tommyg
Mum to Smurf & TTC
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i can never figure out why our mom's don't act like this but our mother in laws do... and then it dawned on me. our mothers care about us enough to honor our feelings on things (or at least to try not to piss us off). because really our moms must be as attached as our mils so why are they less annoying. it's not because we don't mind as much, i really believe our mils are more annoying because they just don't give a damn if they offend us or otherwise annoy us. and they know they can get away with it because who wants to tell their husband's mother off? yea, nobody.
my mil has been driving me looney. i feel like she's just playing house around here or something. obviously her mommy wifey time has passed, house setting up, baby health to look over etc. and she's just coming around here and giving advice, bringing me pictures to hang up, telling me what's wrong with my baby when she's whiney (and she's normally wrong but insists), she asks me to do a million little things for her as if i'm not swamped enough here, has even done my dishes (nice but no thanks), my husband was buying a washer/dryer for us and she was so insistant that we should get brand new that she dragged him to a store and got it on her card, no we are making payments to her!! the list goes on forever. yes yes she's trying to be nice, i know that. but i didn't ask for a wife/mother assistant. i'm quite happy, fine and better off really when i do things ALL my way. haha.
rant over. gr. gr. gr.
but yea i think they are just bored, that's all i can figure. she spends way too much time thinking about mine, hubby's and lo's life.
That is one of the most sensible things I've read, got me thinking and sums my MiL up.
Mum cares about me as well as LO she also knows what will offend and I can tell her no. MiL doesn't care about me or know what will offend me. I was seriously ill during pregnancy and spent 7 days in hospital including a high dependancy ward, OK Mil was on holiday and never knew about it until she was home and I was on the mend but she never asked how I was she only asked about the baby "would the baby be ok". Even after the birth she never asked about me was only intrested in LO which hurt me no end.
TBH if my mum comes into the house and starts "tidying up" I'd see it as she's helping me out, MIL would never dream of helping or offering to help.
Why have I become very cynical with just about everything she does? My birthday present was a beauty voucher given my birthday was just before the birth the cynic in me thinks it was given so that I'd need a babysitter while I had beauty treatments.
Oh and in answer to the first poster no chance would anybody be taking my LO for 5 days - once he can use a phone maybe - but not before! Can't believe what she was thinking.