mum and baby groups**eurgh rant moan**

[Tegans Mama]

I hate it. I always take my partner with me, and as you can guess.. two women, one baby, we get stared at. And my LO has spina bifida, so she can't do some of the things the other babies can, I too feel judged so I simply don't go!! Tegan gets her stimulation frm other things, and I know that if I force myself to do something I don't want to I'll end up blowing my lid!!

 

[alio]

I hate it. I always take my partner with me, and as you can guess.. two women, one baby, we get stared at. And my LO has spina bifida, so she can't do some of the things the other babies can, I too feel judged so I simply don't go!! Tegan gets her stimulation frm other things, and I know that if I force myself to do something I don't want to I'll end up blowing my lid!!

yeah, i hate those 'forced' situations, its like job selection days when they get you in a circle and make you say your name and one interesting / 'craaaazy' fact about yourself! ah bollocks!!

when they're staring at me i want to stare back at them and say 'you think you look normal love?'

argh!! (cue: spitting feathers!)

 

[reallytinyamy]

I go to 2 different sure start centres and they are both great. SOme weeks are better than others, depends who turns up, but I love them both.

 

[UKMummy]

www.netmums.com/places/Parent_Baby_and_Toddler_Groups.437/

 

[alice&bump]

omg i hate all the women near me. i went to baby massage a few times and they're all too vain to BF and are all a lot older than me. there's one woman who's OH's like a director in a large firm, and she's somethin dead high up in another. she's getting a nanny when LO's 6 months cos she's got to go abroad to work sometimes. why have a fucking baby then??

they all look down on me cos i'm only 20 and look dead young, plus cos my OHs out of work, he always comes to weigh ins with me and stuff. i just want to meet decent people who arent going to judge me. unfortunately for me i live in a really affluent area, but i'm from one of the shit bits!! they all think i'm bad for weaning early aswell.

doesnt help that i'm really shy and just dont know what to say to them!!!

 

[Rachiebaby24]

one good thing happened at mine though....Maley has always been good on her tummy (i think its cos she sleeps on it) anyway...so i put her on the mat and one woman goes "oooh we should do tummy time" and then about 6 women turned their babies over on their tummies and they all screamed so they turned them back whilst Maley was still there on her tummy looking around......aah you shoud have seen the smug look on my face!!!! lol

Yeah my one was not worth the tea n biscuits but i wont give up.....im looking for another one or i may go one o clock club

 

[Mrs_Nesbit]

Cant STAND them tbh, but i'll have to force myself to go. The only one i could stomach was a one morning per week church playgroup, purely because the old dears that run it were lovely to get on with even if the others gave the goth bird a wide berth...lol..Everyone just seem in their own little select impenetrable group it appears.

 

[milkmachine]

im SOOOO glad im not the only one i thought i was!!

i dont think im gunna go 2mura id rather play with her in my living room.

i will seriously think about making my own baby group though!! i explored net mums a bit more and am now talking to a few people OooooOoooo lol

 

[Rachiebaby24]

are you in london??

 

[xJG30]

I don't go to them..

 

[marley2580]

I don't go to them either, not when I can just go to the park with her.

 

[Plumfairy]

Ask your Hv if there is a breastfeeding group you can go to. I went to mine on tuesday and it was just fab. Gives you something to talk about even if you know you have nothing in common with these people... Some at my class were really nice though, and atleat one was in her 20's like me, and although the rest were older it was such a friendly environment and sooo nice to see lots of boobies out. usually i try and sit in the corner and faff about trying to feed baby but this was great... The boobs were straight out!!! Hope you find some sorta group to go to. They cant all be bad. x x x

 

[claire&holly]

I actually found going to b/f support groups was a good one cause you all have something in common and i have made a few friends and even though i don't go any more keep in touch with a few of the girls.

 

[nikky0907]

I went to a mom&baby group last week and I actually loved it.

Clearly I was the youngest one but no one really treated me differently, it was very nice and made some friends

I guess it's just the matter of which one you wander into.

 

[keelykat]

bf ones are great if you bf....i don't though lol.

 

[milkmachine]

are you in london??

no milton keynes.. only a 45 min train ride if you want to meet up one day tho

 

[milkmachine]

i might try the breast feeding group before i write it off. i know the surestart play sessions for older kids are great im just not stuck on the baby groups..


i put a ad on net mums and have started talking to two mums in my area which is nice

 

[embo216]

i go to about 3 MAT groups a week and met a lot of lovely mummies on net mums. i've never had a bad experience luckily yet tho. i hope you find a nice one hun. x

 

[Emmea12uk]

Mine isnt like that at all. I'd talk to you Net mums is quite good for meeting other mums in your area. Is there no other groups around?

 

[Tilly]

I go to a normal play area with Bethanie and it's quite busy with a mix of different people. It's not so easy to meet friends there as you don't often see the same person again and again, but thats why I like it - because it's pressure free, I have a chat with people or if im not in the mood to.. I don't. I spend most of my time with Bethanie.

I've never actually been to a "mother + baby group" as i've always felt a bit put off by the fact that some people will have formed their groups and I won't fit in (feels like being at school for the first day lol) but im sure they're not all bad.. you just need a bigger mix of women.

I have taken Bethanie to an art class a few times - maybe you can try something like that? I feel that people there were more relaxed and just having a laugh together.