouldn't be silly (friends, in-laws, etc) and try a home birth if I get pregnant again. I told everyone I was going too, but everyone is telling me to get another C-Section. My best friend told me a few days ago "Birth is birth, no matter how it happens" and "vaginal birth hurts like hell and sometimes your so completely exhausted you can't even think straight while holding your child. Vaginal birth is not as rosey as you think, I think both vaginal & c-sections are equal when you weigh the pros and cons of both".... I feel like she may be saying that just to make me feel better.
...I don't know.
....Is how I'm feeling...normal??
Thanks everyone!
Then had to wait for theatre to become available, so was in labour for hours!
'you havent given birth have you' 
