Mother of all conception months Graduates

[Ozzieshunni]

Thanks all. Madly and PB did a great job of standing up for me I love you ladies!!!!!!

 

[Sofiekirsten]

Evening Ladies,

& to all sorry I haven't caught up

I got jacob weighed on wenesday and he was 8lbs 13oz last wednesday he weighed 7lbs 13oz so he put a whole pound on in a week!

Crap...Better go little man has woken up for a bottle!

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

wow ozzie! just read the thread! just wow! i wrote a whole response to some of the comments but thought better of it

i almost choked when that poster suggested any crying might be dangerous for alex, erm how is he supposed to communicate then?

they mostly sound incredibly self rightous and like another poster pointed out that you were looking for support not to be made feel ten million times worse!

ignore them completely hun! you are not silly, if your baby sounds distressed you will go to them, you never left him alone and boy 15 mins! leo cried in my arms for double that when i realised we had run out of formula (i know! how!?) and dh had to get some! he was really really screaming! i understand some were saying yeah he needs comfort but there is a big difference to a want for a cuddle when they have already had lots and screaming to the point of getting hot etc . . . silly women

i am like you now, i dont comment on any subject deemed controversial, the other day in an alcohol thread i put i dont drink anyway so to me i find it as easy as giving up liver or pate i dont like either of those so it doesnt bother me, the next poster jumped on it and said there was absolutley no comparison to alcohol and the risks of liver and pate blah blah blah provided links to websites on the affects of liver and then alcohol quoting this and that basically tearing me to shreds which i found odd as i was on the same side ofthe argument as her so i responded with ok heres an edit to my post i find alcohol easy to give up because it does nothing for me, much like i find it easy not to pick up a dog turd off the floor and eat it, idont like to eat dog turd, it does nothing for me so find it easy not to eat. i never looked to see if there was a response but gah you cant even be on the same side without being dissected and jumped onon those controversial subjects, just go to people who know you and will not judge you no matter what xkx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Yeah my "brain damaged" baby can hold his head up at 4 weeks!!!!!! Love his face in the first pic

 

[molly85]

Gah ozzie I feel like it was all my fault after our chat last night but seems to have done the trick for just given you that inner courage to just give you both a bit of space.

Gi.z massive hugs to you hun and sooo sorry I haven't text as much recently. dropping feeds maybe his age abby has just done the same trying to get 5oz in her is really tough so she's only just getting 20oz a day as they are the same gestational age might be a growth thing. Fingers crossed he is on the baby rice asap. or slip him some of that yummy pear stuff.

Yay for sorting finances out Madly.


grouting sounds fun PB

and hugs to everyine else.

AFM
We've had a busy day taking my mum to her school reunion lots of over 50's cooing over abby she lasted over an hour before getting tetchy far more than i did. Got her home gave her a bath top up of milk and shes fast asleepwoke once for her dummy and thats it. So tierd after getting up to early. Am seriously looking at TTC a bit earlier so I don't have to go back to work next year.

 

[molly85]

Ohhh ozzie so jealous abby only did this properly for the first time today. SHe can do it sat but not laid

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

aw ozzie fab pictures! xkx

 

[madcatwoman]

WELL!.
Morning all

Bravely or stupidly i decided if were were ever going toagain then it was last night or never. so i made the brave move.

it was SOOOO uncomfortable, it really was, i simply had to shut my eyes and hope it was all over soon. I honestly think ive been stitched up too tight or something Of course DH was utterly supprised it would hurt at all, he said "But i thought you have healed?"...well i have, but i knew it might not be great(ok understatement). Anyway, ive decided rightly or wrongly i have to give it another month or two at least before i attempt a smear!

 

[PeanutBean]

Madcat did you use lube? I wouldn't even attempt it postnatally without. It won't br your stitches, it'll be your anxiety, hormones, tenderness from forceps and lack of recent activity. Remember it took me 8 months after the ventouse and forceps carry more maternal risk. My advice is both of you to relax about it, you do after all have the rest of your lives to do it and it really does get easier. I found last time that trying too soon just made me cry and feel even more broken.

I've not has a great night. Went to bed really late because of tiling then Byron woke us all up about 2ish screaming as he got tangled in something in the way to our room. Naturally Indigo then woke. Fed at half 2, again at half 4, again at half 6 and half 7 and has just now gone back to sleep. I've been awake since half 6 and didn't do great between feeds so I feel utterly wrecked. First thing this morning is grouting. There is a summer fair at the local garden centre we're taking Byron to then we want to do a supermarket shop so need to be at the fair quite early. Sigh. It's going to bs a long and busy day. Best get to that grouting at once...

