MC#10 at 4w6d~ I need some positive vibes. Page 159.

[dan-o]

What about carrying on with stimulated cycles but with normal bd and no trigger? Thats what i do.
I had two chemicals in 6 cycles on clomid, but on my last cycle I got a bfp which has stuck so far. My eggs aren't great (35, have had chemo, FSH almost 10 when I was 32) ive never had a sticky bfp naturally, but when I get 2 or 3 eggs on a stimmed cycle it really increases my chances of a good one. Just thought I'd share. Sending xxx

 

[bettybee1]

Do you know what blood groups you are because seriously that can cause problems if your o pos & your husband is o neg it can be a bad mix and your body see it a a bacteria or something and just kills it xx

 

[stuckinoki]

https://uncfertility.com/

Here's a link to an IVF trial looking for patients at discounted rates in North Carolina...

In sure u have already seen it. :/ just trying to help lol and I agree, we can all lobby for u!

I had not seen that.

I'm calling now to find out more information!!!

 

[stuckinoki]

I'm done.

I'm just so emotionally over all of this.

We can't do surrogacy because it's going to cost 80k [the cost of a 7 series BMW]

and we can't do IVF with a donor egg because the cost starts at 25k [the cost of a Subaru WRX] and supposedly this is a "discounted" IVF center.

and mostly, we can't see the specialist in Chicago because it would cost a plane ticket and a couple weeks stay in a hotel plus food and living expenses.

I just can't believe that no one can find anything wrong with either of us, but we still can't have a baby.

How long are we supposed to wait and how much money are we supposed to spend. The UNC woman told me that there was a bank that I could get a loan at to cover the expenses....a BANK?! So I should take out a LOAN [with unreasonably high interest] so that we can try and fail at IVF too?

Oh, of course the process is [up to] 100% refundable if we don't bring a baby home from the hospital...but catch the [up to] part of that. They decide how much pain you've suffered to decided how much of the money that they should refund you.

I'm so angry. And sad.

I just never saw my life working out this way...and I'm so tired of being positive and optimistic about this crap. It's not going to work out, I should just quit it and start focusing on other [more obtainable] things in my life....because a baby just isn't going to be one of them.

 

[losingtheplot]

oh hun, i am so sorry, i really dont know what to say and i cant imagine the heartbreak that you are going through! just want to send you a (hug) x x x x x x

 

[Babee_Bugs]

Stucki try and write everything down on a piece of paper abit like a brain storm or even maybes a time line of such..

Write down what exactly you have done over the years, what tests you had when, what outcome they give!.. Seeing all this information laid out in front of you will help to give you a more clearer head! and will also help you to process what you may of not tried!...

But more importantly it will show you that you have come this far! you are trying everything you possibly can!, you may not need to go down the route of IVF, you may not need to use another womans Egg etc... Yes you can call quits and just walk away, throw the towel in and turn bitter!! Or you can sit and look at everything you have tried and then build a picture on exactly what you havent tried!!!...

maybes a solution is a combination of some medications, or maybes its no medications at all!!! maybes you just need further blood tests to rule something else out...

 

[x Michelle x]

Aww sweetheart I'm sorry
I cannot for a second imagine the pain you are going through. I have no words that will help but please know there are so many ladies here hoping and praying and sending as much posivity and hugs and love to you from all over the world xxx

 

[mindyb85]

oh stuck, I'm so sorry. This sucks total ass!! I get down on myself cause I've never made it to 5 weeks and every time I have a chemical pg it's like someone kills a part of me inside. It just physically hurts. I'm trying to stay positive but what I had to do is exactly what you're talking about. I said, "ok God, Obviously, I can't control having a baby, so what can I control?" That's when I started losing weight, and looking into how my dh and I could get a house eventually. Also, making sure money is saved so we can go to his family's for the holidays. We make sure we go on a little date once a week for about the past 6 months whether its a sports bar to watch the game, a little breakfast place, a coffee shop, a walk around Goodwill, whatever, and enjoy each other's company. It's definitely helped me. The other big that helped is my acceptance that I want to adopt one day no matter what we have (or don't have) on our own. In my mind, I'll have my baby one way or another in the future and that helps calm me and gives me hope. I used to never want to adopt but a situation about 2 yrs ago got thrown on us and even tho it didn't work out (not on our part but on the bio mom's) I realized that if we had gotten that baby boy, he would have been all mine. It was weird to feel that way but it opened my mind and heart to it in the future. Anyways, I am still staying optimistic that we will conceive one day and I will be optimistic for you too right now
PS I looked up that article on the NK cells thing and it seemed very interesting. Did you look into getting tested for that? It might not be that expensive and the treatment may be the answer you're looking for. Lots of hun!!

 

[LuvallmyH]

You are meant to be a mother one way or another. It's ok to be feeling down - you have been through so much. Just don't stay down for too long. Talk to your dh and tell him your feelings, he may surprise you. Let him support you through these tough decisions. And of course all the ladies on here. Some how some way you are going to get there.

 

[chika10blue]

I am so sorry hun! I really am. I wish there were something I could say or do to help you because I would do it in a heartbeat! If I were rich I would so give you the 80K you need to help you get your baby!

Sending lots of positives vibes your way....and lots of hugs!

 

[BeccaxBump]

So sorry, Stucki. You will become a mum someday, I know that, it's fate.

I thinks it's just dreadful how much they charge desperate women to get their baby. It's disgusting tbh.
xoxox

 

[Mrskg]

stucki x

I can totally understand why you're ready to give up but I really think you should try get a doc to prescribe steroids I know you've been given lots of info on this from rpl ladies an look how many of them are parl on steroids not forgetting the few already born x

 

[jtink28]

stuck, didn't you already take steroids? what kind were they?

 

[brittany12]

I wish I knew what to say stuck! We will be mommys to healthy babies one day though! I promise!

 

[stuckinoki]

I don't know the name of them off hand. They were just run of the mill, average, low dose steroids.

 

[enj]

Not to put my two sense in this but i tried getting pregnant for almost four years and couldn't i didn't get on any meds. I was looking on the internet for a herbal supplement to take and came across fertile aid i took it for two months and in those two months i got my period in exactly 28 days on the third month i thought my period began to mess up again so i decided to start testing and to my amazement i was pregnant. I didn't keep having miscarriages but i had two prior to this one thinking this one would also fail but I'm now 22 weeks. I just want to say that I'm am amazed at how strong you are God gives his hardest battles to his strongest solders and I'm sorry for what your going threw. You also need sometime to get your self together i think your a little to stressed out. I wouldn't blame you though but instead of all the expensive things try the fertile aid and fertile cm. I wish you much luck and keep your head held high.

 

[chasingbfp]

https://nz.lifestyle.yahoo.com/new-.../joy-after-20-miscarriages-our-miracle-girls/

 

[lisap2008]

Forgive me if this had already been mentioned, but have they tested you for MTHFR mutation( Folic Acid inability to absorb)? .

so sorry for your losses.

 

[stuckinoki]

Yes, we have.

Along with factor 5 and all of the other ones. All came back favorable.

 

[crystal443]

Hi, have you read Is Your Body Baby Friendly? Its written by Dr.Alan Beer and it has all of his findings on recurrent miscarriages, autoimmune problems, treatments for autoimmune problems and also ways to help your body naturally. Its a real eye opener that's for sure

I'm currently on steriods(fun times) and baby aspirin along with Clexane when I get a BFP for immune problems but there are other treatments like intripilids etc. if you haven't read it yet it really is worth reading it.

I hope you get your sticky bean soon