Missed Miscarriage Thread...

[threemakefive]

It seems alot of us are going through it thought I would start a thread for us to get info, support and advice or just to share your story.

Mine was diagnosed two weeks ago but baby measured right so they made me wait a week, and this week brought no new news, baby was gone the day of the first sono apparently. So now I have stopped my progesterone and am waiting for it to begin...I am actually ok at this point I have come to realize it just wasn't my time (I have 2 kids which helps keep my mind off of it) but now I have been through angry, sad and now acceptance....where are you all at in your journey?

 

[ljane74]

Thank you. I'm so glad I've found a forum like this. As sad as it is to think of it happening, other people are going through the same thing and you're not alone. Its all very well talking to friends, trouble is all have children/just had babies, etc. so its difficult to talk to them.
You are in same position as me, waiting for things to happen. It surprised me how after being so sad in the beginning i could be so angry. And it wasn't just at my miscarriage. Someone i know girlfriend is pregnant and he isn't the slightest bit bothered if she has it or not. I couldn't believe the anger i felt toward him. And thought there is a pregnancy where he doesn't want it, yet there i am losing a baby that is soooo sooo wanted and felt it just wasn't fair. I still feel a slight bit of resentment toward him. But nothing to what it was. I never thought i could feel that angry. That's past now and back to sadness at the loss but more nervousness as to what is to come in the m/c. I know there's going to be pain and blood but i am assuming i will have to go in for either medicinal help or d&c which i really don't want otherwise things wont kick in and leave me in limbo.Its just the waiting now that's killing me. I keep trying to tell myself im not going to get any bleeding/pain and that i am through everything and that we can start TTC again but then reality kicks in...
Sorry for long post. My fingers get carried away typing when talking about this.

 

[Dana_Scully]

Missed MCs suck... You believe everything is fine and then BAM loss of symptoms and bad news at US...

Here's my story

https://www.babyandbump.com/miscarriage-support/809428-boo-beans-story-tmi.html

 

[ayclobes]

I've been looking for a thread like this!

Here's my story;

I went in for my 1st u/s on 11/16--i should have been 8w5d and the u/s tech told me that baby measured 6w4d and i said ok..well maybe i was not as far as i thought..then she told me she didnt see a hb or even the flicker of the hb. I was not prepared for them to tell me i lost my baby almost 2weeks prior to the appt. A doctor looked over the u/s and confirmed what my worst fear was--ges sac present, embryo/fetus present but no hb, and no yolk sac...they told me to prepare myself to miscarry(told me it was a missed ab). I went home, told my husband (the worst thing i've ever had to do) and just sat in my living room with my mom. I waited the rest of the week for cramping, spotting, bleeding to begin and nothing..my symptoms did not "go away" either..so that friday I called to schedule a consult for the d&c. I had the d&c on 11/23 and i have been spotting/lightly bleeding since. There was 2-3 days that i really had bad pain..on 11/24-11/26 those were the days i was bleeding..since then nothing. just spotting.

All we want is a healthy baby..i dont understand why we cant get that..and everyone else can! ughhh.

 

[Rumpskin]

Our time will come xxxx

 

[Summerkids]

I had a missed miscarriage.

I was suppose to be 11w. 4 d. yesterday when I went to to clinic for an ultrasound because of some spotting 2 days ago and yesterday. The fetus had no heartbeat and was measured around 8 weeks.

I have been running arround for weeks thinking I had a healthy been. And I was starting to feel better from fatigue and nausea. Stupid me thought it was because I was almost 12 weeks. And I was planning to tell EVERYONE next week. Instead I'm sad, trying to comfort myself and tired after the d/c today.

 

[kaths101]

hi girls, I had a mmc last year, it was the worst time of my life - I was 5 days away from my 12 week scan when I started bleeding. The baby measured about 6 weeks so I went all those weeks in blissful ignorance thinking I was carrying a healthy baby I went in on fathers day (of all days) to have LO removed. It was an awful and confusing time.

