Mother of all conception months Graduates

[gilz82]

SK I know totally how you feel. That's been my life with Noah since he came home. I really hope he gets better soon and the dr has some useful advice for you.

One thing that was stressed to me was not to feed Noah for 60-90 minutes after he had a large vomit. Apparently that encourages more vomitting if you feed straight after as their stomach doesn't have any time to get accustomed to being empty again. The paediatrician stressed in Noahs case this was really important to help minimise acid production but maybe it would help Jake too

I hope you get a break when you are at your mums

 

[madcatwoman]

Molly, mummy was temporary traumatised, bailey was traumatised for about 2 mins. was quite happy when i slung him over my shoulder.

Madly, thanks, we'll look into getting this lovefilm.com then, most likely!.
Our grad babies aint half fussy eaters arent they?. but bailey is gaining weight nicely so i dont know what im on about really, these guidelines are only 'guidelines' after all.

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

SK reflux is truly crap so I too know how you feel although I think Gilz has it the worst of the two of us I hope the gaviscon works it certainly did for Charlie as for `happy pills` I agree with Molly dont let the Dr push them on you too easily I had an hard time weaning myself off them after PND with Oliver they gave me the shakes and alsorts You need sleep and rest so hand over Jake to DH thats what hes there for and take advantage of your break away let your family help with him as much as they are willing and put your feet up

Well done madcat and Bailey and def give lovefilm a go

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

For Tas

Pictures of the christening balloons I did for my Niece with the exception of the dummys the other balloons were fairly plain compared to the more intricate ones I do because I was rushed for time been godmummy we had to be at church at 11am so up crack of dawn, dash to venue then to church and I was 11wks preggo with MS not a bad effort imo the boys will be similar when the time comes except of course blue I need to get DH to sort out my other disc which has my more intricate displays on it

 

[molly85]

Well done Cat did you get a lolly?

 

[madcatwoman]

no i didnt! nor did i get a cartoon plaster

madly, DH has changed his mind about lovefilm now, says its an excuse not to go out to the cinema (which was the very reason i liked the idea),i dont know how normal this is, but i cant bare the thought of going out and leaving bailey!, i see us as a family now, not trying to palm him off, id have a tough time concerntrating on a film!. im sure someone will say im mad but i really dont feel the need to "have a break"!, i thought i would by now but honestly-im happy as larry.

 

[molly85]

madcat check with your cinema some have baby friendly showings usually in the morning. I you like Disney buy a whole stack of the films on dvd. Do some pop corn and whatch them at home as a family. you can pause a dvd you can't cinema film.

 

[madcatwoman]

madcat check with your cinema some have baby friendly showings usually in the morning. I you like Disney buy a whole stack of the films on dvd. Do some pop corn and whatch them at home as a family. you can pause a dvd you can't cinema film.

thanks but dh wont do that,he wants to go without bailey, id be happy with your latter suggestion but again dh wouldnt want to do that,he'd want to go out and palm off bailey

 

[PeanutBean]

Madcap it's totally normal to feel that way. DH and I have seen three films and been out for two meals without children since Byron was born!

Sofie, I am with Molly and madly. Pills should be a last resort after other things have been tried. The sleep deprivation can seriously be enough to make you scream and cry and think life is almost not worth living. If you are genuinely having suicidal thoughts then you have depression and it needs treating as appropriate. Assuming you're not then a talk, a break, some rest is what you need. I think people consistently underestimate how very hard it is becoming a mum especially when the baby has difficulties that lead to more stress and less sleep than would otherwise be expected. IMO your hv was irresponsible to talk about pills to a two month mum. Perhaps ask your GP about CBT?

Well I got my period this evening. Not very long after ov (9 days) but pain free and no broken bowels! I now have a theory - I think getting my period only a week after bleeding had stopped with Byron meant my uterus hadn't healed at all and do every period took it a step backwards in healing. Maybe this was why my placenta stuck this time (scarring is a reason for retained placenta). This thought can help me stop beating myself up about having the injection as if right it would'vd happened anyway. Can't believe how easy this has been to come on. No pain at all. Driving to my friend's this afternoon I had a familiar twinge I used to feel all round my pelvis and into my legs and thought it must be coming. Hope it lasts a normal length of time too.