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Morning Ladies :wave:

NOMORE sounds like a lovely day if not wayyyyyyyyy too wet

Ozzie lovely pics of your `brain damaged` boy .... I popped back into your thread and noticed even after Peanuts fab post People are still going on Honestly

Molly sounds like fun .... a reunion .... when you thinking of TTC again?

Peanut sounds like you have a busy but fun day planned Hope the weather is good

madcat on the front the first few times we had it was really uncomfy but the last two times have been better I do feel broken tbh it just doesnt feel right but then I guess after my assisted delivery and parting with another 10lber its not going to I dont remember feeling so broken after having Oliver though and we pretty soon after I too have to book a smear but am going to hang fire for alot longer too I just couldnt bare the thought right now

On the `broken feeling` front I have the most bizare problem My bottom hurts when I sit down well its not even my bottom I suppose its my tail bone it feels like its split in two and it aches something cronic its right at the top of what some people may term `your builders crack` Its been going on for weeks tbh but I just thought it would get better and the only thing that seems to help is walking If am sat for any length of time my bum goes numb Not sure what the solution is to this one but am thinking I may have caused some damage with all the pushing I did because boy did I push damn hard while they were prepping theatre to get Charlie out

Another 11pm-7.15am stint over here and last night Charlie did a full belly laugh for the 1st time DH was blowing raspberries on his bare belly and he was laughing and giggling for britain kinda reminded me of that baby milk advert with all the babies laughing in it

 

[PeanutBean]

Cute chortling madly! For the tail bone I would say don't despair just yet. I still get a sore pelvis when I do a lot of walking, it could well be that that area is still a bit soft. I have found that slouching with a rounded back puts pressure on the tail bone so perhaps try and always sit straight to spread the weight across your bum and see if it begins to ease off a bit over the following few says.

I love the post on ozzie's thread that says "you've clearly made up your mind" as if she's made some decision to never cuddle her baby! I don't know about the rest of you but I've never really made any firm decisions about parenting (except I guess that I'm going to bf and not give them alcohol or chocolate as a newborn ) preferring to adapt my parenting to my baby's disposition and the particular circumstances. It's not like every cry is identical. One wouldn't leave a sick baby to self settle where one might a whingey one.

Madly it is filthy wet here today! Everybody is already irritable and cross. Lol

 

[pinkclaire]

Tbh Ozzie if you were in the room it's not really CIO anyway just ignore them. Lottie cries for longer than that sometimes if I'm trying to sort James out. I NEVER venture into the baby club, I learnt that from last time. I find quite often it's first time mums who have just got on their high horse, theyll chill in a few months lol.

Madly that's fab about SAHM so pleased for you!

Gilz hun it's awful xx

Dare and nomore, getting close for you! I def had period type pains in the weeks leading up good luck!

AFM im in the worst mood ever, my next door neighbours decided to have an all night party, they are still going now!!! No sleep for me wish I wasn't such a light sleeper!

 

[molly85]

Oh man the baby club people are weird. What teh hell do they do when baby is crying because its tierd, I can't pick abby up and not cuddle and smile at her soshe has to sit in her chair or in her cot and winge away to herself no stimulation and she'll soon quieten down and go to sleep. Blahhhhhh

PB really no alcohol and chocolate as a baby abby helps herself to the laquoirs (a joke that I can't spell lol)

Not bad last night abby was in bed by 20:15 straight to sleep she made a dummy request at just gone 21:00 then slept till 23:00 had a 3oz feed and back to sleep til 3am i am mean i gave her her dummy a few times and she nodded off I am trying to get back on 5oz feeds and failing miserably she then only took 3oz and back to sleep til 8am we did the same dummy thing til 9.30and we were both officially up even with the extra sleep I still felt rubbish.

Hugs claire bleeding neighbours and their partys`

Madly we are not sure we have only DtD once so far it was mildly uncomfortable but then after the beautiful tapestry the doctor did down there am not suprised plus the anxiety but once relaxed not to bad. Its actually aviscious circle for me most contraceptive destroy my drive but then without it Sod hates me I will be testing in a week or so just to check

 

[NOMORENUMBERS]

DTD after a c section is not much better if i am honest lol obviously you dont have the worry of wondering if you are about to split your v jay jay back open but i felt a real pulling at the scar site and right inside was really nasty, just to give you a little tmi in the afternoon if i was on top i couldnt erm sit back for about a year afterwards poor dh loses almost all his favourite things post section lol

gah are they still banging on about it ozzie! they really are weird i think that the baby club attracts those women who make others feel particuarly bad about a decision they make just because it is different to their own

it goes on for the rest of your life:

dummy vs nothing
ff vs breast
co sleeping vs cot
own room vs in same room
making food vs not
which school is better
which clubs are better
i only feed mine organic food and never a treat shall pass their lips
mine is off to uni
well mine is going to oxford where's yours going
mine is getting married
oh well mine already is and is having her 3rd baby she already has a boy and a girl so we dont mind what we will be blessed with
oh she is not ff

lol see those sorts of people will be arguing about how their great grandkids are bought up vs how others are, i am all for dedicated yourself to your baby and children i really do i like to think that i have completely adapted my life to being a mum for now but the women having a go ozzie will still be having a go when they are 80 instead of living it large at the bowls club causing trouble by having oto much pimms like we will lol

