Multiple IVF failures...what now?

[whattheiveff]

Oneof - I doubt you've missed your baseline since AF isn't supposed to show until Friday and you haven't even spotted on a panty liner. I understand the worry though! If you're still really concerned, could you go in tomorrow just to put your mind at ease?

 

[L4hope]

I wouldn't think you missed AF/baseline. If its not really flowing they don't typically count as day 1. Some women spot for a few days before their technical day 1. Just go in to be safe and let them check you out.

 

[oneof14]

Thank you ladies, I spoke to my nurse and she said if I'm still spotting tomorrow I should go in on Thursday. I went to acupunture tonight and told her my issue and she said she'll adjust my treatment to bring on AF, hope she comes full force tomorrow.

 

[Blue12]

Hey Ladies, I have a quick question. AF is due to arrive on Friday, however, since Sunday evening, I've been spotting very lightly (nothing on pantyliner). Now, the RE's nurse told me that my cycle might be off because of the biospy I had. I spoke w/her today and she said if I am still spotting tomorrow evening to come in for baseline on Thursday. Im just so nervous that is this AF and I missed my baseline and will have to delay my IVF 1 month. This had never happened w/AF before. I've always been so regular. Do any of you have experience with this?

I hope you don't mind me stopping by. I recently had a biopsy before my fet cycle and I spotted as well and I never spot. I did tons of googling and asked my fs and everything said it is very normal to spot - as they have intentionally irritated the lining. I really think that the biopsy is a very helpful strategy for implantation. Best wishes. xx

 

[oneof14]

Thanks Blue, of course we don't mind your stopping by and i appreciate your input. I did have a biopsy in October and I don't remember this happening. I guess I don't want any hiccups with my 3rd IVF cycle, wishful thinking!

 

[MoBaby]

I thought I had my period saturday so I went in on monday (it had stopped by the next day but it was crazy heavy and painful bleeding!) and they scanned me to see b/c if its not the right time i could come back but if i missed the time then i would have to wait....anyways, I am glad I went in because they found some unresolved issues (i didnt respond to provera, my lining is very abnormally thickened STILL after the d/c and many many days of AF and 10 days of provera which I didnt bleed after and some cysts...) and I have to go on BCP now for a month and if it doesnt work then the dr will do another D/C. So FET is on hold now for at least another month.Sorry I went on a tangent lol. So anyways, it doesnt hurt to go in just to be sure. I would go.

 

[whattheiveff]

Mo - Ugh, sorry you have to wait another month. You've been through so much, I really admire your strength.

Oneof - Hows the bleeding?

AFM, I'm 4dp5dt and having some AF cramping today. I also went in for a progesterone and estradiol check yesterday and the levels came back at 60 and 1528. That sounded pretty high to me, but the nurse said it was good. Beta is a week from today.

 

[oneof14]

Mo, ugh, sounds like you've been through a lot. Why cant it just work the way it should. If it not one thing its another. Mo, all that you've been through, you will get your take home baby. for some peeps, its takes way, way longer!

Whatthe, sounds promising!! My bleeding is pretty much the same, so I will just go in tomorrow and see what they say.

Im on to the next thing to worry about. DH is sick and had a fever yesterday and this morning. I'm worried this may effect his counts. While he has never had an issue with his counts, I've heard this can negatively effect the IVF. Ugh, let the worrying stop. Once I start stimming, he will be on antibiotic, but still Im worried. Talk me off the ledge please!!!

Sept/Lauren, how are you ladies doing?

 

[septbride]

Wow Whatthe, BWH actually checked your progesterone! Amazing! How's it going with the PIO?

Oneof, I wouldn't worry about DH's sickness. I think it matters how he's feeling at the beginning of the sperm production, which would have been a couple of months ago. And there's always ICSI in case of an emergency.

Mo, I'm so sorry to hear about your latest setback. I hope they can help you resolve this quickly so you can move on to your next cycle.

AFM, I'm doing well, thanks. Just dealing with heartburn/nausea/tiredness and hanging on for that ultrasound!

