Mother of all conception months Graduates

[vbaby3]

Thanks loopy,its hard to stay objective and calm,but i'm trying.My gp was reassuring too.I think the fact i've 3 kids under 5 thats adding to my stress,coz even if god forbid something happened to me,or i got ill or anything i'd have them to think about 1st and foremost,not just myself.
Anyway after a bit of googling i agree with my gp that its prob not tuberous sclerosis,so i'm a bit more relaxed about things now.I just hope I don't have to wait too long to see the neurologist.

I think Dylan is doing great!8lb 13 sounds fab considering he was soooo teeny weeny when he was born.You know yourself he's just fine,us mummies just like a good oul cry lol!!x

 

[pinkclaire]

Hello ladies sorry I've not been on, I've been on holiday and had no internet access! It's been killing me!

I will catch up but is there anything major I've missed? (like new babies lol) xx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Sequeena is in labor, last I heard

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw vbaby sorry that it wasnt 100% clear results the who limbo thing is normally the most annoying part. it sounds to me like everything is fine just like you said they need to investigate it just to confirm! hope you get your appointment soon just so you can start relaxing!

poor sequeena seems to have been labour for like 2 weeks now bless her!

yeah there is no hoping that they will stick to my birth plan they HAVE to stick to it. the head midwife was majorly pist when i told her some of the poor level of care during and after my labour so no doubt if i reported that i wasnt listened to again she would flip, she has holiday for the last week of august so hoping to pop before or after then lol also because of previous section they cant give me anything that caused the problems last time.

pb you have a point about whether it would distract dh too much but to be honest both him and my mum were bloody useless in my labour last time lol you know when you do things to help you focus and get through the contraction, well i was shaking my feet, my mum came along and held my feet down and wouldnt let go even though i was kicking her

and when i had my epidural i had a massive contraction in the middle of it, dh was holding my gas and air and all of a sudden it was on the floor, dh was asleep . . . .

i think to be honest it would give him something to do other than worry about me. also i am thinking get him really well read up on my birth plan so if they suggest something i am against or they arent doing something, he can jump in for me and point it out

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

for god sake bloody useless, leo is afraid of the microwave, almost always has been so we have to tell him we are aboutto use it and tell him to go in another room or he absolutely flips, dh doesnt tell him switches it on so leo has run up to me and pulled sh&t loads of my hair out . . so pist! dh "does it make a difference telling him" would it make a difference if i go i am about to pop a balloon behind your head or just doing it without telling you doi!

 

[PeanutBean]

Oh dear nomore! I would've killed anyone trying to stop me do my thing in labour! Maybe you're right a distraction would be good so long as he doesn't make you anxious reading too much into things.

Loopy your bloody hv! Why should bf be less good than formula for gaining weight? It makes no sense...

Vbaby I'm so glad it hasn't turned up any of the nasty things you googled but I'm sorry things aren't yet resolved. I'm not at all surprised you are so anxious. I know I would be too. I was listening to an article on woman's hour a few days ago about breast cancer screening. If I have the figures right it was of 2000 being screened about 45 would have a positive diagnosis but if they weren't screened only 35 would go on to have breast cancer diagnosis. So 10 would show symptoms that wouldn't ever actually affect them. It's the same with prenatal screening. If you go looking for something you're more likely to find it. So it doesn't that everything that is found is dangerous. I hope you are one of those people and it turns out to be nothing of consequence.

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

i was kicking her so hard pb and all they said was aw look she must be getting close she is making all the right noises, contractions are strong and back to back and look so is kicking her mother do you have the urge to push - not the baby out but my mum i did lol lol lol lol i think he felt so helpless last time especially as i literally went from having a contraction every 4 mins for 30 second s or whatever its supposed to be when you go in to having a sweep to having 8 increibly strong contractions every 10 mins literally within 20 mins of the sweep - safe to say another thing not happening to me is any sweeps, if she doesnt come out by herself by the 5th then its official eviction notice and it will be a section but i do not want anyone trying to force this baby along im not even bothered about doing the usual hot curries and sex to help things along it obviously stressed me and leo out last time so if it isnt completely natural then do not even bother offering it to me!

i am hoping to avoid an epidural this time, i am looking into good ways to ensure baby is is correct position and things to help ease back labour and postions that i can do whilst being monitored that will speed things along. the reason i had the epidural last time was when i was examined i was fully expecting them to go almost there as that was what everyone else was expecting nope still1.5cm and it instantly made me go what! how on earth am i going to cope with this for longer than a few more hours?

and you are right! gas and air was brilliant when the contractions were just beyond manageable but when they really kicked in well, i might as well have chucked it at my mum to stop her holding my feet lol lol lol lol oh fyi she isnt invited this time lol she is looking after ds lol lol lol

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Evening Ladies :wave:

