Just a suggestion, maca root. Comes in a powder you can add to smoothies and tastes sweet. Has lots of benefits including help with insomnia ect. But mostly is used for fertility or men and women. It increases libido! We tried it and my man has noticed a difference. And i have too! GL x
Men & Sex *Sigh* (poss tmi)
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I feel for you! We've been going through this for the past two years. My husband's libido is directly impacted by the stress at his job. When he's on vacation, the sex is much better and more frequent... when he's back to the grind and stressed out, the sex dwindles again. I've talked to him about it several times. We're both aware of it and try to take steps to reduce his stress (i.e., eating well, exercising, participating in hobbies/sports together) and allow things to happen naturally. I realize it's not always that easy! I hope you're able to find the root of the problem and take steps to make things better! Best of luck
Yes!! The stress is mounting and when he's stressed I feel like nothing can get done. Not only do I feel bad that it's "that time" but I know that he feels the anticipation of performing and it doesn't help the situation any. Things go downhill pretty quick when that's the case... which is no fun for either of us.
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Omg reading through this helps me so much. My DF has such a low libido. We can go a whole month between Bd'ing. Its awful. especially when i want a baby so much. But I dunno how to bring up the subject, he gets very touchy about it. Has problems finishing. I do think its a health issue but what can i do? Argh.
At least i'm not alone.
At least i'm not alone.
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I have the same problem! But we're on separate shifts. I'm on day shift and he's on night shift...
So everytime I would want sex he would be like I'm tired or I'm hurting or we'll do it tomorrow... Filled with empty promises...
But come to find out he doesn't have a problem with an erection it just his testosterone is high whenever he gets off of work and that's when I'm at work. So the times I want it or need it is when he first wakes up and he's not in the mood..
So I thought all this time it was me but it wasn't...
I didn't even have to put on makeup or dress up.. It'll just hit him lol.
I learned talking to him over and over again about the same situation will actually drive his drive really low..
Just lay off of him and just don't try to hard.. Whenever he is ready he'll come.
So everytime I would want sex he would be like I'm tired or I'm hurting or we'll do it tomorrow... Filled with empty promises...
But come to find out he doesn't have a problem with an erection it just his testosterone is high whenever he gets off of work and that's when I'm at work. So the times I want it or need it is when he first wakes up and he's not in the mood..
So I thought all this time it was me but it wasn't...
I didn't even have to put on makeup or dress up.. It'll just hit him lol.
I learned talking to him over and over again about the same situation will actually drive his drive really low..
Just lay off of him and just don't try to hard.. Whenever he is ready he'll come.
This is not strange at all. The problem is WAY more common than women know. Men often put on a show infront of their buddies and act like they are "horny" 24/7. We are both 31, have been with my DH for 5 years and this has been an issue for us as well. As women our sex drive (in our late 20's-early 30's) is that of an 15 year old boy, and as men get a older their testosterone decreases. Hes a faithful man, but probably has low testosterone. Hes too nervous to talk with our PCP about this, so I'm going to have to schedule apt with a fertility specialist if we arent pregnant in a few months! He says going to the gym will help. But yes, my DH says hes always tired, head always hurts, stomach is too full from dinner...always has an excuse and is saying "let me come to you." So I would back off...and we wouldnt have sex for 3 weeks. I told him I'd stop using my vibrator (which he hates me using) if he promised to bang at least once a week. This has been working for 4 months now! I hate having to plan sex, but I tell him...I'm going to start my period next week so if you could "get me" before Monday that would be smart! 
Or, babe...its been 6 days, tomorrow is 7! I hope this helps you. I'm glad I'm not the only one too!!!!
Or, babe...its been 6 days, tomorrow is 7! I hope this helps you. I'm glad I'm not the only one too!!!!Im on night shift and hes on days! I thought I was reading my own post as I read this! Yes, I tried backing off too...and it worked, sort of...I finally stopped crying at night. But I still feel undesireable. So much that I started an antidepressant. :/ I'm so glad my friend introduced me to this site.