Since then I have a beautiful baby boy who is now 12 weeks old so I just thought I would post and say I know how you feel, stay positive and your time will come. My loss has made me appreciate every second with my little boy and I dont take any thing for granted anymore

for you all

 

[threemakefive]

It's so great everyone can share their stories.....anyone just gonna wait it out and see if you miscarry naturally or gunna have d and c? I'm still undecided...but I agree it makes you even more grateful if you have kids before or after mmc. Hopefully all of you are doing well! Keep us all posted we can all work through it together if needed i personally am better each day even though it hasnt passed I was surpised to feel so much closure already! And I'm sure you all will get your chance sooner than you think!

 

[ArmyWife0527]

Hi Ladies, I went in friday for an ultrasound should of been 7w5d and ultrasound showed gest sac yolk sac but no baby. The dr. offered to sched a dnc for me but I decided to wait till this next friday to see if i miscarry on my own. Since wednesday/thursday I have been having horrible lower back pain and mild cramping. On Sat I wiped after going to the bathroom to find a pinkish discharge but nothing since then. This is my first miscarriage and have no clue what to expect. I am also Rh neg so once I start to bleed I will have to get a rhogam shot. Any advice from you ladies would be great. I am completly clueless. I just want this to end already. =(

 

[threemakefive]

Hi Ladies, I went in friday for an ultrasound should of been 7w5d and ultrasound showed gest sac yolk sac but no baby. The dr. offered to sched a dnc for me but I decided to wait till this next friday to see if i miscarry on my own. Since wednesday/thursday I have been having horrible lower back pain and mild cramping. On Sat I wiped after going to the bathroom to find a pinkish discharge but nothing since then. This is my first miscarriage and have no clue what to expect. I am also Rh neg so once I start to bleed I will have to get a rhogam shot. Any advice from you ladies would be great. I am completly clueless. I just want this to end already. =(

I am sorry for your loss I've seen alot of people spot for few days before it starts....I have had mid back and stomach pains for two days and just wiped 2 hrs ago and saw blood....I would say if more pain tomorrow call dr just to keep them updated and for piece of mind. It's my first loss too...and I'm ready to be done also....actually decided today I was gunna ask for d and c tomorrow as ive been waiting a week....guess God haf other plans....good luck!

 

[MrsWhy]

I had a mmc 3 weeks ago at 9 weeks

We'd gone and had an early scan at 6 weeks and saw the heartbeat - 3 weeks later I started bleeding. The u/s just after I started bleeding showed that the baby had stopped growing just after my first scan.

What's hardest is that we'd seen the heartbeat and trying to understand why - oh and also trying to get over the feelings of guilt (irrational I know but can't stop thinking of whether I caused it). I know there is nothing I could have done done but it's there.

 

[threemakefive]

I had a mmc 3 weeks ago at 9 weeks

We'd gone and had an early scan at 6 weeks and saw the heartbeat - 3 weeks later I started bleeding. The u/s just after I started bleeding showed that the baby had stopped growing just after my first scan.

What's hardest is that we'd seen the heartbeat and trying to understand why - oh and also trying to get over the feelings of guilt (irrational I know but can't stop thinking of whether I caused it). I know there is nothing I could have done done but it's there.

Sorry for your loss, I have found alot of sites that state a mmc is less likely to be any environmental cause or the cause of the mother or mothers body, considering our body continues to care for baby as though it is still alive, that should help with some of the guilt. I know it helped me

 

[Gidz]

Can anyone relate to my story? I went in for a US one week ago on 11/29 and was supposed to be 8 weeks but measured at 6 weeks with a HB of 67. Was told to have another scan in one week, which I did today on 12/6 and still measuring at 6 weeks, HB of 39. Dr said miscarriage is inevitable but they will not do anything until my baby has no HB at all. I am an emotional mess and this is torture to have to wait. Anyone have a similar story?

 

[Hope39]

MMC are my worst nightmare, fact!!

I have had 3 of the bleeding things, the first was pretty devastating, the second mmc didn't surprise me and the 3rd was heart wrenching as we had had an early scan and seen a heartbeat

Next year will be my year! PMA!!

 

[amethystgirl]

I went in for my 8 week u/s on Nov 9th, but it only measured a little over 6 weeks, with no heartbeat. We waited a week to get a confirmation u/s, and in that time, it appeared to get even smaller. I had a D&C on November 16. The doctor didn't want us to try waiting it out, because of risk of infection.

