GreyGirl
Pregnant with no2!
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I don't have anyone in the real world to rant to as we keep our sex life private...but as this is anonymous I need to vent!
We didn't have sex until we got married (for religious reasons) and even since our honeymoon I've noticed a big difference in our drives. I don't know if it's PCOS or just me, but I have (had) a bigger drive than him. It's sadly taken a dive due to repeated rejection by DH.
I have never once turned him down (mainly because I'm just grateful) but I have been turned down, a lot. I have a less than 50% success rate I'd reckon.
I've been tracking our frequency on and off on ff and once every six-eight weeks is about average, whereas I'd like it 3-4 times a week. I've tried dressing up (he finds it forced), being suggestive, flirting, cuddling, kissing, everything I can think of, including outright asking for it! All of those can be hit and miss. My confidence is really low as it is and this doesn't help, I feel ugly and undesirable. I've lost 2.5 stone and feel as bad about myself as ever
The first month we started ttc this time (2 cycles ago) he was amazing. He'd initiate every couple of days and we did some every day after opk. I thought I'd finally cracked it! It was lovely to feel like he was wanting it as much as me....then I didn't get pregnant and the next month I couldn't get him in the sack at all around o time, we had sex less than half the times of the month before.
I know he wants a baby, he's as broody as me, but why won't be put out?! I know he's tired (he's always tired/ill) but I'm already struggling with anxiety over being infertile again (we were ltttc). We agreed that we'd dtd every other day as the window approached and I'd tell him when that was and he's initiate....I just told him we were coming up to the window and he's said he doesn't want it to be like a military operation?! What am I supposed to do then? He doesn't want me to initiate, doesn't want it to be planned, but if I relied on his libido we'd have 1 shot every 6 weeks....arghh!!!!
Anyone else have a similar situation? Any tips please? It's really getting me down as I feel like we're going to waste another month...
We didn't have sex until we got married (for religious reasons) and even since our honeymoon I've noticed a big difference in our drives. I don't know if it's PCOS or just me, but I have (had) a bigger drive than him. It's sadly taken a dive due to repeated rejection by DH.
I have never once turned him down (mainly because I'm just grateful) but I have been turned down, a lot. I have a less than 50% success rate I'd reckon.
I've been tracking our frequency on and off on ff and once every six-eight weeks is about average, whereas I'd like it 3-4 times a week. I've tried dressing up (he finds it forced), being suggestive, flirting, cuddling, kissing, everything I can think of, including outright asking for it! All of those can be hit and miss. My confidence is really low as it is and this doesn't help, I feel ugly and undesirable. I've lost 2.5 stone and feel as bad about myself as ever
The first month we started ttc this time (2 cycles ago) he was amazing. He'd initiate every couple of days and we did some every day after opk. I thought I'd finally cracked it! It was lovely to feel like he was wanting it as much as me....then I didn't get pregnant and the next month I couldn't get him in the sack at all around o time, we had sex less than half the times of the month before.
I know he wants a baby, he's as broody as me, but why won't be put out?! I know he's tired (he's always tired/ill) but I'm already struggling with anxiety over being infertile again (we were ltttc). We agreed that we'd dtd every other day as the window approached and I'd tell him when that was and he's initiate....I just told him we were coming up to the window and he's said he doesn't want it to be like a military operation?! What am I supposed to do then? He doesn't want me to initiate, doesn't want it to be planned, but if I relied on his libido we'd have 1 shot every 6 weeks....arghh!!!!
Anyone else have a similar situation? Any tips please? It's really getting me down as I feel like we're going to waste another month...