Mother of all conception months Graduates

[PeanutBean]

Just remembered what I was going to post earlier! Madcat far from forgetting it all I don't think most women forget anything about their labours, good and bad. There are so few in a woman's life, each unique and marking a vast life change; aspects of the baby's nature can be traced back to the birth they experienced. We literally forget the pain because the brain has no memory for pain but we can remember that we knew it to be painful at the time.

 

[tas1]

Afternoon ladies
Hope all is well!

Well from the texts from my OHs football friends it seems he went but he training clothes smelt just washed and he sweats easily plus I'd be able to smell his deodorant so I just don't know I guess I'll just have to see if anything els happens!

I'm abut worried about Calebs head,he has some lumps two at the back of his head and one behind his ear plus he has like a ridge around the front through hi fontanel! I'm going to health visitors tomorrow so I'll ask there but do you think I'm over thinking stuff?

Xx

 

[madcatwoman]

Vbaby, if i got pregnant accidently ive been told its most likely id suffer the SPD again, and it was truely miserable for me, but, what i was going to say is, id do the same as you, id never have a vaginal birth again, i never want to experience contrations again (even if mine were different to the norm that time around...i just wouldnt chance it again) and never want to go thru 5 weeks of not sitting down,being able to walk etc, id play hell for a section or raid a bank and go private.

Sorry ive not been on here much tas. i can read the posts on my phone but cant reply(can only reply on FB). I dont get to go downstairs where our PC is all set up very often when im looking after Bailey, and if i do get the chance i end up with half written replies, or on a weekend if i get the chance DH is usually on here or he is out somewhere. ive actually asked him to look after Bailey for 20 mins so i can catch up with friends on here for once!

 

[vbaby3]

GGrrrr madcat kick his ass!
I never want to experience contractions again.You do forget just how bad it really is until you're there again.I've had 3 births all so different,but i never had a good experience,and after each 1 I had no interest in the baby because i was traumatised,bad as it sounds its the truth.
Teagans was the worst,i literally begged them to kill me,i will never ever do it again!!

 

[madcatwoman]

LOL,DH is lying next to his play mat looking bored as hell there!

I know they told me what i experienced wasnt the norm, and i know it most likely wouldnt be like it again, but y'know, i just wouldnt be prepared to take the chance in all honesty.

Plus everyone i know who has had a section has had a far better & quicker recovery than I

But im happy with just my Bailey boy!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Alex is in quite a mood today. He keeps feeding and then getting frantic and spitting up what he just ate. I've had maybe a grand total of 6 hours of sleep. My nipples are killing me (he is latched on properly, he's just comfort sucking). We've tried to put in a dummy and he just won't take it. I've tried everything: sitting him up, winding him, and nothing seems to work. He's upset, I'm upset, DH is upset. It's just not a good day

To all the mommies and babies and all the troubles.

 

[PeanutBean]

Tas - they have ridges and lumps all over from the separate skull plates. I would suggest if it is strikingly asymmetrical or feels soft like fluid then speak with your hv or doctor.

Madcat I've often read that the first section is ok, recovery wise, it's more that subsequent sections can be very problematic I guess through weakening the abdominal wall. Of course every section comes with its higher level of risk that needs weighing up. I know how you feel. I was so traumatised by Byron's birth. If you do ever choose to have another I would strongly recommend having a debrief and doing a bit of research to fully understand what happened with Bailey's birth.

Ozzie, I'll be back in a bit. Just arrived at supermarket and got 10 mins to shop!

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

Sorry for self rant ladies i promise to catch up on everything later

why is it that the scum of the earth only seem to be attracted to people who are already feeling incredibly shit. went down stairs and some "see you next tuesday" has stolen my front wheel, to add insult to injury we lost my keys up north after specifically saying that i did not want to take them up north for the very reason that they would get lost up there plus we didnt need them so now i cant move my car might take a screwdriver to the door when dh is on his break, and now it looks like my grandad is getting a lot worse. most people dont come through the first operation he had today he has had a second

i keep saying this day could be worse we could get the worse news about my grandad and my whole car could have been stolen but man i am really struggling to continue seeing the good side of things

when dh told me about the car i just broke down, you know those dramatic pictures you see of people grieving in war zones all screaming and flinging themselves to the ground yeah it was a mixture of that and the angry toddlers you see in the supermarket when they can thave more chocolate

sniff sniff feeling very very sorry for myself

 

[PeanutBean]

Oh no nomore! How shit! For sure it never rains but it pours, especially when you're pregnant. I hope things pick up. Have you reported the theft? Have you got no claims protection? You'll need a police number to claim on the insurance. Not sure if such a thing would affect your no claims or not.