 

[molly85]

lol nomore your little list carried on in my head I was watching Gok earlier and it went off on a tangent of who had the camper child. I think my brain is officially mush.

the naughtyness continues abby was refusing to nap so iv'e covered her in a light blanket head to foot in her chair to block out the light now shes snoring away under there. shes perfectly happy like that i just wanted her rested or i will have an evilbaby later. must get those curtains up in her room so i can put her in her cot for a nap in the dark

 

[vbaby3]

Hi girls,
madly I'have the tail bone things too,apparently its from big baby and posterior position in my case,put a lot more starin on my butt.Sitting,and trying to lean forward from sitting,and standing up from sitting hurts really really badly,also turning over in bed.
I'm waiting to see if it gradually fixes itself,as I don't really want a doc sticking her finger up my arse!!
On the smear front I've got to go to my gynaecologist 3rd august for colposcopy which is a million times worse than a smear
I have no choice but to go,as I haven't had my follow up appointment after getting lletz done last june because I was preg.I'm shitting it!

Sex for me has been ok,bit uncomfy 1st time,but better since then.A few glasses of wine certaintly relaxes you

Well baby club would love this 1!!
I put my 11wk old in her cot in her own room last night!!
Bless her,she looked so tiny in her cot,she still woke for a feed at 4am.

The boys have a party this aftnoon,its in 1 of them really noisy places with the bouncy castles etc!fun for them,headache for me i'd say lol!

 

[madcatwoman]

Thanks peanut, no didnt use lube, i was going to but last night i just had this moment of "now or never..get it over with"
I have to say, it was on the lower end of the pain scale,made me wince anyway(now i know what the upper end of the scale is like lol). I was expecting it to be uncomfortable but perhaps not quite like that
Bu youre right, i have had the forceps, the tearing, the stitching which i guess in the scheme of things has only recently healed and have read scar tissue remains tender for a while. Im going to wait a while before attempting again as you suggest. DH hadn't badgered me for but i guess i just felt he had been really good about it(esp as the last time was at 16 weeks pregers) so i thought it may have been a good move Its brought me back to earth to realise im not right down there yet when i thought i may have been.

Madly, i can sympathise with the tailbone pain&numbness, not now, but i had it bad in 3rd tri, and come the last 2 months, i cancelled my cineworld card because i was completely unable to sit in their seats and watch a film!
for me however, it did go after delivery, same with my hips.
BUT
one thing i do have still(although not as bad as it once was) is when i have been walking for a while i get like a prickling/needle feeling round my bum, and i have felt where it is and it seems to be like scar tissue thats not very smooth.

I must say, even if i had had the perfect labour the healing itself would put me off doing it this way again.

On a good note, DH has bought me a laptop
i told him how i cant keep intouch with my friends on here/msn/FB etc like i used to, and end up with half written emails because our PC is set up in one end of the house and bailey & his stuff is in the other. Couldnt afford a new one but we won a bid on ebay for a reconditioned one. so i should have it sometime next week

 

[molly85]

yay for laptop

 

[pinkclaire]

That's great madcat! Tbf this time I have been fine pp and if it wasn't for the bleeding we'd have DTD nearly straight away. There is hope for a second time ladies!

Babyclub would have a fit at me as well, Lottie just slept for three hours on her front! My god, can you believe it lol.

Grrr so tired!!

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Hi girls,
madly I'have the tail bone things too,apparently its from big baby and posterior position in my case,put a lot more starin on my butt.Sitting,and trying to lean forward from sitting,and standing up from sitting hurts really really badly,also turning over in bed.
I'm waiting to see if it gradually fixes itself,as I don't really want a doc sticking her finger up my arse!!
On the smear front I've got to go to my gynaecologist 3rd august for colposcopy which is a million times worse than a smear
I have no choice but to go,as I haven't had my follow up appointment after getting lletz done last june because I was preg.I'm shitting it!

Sex for me has been ok,bit uncomfy 1st time,but better since then.A few glasses of wine certaintly relaxes you

Well baby club would love this 1!!
I put my 11wk old in her cot in her own room last night!!
Bless her,she looked so tiny in her cot,she still woke for a feed at 4am.

The boys have a party this aftnoon,its in 1 of them really noisy places with the bouncy castles etc!fun for them,headache for me i'd say lol!

vbaby you are so funny your post made me