Not much of an update here Charlie is still unhappy despite the fact that he is now feeding well without the Gaviscon in his bottles Hes been dead grizzly over the last few days and tbh hasnt quite been himself for the last 10days or so He had diahorrea for about 10 days which I mentioned to HV but she didnt bat an eyelid and today we have had no dirty nappies so I have decided to see how he goes over the next few days and if am not any happier take him back to see our GP Now hes over 3mths old and it seems his reflux has gotten better I cant help but feel that this unhappiness is because there is an underlying problem which we just arent seeing which he has had all along maybe am been paranoid but I just cant get the feeling out of my head that theres something else

Molly if money wasnt an object then am sure having another baby wouldnt be either but if I am totally honest although I feel sad I might never experience pregnancy and birth again am not sure my poor body could take it

Peanut glad your DH got home in one piece and for gunky eyes poor little indigo Hope your feeling better

madcat for poorly tummy .... mine currently ranges from not been able to go to not been able to stop

for bugs NOMORE but I agree once baby is here you can drug yourself to the eyes balls to cope not much fun been pregnant ... sending lots of love and

vbaby am not really sure what to say except I hope to its one of those things that have always been there not bothering you and never will and like you say had you not had the MRI you might never had known keep us posted hon as for sleeping Charlie is back to waking for a bottle anytime from 4am onwards after half of his life sleeping through hope its not that sleep regression your talking about

Cute video Ozzie

Loopy I can understand your worry `as a mummy` over Dylans weight I have the same issue .... in my mind I know hes healthy etc etc but he just hung onto the 9th centile this weigh in after he dropped the last two times ^^ I do think there is something underlying with him though I agree with your HV ( shoot me ) your doing so well BF stick with it

As for a birth plan I had one and my main point was `I WANT TO BE TOLD ABOUT ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING!` Speak to me, inform me and ask me dont just go ahead I want to feel like I am the one giving birth and been involved in the birth of my Son not just someone in the room .... and yeah it was basically put like that to the MW and when it came to me having to go to theatre I said to the consultant `take me on one provisor, you speak to me throughout and you keep me informed, I dont give a crap what might be going on I want to know ..... if you dont be warned now I will complain, I will not go through a repeat of my other Son`s birth experience!`

Hope you had a lovely holiday Pink

Sorry if I have forgotten anything

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

madly you never do forget anything! you are like super memory chick! every time i com eon here i read back and go yes x has happened y has happened and all i can remember is well to be exact for this round of reading back - that sequeena is still in labour lol i cant even remember what i wrote! i am sure i must repeat myself often based on that lol

i am really hoping to not have a reflux baby but man if i did you guys have put so much advice out there on this thread!

i am wanting a third but although with three i would HAVE to think financials because two can share a room for a time but 3 and then having the arguement of well one shouldnt have their own room s and the others not arguement would mean higher rent higher well everything really, my main reason for not wanting a third too quickly is that i need to ensure that i fully recover from leos birth and also the lead up to this birth, this pregnancy has not been easy on any level, in fact i said to dh just today that although i loved being pregnant with leo and when rachael kicks it makes it all ok for a few seconds i can well do without being pregnant for at least 3 years lol

 

[PeanutBean]

How come you had a sweep when you were already in labour nomore? :/. If it helps feel free to read my birth story again for tips on going au naturale.

I hope nothing's wrong with Charlie, Madly, but I know how you are about your gut feelings.

DH finally took over with Byron's bath. Apart from the short dogwalk with Byron I've done everything today. On top of the usual I've also been to the shops and cleaned the windows. What's that all about?! My head is really splitting and together with my bad eye, bad ears, snotty nose and swollen tonsils I feel like I am carrying the weight of the world on my neck. The longer DH feels ill the less tolerant I feel. He was sick on the train home then sick again late afternoon. He might have been sick again tonight too. How bloody much did they let him drink? God I wish he knew how to moderate. He says he wishes he could always know how this feels so he never gets drunk like that again. I'm glad he's hating it but it be easier if he just didn't drink at all, or at least not without me to limit him. Why do ken find it so funny to get each other into a terrible state? I wonder if their primitive inner person is thinking he'll reap the rewards of woman and food having wasted his rival?

 

[tas1]

Evening

Vbaby I do too hope it's nothing and I won't say try not to worry because I know you will! Hopefully the relaxers will help!

Loopy dont worry about dylans weight he will tell you if he's hungry and as long as he is putting on it's fine! Your doing a great job BFing!!

Pink glad you had a nice holiday! Where did you go?

Madly I hope Charlie is just having a couple of off days! I don't think he poo is anything to go by as Calebs poo is running most of the time I think it gets better when they start weaning!

Pb hope you feel better soon

Madcat I think you should go to doctors about your tummy,as I'm sure iron tablets just make you constipated not loose!

Molly are you pregnant again?

Kate I think asking your DH to do stuff during labour is a good idea as men always feel useless in labour so it might make him more relaxed!

Hope sequeena has Thomas soon!

Gilz hope your well!!

Have I missed anyone? I agree with you Kate madly doesn't forget a thing!!