Got a bloody awful head yet again. Probably because of my hormones getting back to normal. Also for three days my bits have felt almost normal, I've hardly given them a second thought. God I love normal hormones!

Had a pretty stressful day. Morning fine: girl slept and I did loads of jobs. Then suddenly we were really late setting off to kite making at our local Trust property. Hurried to get there only two spend an hour queuing in the bloody orangerie! Hot much?! Then there were steps so I had to enlist people to help us up and down (credit to Trust members, they are generally all so thoughtful). Got his kite made in the end (blood sweat and tears) and sodding left it at my friend's house we visited after! enjoyed seeing my friend (the one who was in hospital with transverse baby but it turned so she got home yesterday) and her completely amazing new house. Less jealous when I found it was £100,000 more than we hope to upgrade to next move! Does make me wonder, 7 (me) and 3 (DH) years in higher education and we earn well under the average, my friends both left school at 18, one's a secretary and one works in a travel agents and they can afford a house worth as much as my parents' after they retired. So much for HE providing any advantage for future earnings!

 

[madcatwoman]

thanks PB at least im not the only one, i think dh finds the separation thing very difficult to understand.

yay for the painfree AF though,thats good!

As for your friends house, you never know whether they have recieved a financial helping hand y'know. im really honest with people concerning ours.we came from your average 3 bed-box room house, when FILs neighbours were selling he was horrified at the idea he would be lliving next to strangers who wouldcomplain about the things he likes to do in his field. he asked us to buy next door but it was laughable as it was so out of our range it was silly. In the end he wanted us next door so badly he paid the difference and we took out the max mortgage we could afford. This was also one of dh's chilhood homes too. But people see where we live and must think we are minted but they couldnt be further from the truth!, we have enough to get by and thats it!.
Of course there are also those who are mortgaged behond belief,which is pretty scary!. Atleast you can say your house is everything you have worked for and something to be very proud of!

 

[tas1]

Evening ladies,

Hope your all ok! I can't read what I've read as I've been reading bits for two hours lol! I hope poorly mummies and poorly babies get better soon!!

I'm hoping to study level 3 hairdressing its just doing abit of creative cutting colouring perming and looking into opening salons! I have already done this by opening my own salon but I need the certificate otherwise it's hard to get employed plus I have been out of a salon for 5-6yrs now so it's like a refreshers course as well!
The interview starting with two little tests one was trying to find spelling and the other adding aload of prices up so after that my brain was hurting but I finished it before the other two ladies so felt good then I had a chat with a tutor about the course...she kept sayings its a long day have you got child care...it will be really tiring so make sure you have childcare.....I wanted to say to her I've been trying to get on the course at this college for 3yrs now and this is the only year you are doing it so I think I know everything about this course and know it will be hard but since it means a better future for my boys then why would I hesitate to enrol...she even told me in October if it's not for me I could go to a different course!! Think I'll stick to what I know and improve myself! She also said she thinks I might have to work in a salon to do this course but she said I might get away with it coz I have so much experience and I'm mobile which I hope I don't have to get a job yet as that will spoil my plans! We will see! Think you get a letter if they are gonna give you a place so it's a waiting game now!

I've tried putting Caleb to bed awake but he got grumpy so I'm cuddling him lol he's asleep now just wish I could I have loads to do! I have OHs auntie coming over sometime this weekend so I wanna make sure my house is lovely so might mean my OH sleeping in his car lol

Oh madly I love your balloons wish I lived nearer now

Xx

 

[PeanutBean]

She said they are mortgaged to the hilt plus they have benefited as their first house was bought before the prices went up. I got my first one in the middle, would've been £30k, we bought for £50k and sold for £80k. But the relocation and much higher prices here meant we had to get a 100% mortgage in order to pay off our debts with some of the capital so we could afford ANY mortgage payment on a house here; a third went to my mum who'd been paying a third of the mortgage (I was a FT student); then DH could only find part time work for 6 months so we lived off a good portion of the capital, the rest going on improvements; plus we were unlucky enough to have to buy at the price peak. Because of the drop I think after 4 years we are now not in negative equity anymore but not in positive either until we get the third bedroom signed off. Pretty disappointing after 9 years on the property ladder.

