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Not helped by the fact I'm a naturally clumsy person anyway. Adding pitch black and a small bedroom with a crib is a recipe for disaster :haha:
 
nomore, baileys room has a window on one of the walls like you mention that lets light into the hall way, i dont know if thats going to be a problem when he moves into his room or not!

aragh my dad and partner have just left and now bailey is all cranky!
 
Sofie, what you describe sounds normal to me. I've done all that and with Byron could occasionally be known to throw him on to the bed (don't read that like chucking him!). I felt bad but one day my mum said "I doubt there's a mother alive who hasn't at one time thrown the baby on the bed" and that was without me confessing! It's a safe soft place. It's what you do when you're ready to throw them down the stairs! Anyway, point being sleep or no it's bloody hard work and everyone reaches the end of their tether, on a daily basis in the toughest times!

As for sleeps, I don't set routines and basically let them find their own. Indigo has fallen into one much quicker than Byron did. She basically goes about 12 hours overnight between 6.30pm and 7.30am. She quite consistently has at least another half hour, sometimes more, in the morning. Other than that it varies. As we're out and about all the time she'll sleep in the car/pram/wrap as and when. No idea hoe much she sleeps in total and I don't really worry about it. She is often tired in the day when she should be sleeping but is too alert and needs me to settle her but I don't have time. Nothing I can do about it though. :shrug:

Well we went to the comprehension study which was interesting and over surprisingly quick. Byron got another lovely book from them and I got a tenet for expenses half if which sent on parking. We then went to the museum where I work. Saw some stuff. Had some lunch. Chatted with some colleagues including my mat cover. Seems my manager is pregnant and has had weeks and weeks off with morning sickness. Bit bloody rich after how ill I was both times and I managed to work! Means she'll be on leave by the time I'm back. :happydance: My mat cover is interested in staying on do should another job opportunity arise I might discuss it with them all. To have to pay back my mat pay would be complicated as I'd need to give them 10% from 6 weeks, full pay from 6 weeks, claim my tax and NI back probably, they'd then owe me 5 bank holidays plus two or three weeks hols. They'd have to pay loads to advertise and recruit so if he wanted to stay on maybe it would be possible to call it quits. :shrug:
 
actually with what i said pb is right, the more you stress about exact timings of naps etc then it will be harder than it needs to be, leo just seemed to conform to the 2 hour rule

i wouldnt worry about those windows madcat with leo i just make sure that the hallway lights are switched off, his windows are blocked off and if it is particularly bright outside i just oull the curtains in the other hallway and close the bathroom door, basically this blocks out any really harsh light that would go into his room via those windowsand stops those really bright lines of light going everywhere, but it doesnt make it dark dark in the hall so it is like dim light coming through the top windows . . hope some of that makes sense at least . . what i am trying to say is i think leos problem was more the bright lines of light that can come through than the "volume" of darkness but when i got him into the routine of needing pitch black that is what he needed for ages and ages well until now it is impossible to give to him lol
 
ha ha madly your gender prediction thread makes me chuckle every time i see it!

you realise if you dont get any more responses back from people you would have got well over half right!

time to set up that internet business of predicting gender - get people to give you a tenner offer them a full refund if you are wrong, out of £100 you'll get to keep at least £50 statistically speaking lol lol lol lol

i still cant believe i got myself two psychic readings when i was ttc. i had one from gail which was so totally wrong and one from sandra which said christmas conception when i had christmas bfp and september 18th birth its now hopefully looking like august 18th lol still even though i kept saying its just a bit of fun i did feel bad when gails turned out wrong so silly lol lol lol

oh starting to get nervous for tomorrow! i mean this woman has already agreed that vbac isnt suitable for me down to my past experience and obvious strain in moving past it but nothing has gone to plan so far, what if she turns around and says actually you know what. . .no!

i think i would have to demand some full on councilling if that happened, i mean 22 days until dd. i think my point of forcing me into something without addressing the problems i have will only end up in yet another terrible birth experience and some really mixed up feelings post partum about it . . . wish i had sandras crystall ball lol albeit a little bit more accurate
 
Nomore I really can't see how they can force you to vbac when it's clearly hugely distressing for you. It's not like you've just decided you dot want to stretch, tear or generally ruin your lady garden.

I can't imagine any other medical procedure where you would be forced to do something so clearly against your will. I really get the impression the useless consultants and other professionals you have seen are just working to the theory that your baby has to come out some day and maybe if they ignore your wishes you'll just get on with it. Makes me really mad for you :grr:

Oh I also had a sandra reading which was totally wrong and said I'd have twins and then more babies. Fair enough there are twins in my family but eh nope.
 
Lol nomore, madly is on 56%, I doubt that would be statistically significant! :rofl:
 
Cat I was just thinking on your travel cot, it's not solid like a basket could he be getting a draft?

Abby is driving me nuts she conked out about 6.30 so i thought fab quick nap bath etc, She woke up had something to eat and shes gone again. Its now quite chilly in the house the rtains not far off and shes sleeping through it in a nappy wtf???? A ratehr wet and in need of changing nappy. I suppose i should just get on and shower leaving her for the moment how weird.