Ozzie tell me more. Is he feeding ok when he's latched? Could be colic, could be tummy ache, could just be a needy time or a growth spurt. Does anything settle him? Have you just held him for a while? Did you eat anything different yesterday?

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

to be honest going to try and break into it in a bit, at the very very least it will release some tension. nah i live in slough the police will probably laugh at me for reporting the theft of the wheel, they will prob say i should be grateful they only took one AND put it onto wooden stand for me! lucky me!

dh was like when we get a new one we can buy some anti theft nuts for your wheels i was like screw that! they took a wheel after it not moving for a week. what are they going to try and do after 6 weeks after c section? i said i am buying a wheel lock and 4 clamps. lets see them try and take the blasted thing then!

so so so mad

 

[PeanutBean]

Doesn't matter where you live, you should still report it so they know such crimes are happening right now in your area. It might spur the local CPO to do their rounds where you live, or put more police on the beat to try and reduce the crime level. We report everything now. Our CPO said to let her know of any antisocial behaviour as she knows all the criminals round our way and if there is one thing done there's likely to have been more and it can help piece things together, or one person might know who's responsible etc.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

good point pb just not in the mood to will prob look and see if i can report something online once life settles down a bit xkx

just got an update on my grandad its not good, he is now on life support and cant last without it . . . not going to be a good week i can feel it

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Evening Ladies :wave:

NOMORE huge am not sure I can say anything to help right now so am just going to send you my love

Peanut sounds liked you had a fab time yesterday if not another tiring day

madcat I really dont know what it is with our MILs grrrrrr! She told me mid week Oliver does her head in am not really sure what I was suppose to say to that one except give her I just ignored her Glad Bailey is more settled despite your MIL almost pulling his leg off grrrrrrr!

Pink how are you? We spent 70.00 on a shop in Tescos yesterday and another 20.00 in Morrisons today we really need to cut back some too

vbaby I am feeling a little broody too because I know Charlie is growing so quickly I realistically know its not going to happen either unless of course we win the lottery I just dont see how we could afford another little one and still afford to give Oliver and Charlie a fun filled childhood I just want to take them places and on holidays and things and everything is sooooooo expensive. Maybe the expense isnt the way to look at it but its realistic imo and for going back to bed for a few hours

Tas I hope your OH isnt up to no good grrrr! Like you say I guess its sit and wait and see now How are you today and the boys?

Well I had a 5.30am wake up call from Charlie and then we eventually got up at 8.15am Hes teething am sure of it hes keeps ramming his fist into his mouth and when I applied some teething gel this morning he proper clamped down on my pinky good and proper infact if he did have teeth right now I`m sure I wouldnt still have my finger intact the little devil Still doing well on the gaviscon although we have odd feeding moments hes over all more settled so its all good

Today I went across to my ex work place to see the girls was a lovely visit except I was a bit irked to find they are opening another project and employing people into a role similar to my ex-role not only that but this project has been under discussion since January so that means it was in the pipeline before I was made redundant just plain infuriates me but like I said to my ex-colleague earlier I saw my boss for his true colours and couldnt work for him any more even if he begged me to go back

and on the subject of work I have a special favour to ask you Ladies I am starting to look for a new job I want evening work so 5pm onwards (not night shifts though!) because I do not want to leave Charlie with childminders or a creche or whatever during the day and MIL is totally out of the question If I do evening work DH can take over childcare on an eve and he can tweak his hours to suit I am starting with an application to our local Morrisons Its all here ready to go with cv and covering letter and if I manage to get an evening shift there its 5-11pm and its a 5 min walk from my house so no travel costs It would be absolutely perfect and I would be so happy if I got a postion there So my favour is please please please can you all keep you fingers crossed for me because it would be absolutely perfect for us as a family infact too perfect

 

[tas1]

Hugs Kate I hope your grandad defines the odds! Wish could say something to make you feel better! It does always seem it's one thing after another.

Pb I'm not sure what the lumps are,just trying to feel them but he's feeding so hard,I'm sure they felt hard maybe I'll just ask the HV to put my mind at ease!

Glad your ok cat I'll keep an eye on fb more lol but I come on b&b more lol

So we got some trellis today to make abit of our fence higher and a new bolt and lock for the gate so hopefully no-one unwanted will be getting in although I slightly feel imprisoned now lol!
Does anyone elses bottles leak when you make them up?