 

[oneof14]

Thanks Sept. Everytime I cycled there was always something I had to worry about. I dont want to do that this cycle.

 

[septbride]

I know what you mean. Nothing is straightforward with these cycles, and it's so disheartening because conceiving is supposed to be the most straightforward thing in the world. Hang in there.

 

[L4hope]

Oneof I agree dh's swimmers should be fine. This won't effect them at this point. It's so hard not to worry about everything especially I think after multiple IVF cycles. You question if you've done everything you can to have a successful cycle. Hang in there girl! I'm glad you're going in tomorrow to get checked out. Hoping all is ok and you'll bd good to go.

Mo as I've already said to you this set back really sucks and is so frustrating!! You are a trooper going through all of this!

Afm, just a ball of nerves here hoping everything is ok. I feel pretty normal which of course makes me nervous. My boobs are a little sore so I keep poking them. The only other difference is waking up hungry. I have an ultrasound on Friday but don't think I'll be able to see a heartbeat. But at least it's an appt I guess.

 

[oneof14]

Thanks Ladies, I did read an article "myths about IVF" and the Dr. quoted in it made an interesting point. She said doing IVF is already putting yourself in the best position to conceive, there is nothing at this point you can do to change the outcome. We are so worried about what we eat, drink should we exercise, etc. But the truth of the matter is, when people conceive naturally, sometimes they are not even aware they are pg, and they dont worry about such things.

Im so awful, I look around me now and see men/woman smoking during, etc and have very unhealthy lifestyles and manage to conceive. I get really mad!!! I live a relatively healthy lifestyle (with the exception of an occasional drink and coffee) and its just not happening. I guess it really is in God's hands.

For example, one of my good friends, drinks, smokes, eats whatever she wants and hardly ever got AF each month and the same age as me (38), managed to get pregnant, naturally, by accident, with a guys she's been dating for 3 months at the time. WTF!?!?! I am still so extremely raw over this. Now, she is due in 4 weeks. its so depressing and sometimes I feel like the TTC Gods are against me for some reason! I want to scream "WHY"!!!!!


Sorry to ramble. I guess its nerves!

Lauren, I undertand completely your being nervous and I hope your next steps are smooth so you can enjoy this pregnany. I wish the same for you Jess.

 

[L4hope]

Rambling completely allowed and valid here!! Don't apologize for it, we all feel ya. I think it's hard not to feel a little bitter towards those who conceive easily or even worse accidentally. I'm not sure if that will ever go away. I know I don't feel as happy for others as I do my BnB girls who have battled to get pregnant.

Oneof, apparently we were given this challenge because we have the strength and fortitude to endure it. When we come out the other side with our babies we will be more appreciative and loving of the wonderful amazing miracle it truly is to have a baby!!

 

[oneof14]

You are so right Lauren, that is why we keep fighting!

 

[whattheiveff]

Hi ladies, I apologize in advance for the crazy, but I'm feeling like I'm already out. I thought I'd been pretty good about not obsessing about symptoms, but today my boobs aren't sore anymore which always signals that AF is on the way. I'm 5dp5dt and I thought I could at least make it to beta without bleeding since I'm on PIO. Its just so freaking frustrating and hard to have hope at this point.

 

[septbride]

Whatthe, I'm so sorry you're stuck in the middle of the crappy god-forsaken wait. Have you had any spotting?

Oneof, it is so incredibly hard to watch people get pregnant without any effort. It's so unfair. I really think this experience changes us forever...I know that I don't identify as much anymore with people who haven't gone through this. As L4 says, we'll appreciate it so much more when it happens for us.

 

[oneof14]

Do not apologize, you have nothing to apologize for! Hang in there Whatthe, you are not out and I've heard so many woman say that they thought they were out because they had no symptoms whatso ever and end up getting a BFP! I have everything crossed for you love!

 

[whattheiveff]

Thanks Oneof. I think I'd feel better if I had no symptoms, instead of having a "symptom" disappear.

Sept - No spotting yet.

 

[oneof14]

I actually think its common to have symptoms come and go. I know its so frustrating, and its always a wating game!! xoxo