God my head is bloody killing me. I am actually in bed at 9pm and ready to sleep soon.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

see we are the opposite, should be really well off and have a nice house but dh's life long debts make us into just scrapping by everyone assumes we have loads of money until i snap and go actually mrs who has never worked a day in her life we go without a hell of a lot which you dont seem to!

you can never ever judge a book by its cover, or couple by their house/job titles!

my mantra of 2 years in this dump 2 years in this dump is keeping me somewhat sane

ha get this dh had a call today from one of his credit cards saying he was going to becharged because he exceeded his limit, no sir i have not used that card since you gave it to me to buy a tv for interest free no payment for a year, oh right what you didnt know is that if you didnt pay off the full amount by the end of the interest free period we charge the full amount of interest you would have paid. so that extra £150 has put you over your limit but i tell you what i will refund you the £12.50 charge . . . . out of 162.50? lol dh will never learn, if it looks too good to be true there must be a reason! read the small print!

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw tas she was probably just trying to either put your off by being overly honest or just testing your commitment to the course. if it hasnt been done for 3 years then i wouldnt mind betting that there are a high number of applicants but sounds like you stuck to your guns! got my fingers crossed you get that acceptance letter! xkx

 

[PeanutBean]

Good luck Tas.

Boo for your DH nomore! Our interest free period runs out in October and I will pay off the balance next month. The credit card was my debt from the last mat leave so I'll be debt free again ready to get a new card to help us through this leave!

 

[tas1]

Thanks ladies,I was and still am nervous about starting a new course and leaving my babies but excited to think that possibilities there are afterwards plus it keeps my sister happy once again as she think I shouldnt be like our mum who lived for her children and now has no career but with this qualifications I can do both and hairdressing is something you can always fall back on! I already have my level 3 text book (was gonna start the course in a different college which was half an hour away the. Got pregnant with Caleb) so think I'll be reading that when I get spare time so I can finish the assignments earlier and concentrate on practical!

I'm so tired that my head is hurting!

I have loads of debts but mine are managed with pay plan so I pay a lump sum each month then they split it between all my creditors. Means I won't be debt free for another 13 yrs unless I get paid more then I can pay more and obviously winning the lottery would help massively!

Xx

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

thats what we did last time too lol my credit card went from 0 to 2500 very very quickly somehow! dh just likes to buy crap so his went from 0 - 5000 extremely quickly! it was an argos card fyi just in case anyone else took one out a year ago lol lol lol its funny if he hadnt have bought all the junk he bought the last two months and went along with my paying off plan he would have paid it off on time . . . i wont be saying i told you so. . .well not too loudly lol

bless him dh has gone out to get himself a hobby and exercise so has picked golf! possibly the single most hardest thing ever to try bless him really hope he enjoys it though, he doesnt really do anything other than work and look after me he doesnt go drinking much anymore - he hates being drunk and all his friends get wasted - so this will hopefully become his exercise and time away from home thing . . . you never know i n 3 years time i could be onfb moaning about golf trips again lol lol lol

 

[molly85]

yikes credit cards evil!!!!

We have a 65% mortagage and an a 35% equity loan from the gouvernment we came from a council Flat so not bad really. We are like a 1950's couple 1 car and council flat to 2 cars and a mortgage lol.

We did ok but now it feels scary though we still have enough to make ends meet No I am thinking of OH's ruddy car Istill may kill him

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

ah yeah winning the lottery lol, my mum was "not allowed toget a job" but also wasnt particularly bothered about it and loved being a sahm so was out of work from when she was pregnant with my sis 1985 until she had to get a job when parents split in like 2005 i am so proud of her she has done really really well to get experience and then slowly working up the ladder at her place but she is so tired, she just wishes that she couldhave worked got a lot more experience whilst we were at school so she could have potentially afforded to work 4 days instead of 5. i am very much like it is incredibly important that both me and dh or at least one of us is always there when they come home from school etc etc

i would love to be a sahm but i can see from my mum how important it is to keep your cv going and get experience and qualified as you do not know what is going to happen in the future even if its a case a needing to have a much higher second income you know

you are totally doing the right thing tas!

 

[PeanutBean]

I agree it's good to keep a hand in with a career if you can even if you want to be a sahm for a while. My mum gave up her place at the Royal Northern College of Music when she got pregnant with my oldest brother but taught private music lessons always. When I was little she did an OU degree in maths and computing then a PGCE and started teaching maths when I was 8.

I'm so excited about starting my masters and moving back to marine science.