X

 

[tas1]

Fingers crossed madly! Hope you get it!!! I've put an application form in to do my level 3 hairdressing at college but not heard anything,if I did that I could get a better job!

Me and the boys are brill! We went to my friends sons 2nd birthday party and met another baby who is 4months old but was so tiny compared to my bruiser which made me think about another baby but I'm like you madly I wanna give the best to my boys and I dont think I could with another plus my last pregnancy was horrid!

Xx

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

thank you ladies, i dont need words it just means so much that you are all rooting for him i dont really know what i believe in but i have always believe in the power of positive thinking. i am hoping that karma is watching as i fork out 250 to sort my car out tomorrow and think ok she has had enough now time for some good karma

madly i got my fingers crossed for you hun i really do! do look at bar and restaurant jobs as well, they say there arent any jobs going but honestly if someone like you who was offering to work regular, set hours and was incredibly reliable and wanting to work and do a good job the bar and restaurant industry would be all over you like a bad rash lol something to think about if you could see yourself working in that sort of job, i have always enjoyed it xkx

 

[tas1]

Aaarrrrggghhh why won't caden tidy his toys away? I keep taking toys away from humid he doesn't tidy then away but he just doesn't care. Right now I've asked him to tidy his pens away but he said there is too many and it will take for ages so I took a toy he has been playing with all day off him so he whinged abut then got another toy out! What do I do?

Xx

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw hun no idea, leo is a little young to realise that he shoudl tidy up after himself but have always said leo are you finished playing with this, ok then we have to tidy it away so we have room to play with the next toy!

my problem with leo is the slapping! it stopped for months, started up again about a month ago but nothing seems to be working this time round. i have found that he hates going onto his naughty chair wheni have it in our bedroom, no tv, no mummy just boring alone time and he doesnt like it so hoping that in a week or so he will get the picture. i know he is just frustrated that he cant tell me what he wants but me guessing and him eventually going yes isnt helping his speech but me refusing to guess has ended up in continued slapping and now biting!

damned if you do damned if you dont with toddlers i think, i think as long as we encourage the good behaviour and try and push for the better result no matter how much harder it is than giving up then eventually we will start seeing the behaviour we want

gah annoying aunt who thinks she knows it all tried to give me parenting advice on the slapping yesterday as we couldnt take leo into the intensive care ward for obvious reasons he stayed with a few members of my family and of course he slapped them all, the last thing i said was if he slaps you put him in a chair and leave him alone so he can calm down. well apparantly i need to get him into a routine (errr he is) and then encourage him to understand that when he is out those rules and routines still apply! wow! how did i not think about that! actually it is because he is bored . .take him for a walk. . . not what he likes to do . . . doesnt matter what he likes. . . yes it does besides his behaviour is down to a genuine belief he is on the autistic spectrum so thanks for your advice but until you have graduated in some sort of degree in child psych specialising in autism do you mind shutting up grrr! my mentioning of autism shut her up instantly grr

darn it ranting again, i need rachael to come out now my hormones are turning me into a right horrible person at the moment, i really am frosty - although this aunt really is a pain in my arse all the time! - no wonder my dh works all the time lol lol lol

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

oh one thing i have been looking into is reward charts, leo is a little young for this but yours might really take to it! lets tidy your room and if we do it really well then we can put a star on your chart! or wow are you finished playing with that! wow you know if you tidy it away you get a star on your chart!!!!!!

 

[tas1]

I have a rewards chart but haven't got round to listing the things I want him to do I'm scared it will be too long and he'll never do any lol!

We eventually got his things tidied up,I turned the tv off and said now tidy your toys away as you have been playing with them so it's only fair you tidy them because mummy has to tidy everythig else up so this is your mess so it's fair for you to tidy up! Then h remembered if I tidied then up I would get a black bag so I guess it is getting through to him but he chooses to listen when he wants too! I'm worried he is watching too much tv so tomorrow he can watch it for abit and our meals will be at the table,I got lazy in pregnancy and let everyone do what they want and haven't changed back to meal time at the table coz I'm just gettig into a decent routine!

Wih the slappig thing I think you will have to be consistent with telling him no it's naughty but it will be hard if he has autism so children will it to get frustrated easily! They are so misunderstood and people think they are being naughty but they can't say what they mean! He'll get there and what do your family expect,a hospital is boring for any children actually for everyone it's not the most fun place so they should of made it fun for him like you said take him for a walk!
And your hormones are doing you a favour getting everythig you wanna say out make the most of it if I say stuff now I'm just a bitch but when pregnant it was hormonal lol!

Xx