Nomore keep strong hun

Oh PB what wil you do instead?

Hugs Gilz.

More on sleep abby does about 10 hours a night all in and I try and get ner to have atleast 20 minutes of napping in the hour amnot bothered about long strettches though they are nice I think they definatly need 12 hours a day preferably 16. I don't even bother with putting abs in a darkened room during the day she sleeps where she is if shes tiered if she isn't shes looking at something or gurgling and kicking
 
i thought it was more than that . . i think i disregarded any ladies who havent given their genders over yet. . . if its stillonly 56% then i totally blame babyu brain for my lack of maths skills lol lol lol


thanks gilz that is exactly what my dh said to my midwife and what i said to the registrar that it seems like they are just pushing appointments back and back to that i go into natural labour and they go oh sorry but you havent been signed off for a section so get on with it you know . . . just gone through my entire experience with leo and everything that i feel about what has happened this time in my head and my goodness it is actually quite appauling! especially considering my past experience is my baby almost dying because of poor monitoring and missing the fact he was in distress! i would understand if i was coming at them with i am worried my foof wont be the same who gives a crap! when we are 50 all our foofs wont be the same anyway gravity is horrific to women!

rachael has hiccups at the moment lol
 
Gravity is horrific to me now let alone 50. My small saggy pre-pregnancy boobies got stretched to massive pregnancy boobs. Now have deflated again and wow forget the pencil test I could out a magic marker under there and it wouldn't fall out :rofl:
 
oh i am dreading the second round of boob deflation! honestly if boob jobs came with 0% risk i totally would but i couldnt go through something cosmetic like that, i felt so bad that i looked into these boob lifting injections so silly lol i think i may just spend the money on some incredibly supportive bras which come with a warning to dh "take this off they will hit the floor" lol lol
 
Evening Ladies :wave:

Just catching up :winkwink:

madcat simples imo if your not ready to leave your baby then dont :thumbup: I`m not ready to leave Charlie and after MIL called Charlie `my baby` over the phone to me this evening I wont be leaving him anytime soon either ;)

:happydance: for painfree AF Peanut :thumbup:

Goodluck Tas am sure you will balance it all ;)

and please dont talk to me about debt and houses grrrrrrrrrr we live in a tiny terraced house which is mortgaged, I feel like with live in the middle of berut (?sp) and would happily pick up my little house and move it somewhere else :thumbup: oh and of course a lotto win would be just the ticket :winkwink:

madcat I think Bailey waking in the night is a growth spurt/phase :thumbup: Hows he doing feed wise during the day? how much did he feed when he woke up or wasnt he bothered? could be weather? Charlie has had diahorrea (runnier poo!) for a few days and poos when he trumps :dohh: I am putting it down to the weather :shrug: but will mention it at his jab appointment tomorrow :thumbup: Charlie has also woken for the last two nights at 4.30am when its become a 90min-2hr battle trying to get him to settle popping the dummy back in before hes finally given in and had a bottle ... this morning it was 5.50am :wacko: considering they are the same age and doing the same thing I would def say growth spurt :shrug:

SK I have shouted at Charlie too during once of his reflux fits :blush: I agree with Peanut every mummy has probably done it at some time or another :hugs:

I also agree with Peanut I havent forced routine on any of my boys they have both slept as and when and Oliver slept through for at least 7-8hrs from 4wks old and Charlie did it slightly later at 8wks probably because of the reflux/colic and problems feeding :wacko: We are having a bit of upsetment over his night routine at the minute ^^ but I do think this is a growth spurt which will pass :thumbup:

Goodluck for tomorrow NOMORE :kiss:

Ladies I have a good news update for my Sister :happydance: She has today been offered a decent council house (one thats suitable for human beings to live in it!) at long last for her and her two LOs so when Harry comes home he will have a new home :wohoo: Its 5mins walk from my nieces nursery (she was worried about having to move and uproot her as shes settled there!) its about 20mins walk from a shopping centre and in the other direction a 20min walk to a Tesco Extra store and about 20mins walk in the other direction to my parents house :dohh: Its on a major bus route and although we have only seen it from the outside it looks well looked after put it this way the garden didnt resemble the local tip like the last house she was offered :thumbup: I am so happy for her :cloud9:
 
Hooray for your sister madly!

What will I do instead of what Molly?

Don't talk to me about boobs, E to something more than H and back again, twice!
 
ah bigger boobies must be slightly better . . . my dd (already this now so am thinking going to be at least an e when milk comes in) preggie boobs will go back to being little bs, which means the old snooker ball in knee high sock syndrome . . . oh dear lol just think some people have really painful medical conditions and my boobies really arent the worst thing that can happen to a person . . .

ah madly that is good news about your siser! i know what it is like to be completely separated from your support network and it is really lonely at times it is fab that she will be so close to everything she needs plus your parents!
 
Evening All,

Thank you all for you advice!

Well today Jacob was given baby gavison and FX'd it looks like it is working! No projectile vomit as yet but obviously I know it can take a couple of days for the gavison to really take it's full effect.