My physical recovery was very fast, but emotionally, there are ok days and not-so-ok days. I'm waiting for my period to come so that we can start trying again, and it's very hard for me to not worry - what if my body doesn't get back to normal? what if the miscarriage was a symptom of a larger issue? what if we miscarry again?

I know at this point, all I can do is be patient, but that's a lot easier said than done.

 

[threemakefive]

Can anyone relate to my story? I went in for a US one week ago on 11/29 and was supposed to be 8 weeks but measured at 6 weeks with a HB of 67. Was told to have another scan in one week, which I did today on 12/6 and still measuring at 6 weeks, HB of 39. Dr said miscarriage is inevitable but they will not do anything until my baby has no HB at all. I am an emotional mess and this is torture to have to wait. Anyone have a similar story?

I cant personally relate as we never saw a heartbeat or if we did it was slow enough to seem like my hb but I have heard stories pike this and being honest it didn't turn put well.....I say be cautiously optimistic...gl and keep us posted

 

[mohini12]

hi ladies
my story also relate you i have had 6 recurrent losses no live birth.each time baby lost in first trimester.first 3 babies lost after heartbeat find then stopped and last 3 in 6week no heartbeat found.each time baby measured 2or 3week behind from its original age and miscarried.its heartbreaking experience of my life which cant be forget.i will always remember my little angles who couldnt come in this world.i real miss a lot.((((love you)))

 

[RomaTomato]

Hi Ladies,

I am new here

I got my first BFP June 27 of this year, about a month and a half before my wedding, which was August 13. My DH (was still my fiance at the time) and I were ecstatic! I am 31 and he is 42 (43 in January), so we didn't care that we weren't actually married yet. We told our parents right away, and quite a few of our friends. Around August 9 I started to have brown discharge, but I had read that it is common to have a bit of bleeding around 10 weeks and tried not to worry, I was days away from my wedding after all and had enough to think about! I was feeling totally fine the day of my wedding, when I finally got into my dress - which was quite a task: it BARELY fit! - it was pretty obvious that I was pregnant. I had ENORMOUS boobs and a small but noticeable bump. I was still having a small amount of now rust colored discharge. After our pictures were taken I got home (the wedding was on my parents' farm) and when I went to the bathroom there was a gush of RED blood, no cramping but it made me very nervous.

It was then time for supper and I had to go back to the 80+ wedding guest plus my brand new husband and act like everything was awesome. We had dinner, made the toasts and the speeches, and all the while I was so worried and sad. I hadn't told my husband that I was having any spotting, I just didn't want to worry him. Long story short, my whole wedding night sucked. All of my friends and family were there, dancing and being merry, and I pretty much missed out on all of it.

I changed out of my dress very early in the night due to bleeding and spent most of the night in the house pacing around and wiping myself to examine what was coming out of me. Needless to say, there was no "wedding night" for me.

The next morning I passed a large clot (golf ball sized) and proceeded to cry hysterically. My mom drove my husband and I to the hospital. The US showed a sac but no baby, which stopped developing at around 6 weeks. As of that day I was 11 weeks, so it was a double whammy: a blighted ovum and a missed miscarriage.

I was offered a D & C but declined, I had passed a LOT of blood and tissue shortly after the US (I couldn't BELIEVE what was coming out of me!!!! ). I had to travel back home, which was 2500 kms away (driving) so the OBGYN wouldn't let me have a natural MC. I opted to take Misoprostol.

I continued to bleed for 2 weeks after my MC, so we did actually get to consummate our marriage until the end of August! I guess that is why you get pregnant AFTER your wedding, not before.

We decided on our long drive home that we would wait a whole year before trying again (we weren't really "trying" the first time, but we were NTNP for about a year), but only 4 months later and we've changed our minds. I was on the pill for about 2.5 months but quit about a month ago.

So here's to trying again!

 

[amotherslove]

i lost my lily at 12w1d but she stopped growing at 10w. i had tarted spotting the day ifound out which is why i wound up in emergency.. then the next night my contractions started.. i lost my little girl and her sac in pieces of the next three-four days.. i miss her so very much..

 

[mohini12]

hi amotherslove
i am really very sorry on your baby girl loss. i know what you are going through.because i have lost my first baby boy at that stage.i have no baby .i am ttc now.but miss my baby so much.i feel very alone and disappointed.i am really sorry on your loss.(((hug))) to you.