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Okies ladies, please excuse me while I vent, waffle and rant a little lol
I just spoke to my sister a little while ago, she has 5 kids, 4 with her ex hubby and he hasnt seen them in over 4 years (mainly his fault). In those 4 years she has made numerous CSA claims, and every time she does he moves house, or quits his job etc and has basically paid very little for them. Anyways, 2 weeks ago contact is made between him and the eldest child through facebook, and after he spoke to my sister he agreed to a meeting this week. He turned up, and despite a bit of awkwardness apparently wasnt so bad. The youngest 2 dont really remember him, but the eldest 2 have missed him badly so it was quite important. During the meet he mention where he was now living, what he does for work etc, just small talk, only my sister has walked out of the meeting and made another claim to csa with the details. I know bringing up kids is not cheap, I do it on my own and its hard sometimes, but she knows he runs when it comes to money, and now the kids have met him she is risking him doing it again and the kids losing him all over again. I know technically its all his fault, but she knows if he runs she wont get the money, and then no one has won, least the kids stand a chance at a relationship with their dad. Who knows, in a few months once bonds are made, he may willingly offer up the money, or she can talk to him about it and use csa to make it all above aboard. With her its just about the money, and sod who gets hurt in the firing line.
I posted this in single parenting thinking they'd understand my view that the relationship is far more important than the money, but then I read a thread after I posted and dont think they'll see it my way lol They are moaning they only get £5 a week off csa, but they dont think they also get £20 a week CB and £35+ a week in CT plus if dad is paying £5 a week, so should mum so thats £65 a week that child brings in, the CB and CT isnt there to pay for bills, its there to get what ever need for the child, and more than covers nappies, milk, electric etc arghhh rant over! I'd give anything for Joshua to have a relationship with his dad, no amount of money can buy that bond!
I just spoke to my sister a little while ago, she has 5 kids, 4 with her ex hubby and he hasnt seen them in over 4 years (mainly his fault). In those 4 years she has made numerous CSA claims, and every time she does he moves house, or quits his job etc and has basically paid very little for them. Anyways, 2 weeks ago contact is made between him and the eldest child through facebook, and after he spoke to my sister he agreed to a meeting this week. He turned up, and despite a bit of awkwardness apparently wasnt so bad. The youngest 2 dont really remember him, but the eldest 2 have missed him badly so it was quite important. During the meet he mention where he was now living, what he does for work etc, just small talk, only my sister has walked out of the meeting and made another claim to csa with the details. I know bringing up kids is not cheap, I do it on my own and its hard sometimes, but she knows he runs when it comes to money, and now the kids have met him she is risking him doing it again and the kids losing him all over again. I know technically its all his fault, but she knows if he runs she wont get the money, and then no one has won, least the kids stand a chance at a relationship with their dad. Who knows, in a few months once bonds are made, he may willingly offer up the money, or she can talk to him about it and use csa to make it all above aboard. With her its just about the money, and sod who gets hurt in the firing line.
I posted this in single parenting thinking they'd understand my view that the relationship is far more important than the money, but then I read a thread after I posted and dont think they'll see it my way lol They are moaning they only get £5 a week off csa, but they dont think they also get £20 a week CB and £35+ a week in CT plus if dad is paying £5 a week, so should mum so thats £65 a week that child brings in, the CB and CT isnt there to pay for bills, its there to get what ever need for the child, and more than covers nappies, milk, electric etc arghhh rant over! I'd give anything for Joshua to have a relationship with his dad, no amount of money can buy that bond!
new I'm sorry you're in so much pain. Gallstones are just miserable, mine has been playing up lately ( I have 1 big stone) I know mine is related to weight loss and its worse for me if I haven't eaten for a while, can I just say I'm very grateful to vicodin and promethazine for when it strikes, they shift the pain and nausea
I agree with you re your sisters kids dad. The situation with Joshua and his dad is similar to my eldest in that no support is given and there's no relationship.
Sounds like a lovely day there, hows the heat?
Will see my GP this week and see what his plan of action is, hopefully get it sorted before it gets to a point I cant cope. 
Eilidh had her first taste of sweet potatoes and wow she couldn't get them in fast enough!
Is that Elidhs first solid food except the rice? I was looking at some 100% veg yesterday, but the butternut squash had prumes in, and the peas one had broccolli in, and I read on here I think that broccolli isnt good for LOs? and I wasnt keen on giving him prunes lol so I may have to make my own veggies lol
But caught up now. 
xx
my photoies arrived!!! Postie brought me lots of parcels today lol Joshua's school stuff also arrived and, I got a letter from the Welsh Assembley, they have a 'A tree for Every Child in Wales' scheme going, and Ive been sent the location of the tree planted for George 