He also had his 8 week jabs today and I was dreading it! the nurse saw him first and weighed him and took his measurements and then I picked him up and was ready for walking out the door when he promptly starting farting really loud!

So we got into the doctors office and he was still farting! and they stunk to high heaven! so the doctor started doing his checks and then he had to take his nappy off, well the doctor promtly gagged!

He had done a huge poo! and it smelt so bad! :haha:

Anyway Jacob had a little bit of a cry but then he noticed a lovely spot light on the ceiling and started staring at it :dohh:

So at 2:30 I went to see the doctor about me. I first started off to talk about the pain that the coil is causing which I described to him and he has given me some pain killers and some anti imflamitories (sp) then I mentioned what the HV said about tablets as I was feeling a little bit low.

He started asking me the standard questions like do you feel like you want to hurt your baby etc.... after about an hour of answering questions and me crying (lol!) He asked for a second opinion which I was rather happy about because I think having more than one opinion on such a serious matter is a good thing!

Anyway another doctor came in the room and looked at my doctors notes and they were both nodding there heads when the other doctor called in the clinics HV (by now I am seriously wondering what the hell they were doing!) then finally everyone left the room and he then explained what they were doing.

I have PND but a bipolar PND so I will have my horrible days when I just can't face looking after Jacob at all and resent him alot to day's where I don't want anybody touching him and I will coo over him. He say's it's quite rare and then he started asking about my history such as dramatic things that have happened in my life....so I explained the circumstances surrounding my dads death, the miscarriage in 07' and my parent's splitting up and my mum leaving us with my dad and moving away to london when I was 10.

He then concluded with that I could of had bipolar before I was pregnant. My husband described to him what I was like before getting pregnant such as being really giddy and then all of a sudden being rather depressed. And the doctor thinks it could of been possible that I did have it for a while.

So he has given me some anti-depressents and has adviced to look into some counciling aswell.

So in the end I had 3 health professionals opinions so I am happy with the decision. But I want to try the counciling first before taking any anti-depressents as I don't want to go into taking then lightly as I know they are a highly addictive drug.

Sorry for being so one sided again but Jacob has just woken up for another feed!

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sk although it sucks to have bipolar as the diagnosis it must be somewhat of a relief that you know what you are dealing with and can start working through it whether that be councilling, pills or both. well done you for being brave enough to stnad up and say you need help and that things arent right, that is the hardest thing to do well done hun.

xkx
 
Well it certainly sounds like they have considered you quite thoroughly though I would want to see a mental health professional for a proper diagnosis as GPs are, well, not always up to speed especially if it's something unusual. I'd definitely want to see someone before embarking on medication too. So are the GPs wondering if you have bipolar anyway then? I've a friend with bipolar and he takes no medication at all and just manages it all without. Obviously people are different but there's no reason to suppose the condition necessitates meds. I'm aware that there are plenty if people with bipolar who find the meds too flattening and depressing and prefer to suffer the lows to get the benefit of the highs. Again that depends on the extremity of each side of the condition. I hope you get to see someone soon so you can start feeling better. From what you've described you still sound just normal to me so maybe I'm odd after all!
 
PeanutBean said:
Well it certainly sounds like they have considered you quite thoroughly though I would want to see a mental health professional for a proper diagnosis as GPs are, well, not always up to speed especially if it's something unusual. I'd definitely want to see someone before embarking on medication too. So are the GPs wondering if you have bipolar anyway then? I've a friend with bipolar and he takes no medication at all and just manages it all without. Obviously people are different but there's no reason to suppose the condition necessitates meds. I'm aware that there are plenty if people with bipolar who find the meds too flattening and depressing and prefer to suffer the lows to get the benefit of the highs. Again that depends on the extremity of each side of the condition. I hope you get to see someone soon so you can start feeling better. From what you've described you still sound just normal to me so maybe I'm odd after all!
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Well PB I didn't want to say that you are a little odd! :haha: only joking :hugs:

Yeah I understand what you are saying. My sister has bipolar and has the medication and a friend of mine is bipolar and doesn't trake any medication for it. I am hoping counciling and some support from my family and friends will help me.

Yeah they thought I have had bipolar for quite a while which obviosuly I didn't know about (I just thought I was abit odd lol!) but combined with being slightly depressed after having Jacob it's probably alot more noticable now than it was before.

Like I said I definatley want to see if counciling will help as knowing my luck I will end up being addicted to the drugs!
 
:hugs: sk the important thing is you are getting help

Well judging from my fb status Alex outweighs quite a few of the older grad babies. Maybe my milk has super growing powers :haha: he's 12lbs 13 1/2oz!
 
Ozzieshunni said:
:hugs: sk the important thing is you are getting help

Well judging from my fb status Alex outweighs quite a few of the older grad babies. Maybe my milk has super growing powers :haha: he's 12lbs 13 1/2oz!
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Holy crap!

Well done Alex and well done you!

Jacob was weighed at his checks today and he is 10lbs 11oz

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