Massive guest list

[lozzy21]

Any one else just have to much family? We have just wrote a rough one up and for parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts and uncles, cousins and partners and 16 close friends we are at 113 people. For the evening do, there is some extended family and more friends.

Wonder if i can divorce any of them for a year or two till im married

 

[aly888]

ours was the same. We dropped the cousins. I have 14 and OH has 7...add their +1s and it's a bit ridiculous!! So for the reception we have just uncles/aunts, brothers/sisters, parents/grandparents and close friends. Then the evening is a free for all

 

[Lauren25]

yes this is us!
We both have big families, lots of aunties, uncles, cousins etc!
Then OH has a HUGE group of very close friends and their girlfriends, it's a good job I don't have many friends and if we do things we do it with his friends and girlfriends haha.
We're on 120 for just close family and friends!
Evening I don't even want to think about, I think we'll be knocking on 200

 

[ellebob]

Wow, I can't even imagine having that much family! Apart from parents + sister my few surviving family live in Australia and OH doesn't keep in touch with his aunt and cousins so family+partners at ours will total 11!

For friends, though, we've had to make a rule that we don't have partners unless we've socialised with them because our venue only holds 54. But partners can come to the evening if they want (everyone not local is in couples we know both of so invited).

 

[emyandpotato]

My dad has 12 brothers and sisters, all married with many children and grandchildren, my mum has four siblings with children and grandchildren, then I am one of five girls myself. Luckily for me (in this instance) I don't really know many of my aunts and uncles and basically none of my cousins so I'm asking my parents if there is anyone they'd want specifically to be there and leaving it up to them. They certainly won't be inviting everyone though, would be madness!

 

[JessdueJan]

Yes this is us, it's a nightmare! We have a max of 160 for both day and night doo, we drew up a list of family and it came to 119?! That leaves us like 20 friends each.

 

[DonnaBallona]

I have a huge family; although not particulaly close-whereas my DFs family is dinky but all fairly close. we've got around it by inviting parents, grandparents and siblings to the day. all of my DFs aunts/uncles are invited too whereas iv only invited 2 of mine-the rest (3 and their families!) are only invited to the evening. I took them off the day list as they snubbed my sisters wedding last year-didn't even bother to reply!- so that made my decision for me.

we have a HUGE group of really good friends who are like family to us so they are all invited to the day. we actually have more friends than family at our day

however, I'm having trouble deciding what to do about people I barely see but who have previously invited us to their weddings. I don't want to offend anyone but our food is nearly £100 a person!!!! Erm.... I think I might have just answered my own question.......

 

[ellebob]

we actually have more friends than family at our day

We have 4x as many friends as family! Didn't really think anything of it, don't you want the people who you see more/enjoy spending time with at your wedding instead of people who happen to share the same bloodline?

 

[DonnaBallona]

haha; ellebob I see my best friends more than I see my own mother! I'd probably have them on the top table instead if I could. HAHA!

 

[perfect plan]

Our guest list keeps growing. At the moment we have 130 for the sit down meal and around 200 for the evening, should be a nice atmosphere!

 

[lozzy21]

We cant not invite cousins as were both really close to our cousins, there our friends as well as family. It would be a lot easier if every one was local, there are some we would only invite to the evening doo but i would feel rather mean to invite some one to travel 200 miles just for the evening reception.

 

[nugget80]

Oh has a huge family whereas i don't! Due to cost of £90 a head we are only inviting close family and friends with a total of 40 for day including 4 children...! We have around 8 friends in this total! I can't imagine having a huge wedding...

 

[aly888]

we actually have more friends than family at our day

We have 4x as many friends as family! Didn't really think anything of it, don't you want the people who you see more/enjoy spending time with at your wedding instead of people who happen to share the same bloodline?

That's the way we see it. We'd rather have friends there than family that we see once a yet at Xmas

Lozzy, we are inviting people to the evening who live in Scotland. It's their choice if they come or not. Obviously we'd love them to come and appreciate that they may not want to make the journey, but I'm not going to go out of the way for relatives/friends who live further away based purely on the distance they'll have to travel. You're not having the party for their sake, it's your wedding. Guests should feel honoured that you want them to celebrate with you

 

[Abigailly]

We're having a huge issue with this. I have a huge family as does my OH. Family alone, not including +1s, we are looking at about 70, then there's +1s and friends. Not to mention kids.

And because it's the church that's important to our Catholic families they're all coming to the day.

I want to cry.

 

[ellebob]

We're having a huge issue with this. I have a huge family as does my OH. Family alone, not including +1s, we are looking at about 70, then there's +1s and friends. Not to mention kids.

And because it's the church that's important to our Catholic families they're all coming to the day.

I want to cry.

At the wedding I went to last month a lot of older family and family friends only went to the church service and a little cake reception in the church hall, then they only invited 60ish to the meal/evening. Guess they were all local though

 

[Princess Lou]

We cant not invite cousins as were both really close to our cousins, there our friends as well as family. It would be a lot easier if every one was local, there are some we would only invite to the evening doo but i would feel rather mean to invite some one to travel 200 miles just for the evening reception.

So pleased I know you have loads of family that live 200+ miles away. Lol.

Only invite those you like.

For instance, you don't need to invite your Uncles new wife and her three children. Lol. There's four saved.

Bit of a pain that you like most of your family though.

 

[Abigailly]

We're having a huge issue with this. I have a huge family as does my OH. Family alone, not including +1s, we are looking at about 70, then there's +1s and friends. Not to mention kids.

And because it's the church that's important to our Catholic families they're all coming to the day.

I want to cry.

At the wedding I went to last month a lot of older family and family friends only went to the church service and a little cake reception in the church hall, then they only invited 60ish to the meal/evening. Guess they were all local though

I was hoping that some of them would say that, unfortunately we're the only ones who live up here, my family is spread worldwide, the closest being 250miles up north, the rest 370miles south, his family is all across the water in Ireland. I'm considering causing fall outs and being ruthless... I can dream

 

[lozzy21]

Im hoping some of them just dont come lol Some of OH's family i wont be crying over if they dont come.

 

[maidelyn]

Neither of us have huge families but I find it quite interesting that OH is inviting all his including cousins and I'm only inviting about half mine! We're trying to cap it at about 100 and I've got lots of friends I want to invite and I'm buggered if I'm leaving them out for cousins I haven't seen for 20 years!