Well my day has been boring ish without Caden! I decided not to go to my cousins evening do as it would be too much for Caleb and just a long night! So my sister rang and said that cam would be upset I felt like saying well caden was yesterday but couldn't be bothered! Just gonna feed Caleb and put to bed as we are watching a film tonight!

Xx

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

i know pb odd right? i was only 1.5cm but was already having regular contractions but literally after she did it they started coming thick and fast they just werent doing anything at that stage i went onto delivery suite to be monitored because my blood pressure was high and they all assumed i was down there to give birth at any point!

no one is coming near me lol i am totally going to read your birth story again, i am thinking of staying home for as long as i can, i know i want to be monitored the further along i am but i dont want to be confined to a bed, i know you can move around ok whilst being monitored but not completely freely . . .

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

ha ha tas i think i might go through all the updates one day with a pen and paper and surprise everyone!

i have a wedding that i am going to on the 24th sep, if i do end up with a section on the 5th sep then it isnt leaving much time to recover to the point where i want to go out for the whole day and kids arent invited so . . . dunno, the earlier she comes the more likely it will be that i go but at £150 per head erm there is a little pressure . . . oh well! i'll be like oh sorry cant come just had surgery/squeezed an oversized melon out my va jay jay (delete as appropriate) lol

anyway my point is dont worry about it tas! some people dont understand what it is like to have a very small child or to have only given birth recently and they make unusually strong demands but when they are in that position they are the first to go oh you unreasonable cow lol water off a ducks back with me i am afraid, i am the only one with a small child in my family, although i am lucky i have cousins that are only 2 years older than leo lol so have understanding aunts, but from my generation i know they are all like i dont understand why she cant get a sitter or i dont understand why she only trusts her mum to babysit . . . because it is my child! not a bloddy hamster lol

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

and i wouldnt trust half of them with my beloved hamster god rest her soul lol

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

why do people do it? there is a lady in 3rd tri at the mo who has been made scared of birth by her neighbours constant labour horror stories, everyone so far has just gone oh hun it isnt helpful at all is it and my labour was bad but 1 i wouldnt harp on about it to a pregnant lady and 2 you dont care once baby is here etc etc you know so basically posting reassurance, this one cock has just gone ha ha ladies what you need to understand is the worst can happen expect to rip hole to hole and anything better is a bonus, like really . . . was anyone on there suggesting labour is anything but labour! we all know what it is about it is shoved down our throats every day but well done for making the op feel really stupid for not wanting to have everyone sharing hole to hole rip stories with her when she is already scared, well freaking done!

 

[molly85]

Me pregnant don't thinkl so i just think to much.

I just had way to good a labour lol

Wewent to the odium fire show to day abby has been baught a fisher price train and a rocking lion both 2ndhand but lovely.

Vbaby hgs is all i can say.

Loopy if hes not screaming round the clock etc i bet hes fine HV's talk out theirs arses.

Nomore loing your son scared of the microwave he'll never put anything random in it but your poor hair.

PB more hugs.
who else?????

oh claire hope it was a fab holiday

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

i know! poor thing! its because he doesnt like to be made jump and when it stops it goes beep beep really really loudly, our old one you could tell it was going to beep because the humming changed but this one scares the hell out of him. he also hates the tv because it is the worlds most gay complicated tv that only men buy if you press the wrong button on the wrong remote (there are 3 all essential to the use of the gay tv) it suddenly fuzzes really loudly which makes leo jump too

i have two horn like hair bits on either side of my head from where he has pulled so much out in his scaredness this month so far! i explained to him today that his mickey mouse that he cuddles is also scared of the microwave, hoover and tv and if leo is scared then so is mickey so instead of running over and hurting mummy he should go to his room and make sure that mickey is ok. when i told him this he cuddled his mickey bear for about 20mins bless him i am hoping this works . . . i can not loose any more hair this way lol

 

[molly85]

Could you maybe get him to program the microwave and teach him the clock. Get him to face it rather than be scared. Funny little kid, did you say he was going to be tested for something or was taht someone else?

 

[PeanutBean]

Finally in bed. Full on migraine with nausea. Night all.

 

[tas1]

Aaarrrggghhh all I wanna do is have a nice relaxing bath sort some stuff out for car boot in morning watch abit of tv then bed but instead I have both boys in my bed trying to get them to sleep....it's just Caden that is being a bum as he won't sleep I think his day out has tired him out too much so he's being naughty he has lost his toys and this time I am going to put it in the cupboard so he can earn it back.....where is OH downstairs 'I feel sick you have to come down stairs to get Caleb now' whilst I was trying to put Caden to bed...I told him I hope he is sick coz Caden was so close to going to sleep!! So annoyed wish I had my bath earlier instead of looking on eBay lol serves me right

Kate I think the mickey mouse and facing the fear is a good idea!

Molly are they Christmas presents or toys for now? I'm being so tight and putting stuff I buy away for Christmas lol I just run out of things to buy Caden so have to!

Xx